How to Train Your Butt to Take More Girth
Give yourself a good stretch
I’m one of those people who believes that reality almost never lives up to fantasy.
And that’s especially true with anal.
In my fantasies, anal is always easy.
Well, not too easy. It’s still a careful process. I have to be fucked slowly and gently at first. But once things get going, fantasy Emma can take a hard, fast, deep ass pounding like it was nothing.
Nothing’s ever too big for her butt, either. The dick’s always the right size and the buttplugs slip in without any trouble.
Unfortunately, real anal doesn’t usually go that perfectly.
It can still be hot as hell and incredibly pleasurable, complete with seriously mindblowing orgasms. But it takes real work to get there.
You need plenty of patience, good communication, and the right technique.
It helps to prep and practice, too.
And to take some real thickness, you’ll have to go one step further and actually train your ass.
If you want to handle more girth without discomfort, these are the steps you should take.
Start With a Warmup
When you want pussy pleasure, you don’t jump right to penetration. Not if you actually want to have a good time.
You work up to it with pussy rubs, dry humps, or enough flirting to get you wet before your panties even come off.
Your ass needs the same kind of loving treatment.
Trying to slide something in without warming it up first is going to make it harder to pull off and less enjoyable if you do. Especially if that something is thick enough to give you a decent stretch.
Start with plenty of gentle surface contact. Rub your asshole slowly and softly. Stroke the tip of your toy or the head of the dick against it. A good hotdogging totally works, too.
And if you can get your ass eaten, go for it. Getting worked over by a warm, wet tongue is perfect foreplay for penetration.
Use Proper Anal Lube
You need lubrication for anal. There’s no getting around it.
And if you’re pretty good at taking something in your butt, you can get away with whatever lube you’ve got or even a decent amount of spit. It’s not ideal, but it works.
But when you’re going thick, you’ll need the heavy duty stuff.
You’re going to need all the slickness you can get, and a good lube made specifically for anal is going to give you plenty of it.
It’s also going to last longer. That way, you can really take your time, get relaxed, and focus on enjoying the sensations instead of spending the entire time reapplying lube.
I’ve tried some great anal lubes, but my personal favorite is Sliquid Sassy. It’s thick, slick, and hasn’t let me down yet. And it’s safe for silicone toys and latex condoms, so it’s a great option no matter what you’re putting in your ass.
Work Up to It Gradually
It didn’t take me long to get really good at using my Naughty Candy Heart buttplug.
Like a lot of my sex toys, I got it because it was really cute. But it was also perfectly designed for easy penetration.
It’s fairly slim. It tapers nicely, from a tiny tip down to a thicker body. And it’s made of smooth silicone that’s firm without being too rigid.
But even after I could slip that toy inside me without much trouble, I still had a tough time taking Mr. Austin’s cock.
As much as I love that dick, it’s not exactly made for easy anal.
The head doesn’t have a slim, pointed tip - I reach the full girth pretty quickly. Because it’s attached to my husband, it’s trickier to adjust the position and find the right angle. And it’s definitely thicker than my beginner butt toys.
Which was a problem. Because as much as I love playing with my butt toys, it’s his cock I really wanted inside me.
And I got much better at taking it when I started working my way up to it.
The more I play with slightly thicker buttplugs and manageable dildos, the easier it gets for me to fit him inside me.
You should take the same approach. Whatever your anal goal is, work your way up to it gradually.
You won’t be able to go from using a beginner buttplug to taking an intimidating dick or a toy so big you get nervous just looking at it.
Instead, start with something you can use fairly easily. When you get really good at taking that, try something with a little more girth. And once you’re a pro at fitting that in your ass, keep moving up to something a bit thicker until you’re able to handle the kind of size you want.
Try Different Positions
Arching your back and giving your pelvis the right tilt makes it a whole lot easier to slide something in your ass.
Some positions make that really tricky.
Like, it’s not impossible to have missionary anal. I’ve pulled it off a few times, and it’s really satisfying when it works. But you can’t really arch your back when you’re lying on it, so that makes it a really difficult position when you’re trying to fit something thick.
Going face down, ass up is a way better choice. Resting your head and elbows on the mattress while sticking your butt up as high as you can puts your body in the perfect configuration for easy and comfortable anal.
There’s really only one problem with it. Face down, ass up opens you up beautifully, but it can still make anal tough to pull off. Putting a toy in your ass when you’re in that position takes a level of flexibility I’m not sure I have. And getting fucked in that position takes the kind of leg strength and endurance that your partner might not have.
When face down, ass up isn’t an option, you should lie on our side, arch your back, and pop your butt out. In my experience, that’s the easiest position for using buttplugs and dildos comfortably. And spooning anal is almost as good as getting pounded while your face is pressed into the mattress.
Learn to Bear Down
Bearing down is a life-changing anal hack.
And I’m still annoyed that it took me years to come across it, because I could’ve had so much more buttstuff if I knew about it sooner.
It can take a bit of practice before you get used to doing it, but it’s super simple. It’s basically reverse kegels.
When you flex your kegel muscles, it feels like you’re pulling up and tightening them. When you’re bearing down, it feels like you’re pushing those same muscles down. And instead of tightening, they loosen.
That’s exactly what you want them to do when you’re taking any kind of anal penetration. But it’s absolutely essential when you’re trying to train yourself to take more girth.
It totally helps to be mentally and emotionally relaxed when you’re doing buttstuff. But actually physically relaxing your asshole helps even more. And that’s exactly what bearing down does.
Enjoy Some Anal Entertainment
I had a lot of beginner’s luck with anal.
Not so much the first time I tried it, but definitely when I met Mr. Austin.
The first time he fucked my ass, I was practically in shock. Not just because it felt incredibly intense. Not just because it made me come - and I had no idea anal could make anyone come. But because it was so effortless.
The next few times were super easy, too. It was like his cock was perfectly built for my ass.
But then I lost it.
It just happened one day. The easy anal was gone. We struggled to even get started, as if all that practice and experience we had didn’t count for anything.
It confused the hell out of me then, but I completely get it now.
It wasn’t beginner’s luck. It wasn’t anything about his dick. I was just really horny.
Like, incredibly horny. New relationship horny. Still getting faint butterfly flutters when he says something sweet to me horny.
And I genuinely got off on impressing him. I wanted to be his perfect dirty girl, and asking him to fuck my ass as deep as he could made me feel like I was.
When the butterflies settled down, I needed something to take their place. I could still get horny, but I needed a bit of extra help to get horny enough for buttstuff.
I needed good anal porn and plenty of it.
And you’ll probably need some too if you’re going to train your ass.
Anal porn will help you get turned on, which is going to make it much easier to relax. It will get you in the mood for anal stimulation, which makes anal training way more enjoyable.
Watching hot anal action is also a constant reminder of how arousing it can be to have something in your ass. Which is really helpful because you can kind of forget that when you’re too intensely focused on moving your hips and bearing down so you can handle a challenging size.
Don’t Push It
You’re going to be pushing your ass past its limits. But that doesn’t mean you should push past discomfort.
Anal isn’t supposed to hurt. Not even a little.
In fact, that’s the whole point of doing all this - to train your ass to take more and to take it comfortably.
It’s probably going to feel intense. It’s probably going to make you feel really stretched out. But it should still feel pleasurable.
If it gets uncomfortable, it means you’re going too far and need to pull back.
You might need to slow down or give yourself a better warm up. Maybe you need to apply more lube or try a slimmer toy. Or it could be a sign that you should stop and try again another time.
Whatever you do, don’t try to push past the bad feelings. It’s never worth it.
Take the Thickness Like a Pro
I’m not a size queen at all.
And I’m definitely not one for anal.
Massive dildos have no business in my butt, and that’s perfectly okay by me.
I have zero interest in getting my ass fisted - or any part of me fisted, if I’m being perfectly honest.
And as impressive as it is, I’m going to leave the double anal to the professional buttsluts.
But it doesn’t take a lot of girth for anal to be challenging. So even though I’ll never play in the big leagues, I’m going to keep training.
Because when I get in the mood to have something in my ass, I want to be able to actually make that happen. And I want it to happen without any trouble - even if it happens to be on the thicker side.
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