6 Subtle Ways Shy Girls Initiate Sex
Guys miss most of these signs
My husband used to imply that I never initiated sex. And I found that really frustrating because I did it plenty.
Not super often or anything, but regularly enough. Almost every single time we had sex, I was the one who got things going.
But it’s like none of that registered for him.
And I know why that is. It’s because no matter what I did, he was always the one putting the moves on me.
He was the one touching me in all the right ways. He was the one who suggested we fool around and fuck. He was the one sweet talking his way into my pants.
But I was the one who invited him to do all those things. He might be the one sliding his hand into my underwear, but it started with me giving him signs that I was open to it.
I was never super explicit about it, but that’s because I’m bashful as hell. And that kind of thing is tough for a shy girl - even the really dirty ones.
I can manage it sometimes, but only when I get a random boost of confidence.
That’s when I’ll text my husband to ask him to come to the bedroom and fuck me. It’s when I tell him we should fool around later. It’s when I tell him to touch me - and that if it goes well he can touch me anywhere he wants.
That kind of thing doesn’t come naturally to me, though. So most of the time, I’ll bust out my shy girl moves instead.
They’re all really common ways of giving the green light and getting things going. They’re cute, sweet, and sexy - but also kind of subtle. Because of that, a lot of guys miss the signals completely - and they end up missing out on sex because of it.
Don’t let that happen to you. If you’re with a shy girl, here’s what you need to look out for.
The Butt Scoot
When she presses her body against yours, it doesn’t necessarily mean she wants to bang it out.
But when it does, you’ll be able to feel the difference.
If she’s pressing her whole body against yours, she probably just wants to get close. She wants you to hold her close. She wants cuddles and to feel your fingers stroking her arm or playing with her hair.
That’s not what she’s looking for when she’s smushing her butt against your crotch.
When she’s arching her back so you can feel her pressing against your dick but her shoulders aren’t pressed against your chest, that’s the signal.
If she seems like she’s trying to find every little excuse to shift her hips and practically grind against you, that’s an even stronger hint. She’s trying to get you hard so she can feel your stiff cock pressing against her ass - and she wants you to take it from there.
Chillaxing
Another shy girl move is saying two little words.
“I’m cold.”
This one could mean a few different things, too. But again, you’ll be able to tell the difference. It’s all about how she’s saying it.
If she sounds bothered or annoyed, she’s probably just complaining about the temperature.
If she’s just stating it like a plain fact, she might want you to warm her up. That’s your cue to get close to her, hold her - or at least cover her with a blanket.
But if she’s saying it a little playfully, there’s a really good chance she wants more. Especially if she seems like she’s trying not to giggle or blush.
That’s still her asking you to warm her up. It’s still her wanting you to get close under the covers with her.
But this time, it’s not just snuggles she wants. She wants you to touch her all over, play with her tits, rub her pussy - and do all the other things that will raise her temperature so much she won’t need the blanket anymore.
The Butt Pose
There’s this thing some sexually submissive women love to do. They present themselves to their partners.
They get on their knees, hands behind the back, looking up with their best doe eyes.
They arch their backs, push their asses up, and really expose themselves.
They do things to make themselves look and feel vulnerable. They make themselves look as appealing as they can. They position their bodies like they’re practically begging to get taken.
Your run of the mill shy girl won’t be going that far. But she’ll do something that’s in the same ballpark.
She’ll do the butt pose.
She’ll wait for you on the bed, lying on her front with her hips off the mattress and her butt popped up.
She’ll probably act innocent, too. Maybe she’s watching something on her laptop, playing on her phone, or reading a book. But the butt pop position isn’t for her - it’s not all that comfortable, it doesn’t feel natural, and keeping it up for a long time is a challenge.
It’s for you.
She’s presenting herself to you. She’s showing off her ass, her hips, and her curves. She’s keeping herself distracted so you can take a good, long look at her. She’s hoping you’ll notice her pussy pressing against her clothes.
But she doesn’t just want you to look. She wants you to take her.
Gently, probably. She still wants you to put the moves on her, say sweet little dirty things to her, and get her really worked up. But she’s really hoping to end up in the same exact position again - only wearing a lot less.
Putting the Ball in Your Court
If you’re asking her what she wants to do tonight and all she can say is “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” that could be your ticket to a very dirty evening.
Again, it’s all about her tone.
If she sounds exasperated, then she just doesn’t want to make a decision. If she seems indifferent, she probably wants you to narrow down the options for her.
The tone you’re looking for is coy.
When she says it in a way that sounds playful and almost flirty, that’s her challenging you to push things in a naughty direction.
She’s open to doing something dirty, but she doesn’t want to actually say it. She’s putting the ball back in your court and hoping you’ll say something flirty or suggestive that she can build on.
It can be her way of not being explicit about wanting to fuck, if she has trouble saying that sort of thing when she’s not super horny. It could be a way to protect herself from feeling embarrassed if you turn down her advances.
But it’s often just a way of getting on a good, horny wavelength with you. It encourages you to get a bit flirty. It’s an opportunity to play around and feel each other out.
And that’s part of the fun. Her being coy might be a sign that she’s open to fucking, but that little back and forth is going to really help her get in the mood.
Rubdown Requests
When I ask for a massage, sometimes I’m really just asking for sex.
It’s a perfect setup.
If I can’t get turned on and it doesn’t lead to sex, it’s still a massage. And that’s nice enough on its own.
It’s physical and intimate, even without any hanky panky.
It’s really great foreplay, too. She’s taking some clothes off, getting oiled up, and letting you rub her down. If that doesn’t put her in the mood, it’s probably because nothing could.
And you can literally just slip into the sexy stuff. If the rubdown gets her really worked up, all you have to do is run your hands a little further up her thighs and go from there.
Sometimes a massage is just a massage. But sometimes it’s a shy girl’s way of asking for more. So, make sure you always have plenty of good massage oil - it’ll come in handy.
Proposing a Porn Night
Okay, so this one’s pretty damn obvious. Asking if you want to watch porn with her is a bold move for a shy girl.
But it’s not explicitly asking for sex or showing that she wants it. And that can make enough of a difference.
There’s also a chance that she doesn’t just invite you to her all-night porn-watching spankathon.
She might insinuate that she’d be down to watch something naughty.
She might make a lot of jokes about watching smut all night, hoping that you’ll take her up on it.
She might text you the link to some ridiculous porn scene and tell you it would be funny to watch it.
No matter how she’s doing it, nudging you into a porn date is almost always a setup for you to touch her while you watch people fuck. The one thing leads to another - and she gets the hard dicking she couldn’t ask for directly.
Breathing Way Too Heavily
If you get close and touch her, you can tell how horny she is just by listening.
Normally, she’s just chill and comfy. Maybe she lets out a sweet little moan when she likes the way you’re touching her. But that’s pretty much it.
When she’s turned on, those moans get a little louder and deeper. She’s not so chill anymore - running your hands on her is enough to make her breathe harder.
And when she really wants to make sure you put the moves on her, she’s going to act like she’s practically hyperventilating as soon as your hand makes contact with her skin.
I mean, okay. Sometimes it’s real. I’ve definitely been so horny that I feel like I’m going to pass out because I can’t breathe right.
But sometimes it’s a little performative.
Like, the heavy breathing is real. It’s just that she’s playing it up a bit.
That’s not a bad thing - that’s just her way of showing you that she wants you to keep going. If she’s exaggerating, it’s because she wants you bad - and she wants to make sure you know it.
If you’re barely touching her and she’s breathing heavily, that’s your cue to do all the things that will make her breathe even harder.
Take the Hint
Horny shy girls are unsung sex heroes. Not just because they’re so damn cute and fuckable, but because they put in a lot of work to get laid.
Because they’re too bashful to just go for it, they have to drop little hints. They have to play coy. They have to set themselves up to be seduced.
And even after doing all that, their partners might still complain that they don’t initiate.
But now you know all the shy girl moves, so you can give her exactly what she needs. Some flirty, dirty praise. A good, hard fuck. And the credit she deserves for making it all happen.
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