How to Give a Woman a Happy Ending Massage
Give her the ultimate erotic experience
Sensual massages are just about perfect.
They’re soothing and calming. They leave your body feeling profoundly relaxed. You can ease into a state of pure calm.
They’re sensual and stimulating. You get touched all over your body. You feel the firm grip, the slippery smoothness of an oiled palm against your body, and then warmth of skin touching skin.
They’re intimate and erotic. All you have to do is lie there and let your partner make you feel good. They’re devoting all their energies to your body, to touching it in all the right ways.
They’re just about perfect, but there’s one thing that can make them even better.
As far as foreplay goes, it’s hard to beat a sensual massage.
It helps her clear your head, let go of stress, and get in the right mindset for sex. It releases all the tension you’re holding onto and that is keeping you from being as aroused as you could be. And it reconnects you with your partner and gives you the opportunity to think of all the other things you want them to do to you.
Hands are also a big turn-on for me. And even though we don’t talk about it a lot, I think they are for lots of women. There’s just something about a guy who knows how to use his hands.
When my husband massages me and shows me just how good he is with his hands, it makes him so much more attractive to me.
It’s a really great way to get things started.
But it’s also an incredibly satisfying way to finish things off.
A few days ago, I felt like my body was full of tension. My thighs were sore from hitting the weighted squats too hard during my workout. My back was aching from working all day at my laptop.
I was also a bit frustrated because I had lots of pent up sexual urges but I couldn’t find any time in the day to get myself off.
My husband could tell I was in rough shape and he offered me a small menu of choices for the evening.
“We could just cuddle and watch YouTube videos if you want.”
I gave that a maybe.
“Or I could give you a massage after the kids go to bed.”
Definite yes to that one.
“And if you want - no pressure or anything - I can give you a happy ending.”
Now we’re talking.
After all our responsibilities were checked off for the day, I joined him in the room he had already set up for me.
I lifted my dress off, lied down for him, and felt his hands warm me up.
It was the perfect way to end the night. Exactly what I needed after a long, frustrating day. Nothing but pure release. Emotionally connecting with the man I love. Releasing all the tension from my body. And getting to come really fucking hard.
Giving a woman a happy ending massage is a really great way to make her feel special, taken care of, and sexually satisfied.
It’s the kind of thing that can help you stand apart, because not every woman has had a night that was entirely about her pleasure. Especially not something long that she can ease into and immerse herself in all the amazing things your hands can do to her.
If you want to treat her to the ultimate sensual experience, these are the steps to do it.
Create a Soothing Atmosphere
If you’re giving her a massage at night, try to keep the lights dim.
You’ll want to see what you’re doing, but dimmer lights will make it more immersive for her. It can also help her feel less self-conscious about being completely undressed in front of you, which will help her enjoy the experience even more.
Plus, there’s just something about dim lighting that signals sex and intimacy.
If you’re giving her a massage during the daytime, don’t bother trying to dim everything. Let the sun shine through the window. Natural light bathes a room beautifully. And if the sun warms her body, that’s a really good sensation, too.
Set the room to a comfortable temperature. She’ll be naked and covered in oil, so make sure it’s really warm. You don’t want her to cut the massage short because she’s chilly.
Make sure the room smells nice, too. She’ll be lying there with her eyes closed for an extended period of time, so she’ll be acutely aware of any scents in the room.
I love scented candles for this, but you can also wear a cologne she really likes.
Sound is important, too. Total silence is okay, but I personally prefer to have soft music playing (my massage playlist is all Lana Del Rey).
Use the Right Surface
I always thought that owning a massage table would be a luxury. And I suppose it is, but it’s far more attainable than I realized.
Decent massage tables are surprisingly affordable, and because they can fold down to the size of a large suitcase, they’re quite compact and relatively easy to store.
If massages are going to be a regular part of your life and you have room for it, get a massage table. It’s effortlessly waterproof, sturdy and comfortable, and you’ll be able to walk around it so you can massage her entire body more easily.
If you don’t have a massage table, the best place is going to be your bed.
The bed totally works, but the problem is that it isn’t waterproof. A good massage involves lots of oils, and you don’t want to be stingy with it because you’re worried about your sheets.
A waterproof pad works. If you own a sex blanket, lay it out over the bed first.
Break Out the Massage Oil
You can give her a quick backrub without using massage oils. But if you want to give her a long, sensual, and arousing massage, you’ll need to use some.
Massage oil is practical because it makes massaging her a lot easier. Your hands will be a lot less tired by the end if they can glide smoothly over her skin. They reduce friction, which means she won’t get uncomfortable if you massage any part of her for too long.
But they’re also part of the whole experience. The feeling of oiled up hands running across your body is incredibly arousing. It gives the massage a great tactile element that really takes it up a notch.
Standard massage oil works really well. If you want a really simple and natural option, you can also use coconut oil or sweet almond oil.
Lube works well, too. But make sure you’re using silicone-based lube. Some water-based lubes aren’t bad but they can start to get a little tacky after being rubbed in for a while.
Massage bars are fun, too. They’re solid but they soften when rubbed. You can rub it across her body until she’s oiled up enough and then massage her with your hands.
Recently, Mr. Austin and I have started using a massage candle. That one takes a little patience and planning because you need to light it and let the flame burn for about half an hour before you can use it. But feeling the warm melted oil drip from the candle onto my skin feels so damn good it’s worth it.
Whatever you choose - and there’s no reason not to use more than one kind over the course of a massage - make sure you have a lot of it on hand. It’s okay, to get things a little wet and messy, so use as much as you need.
Go Slow - Very Slow
Set aside plenty of time so she doesn’t feel like you’re rushing through the massage.
You want to give her all the time she needs to fully relax, bask in the pleasurable sensations you’re giving her, get incredibly aroused, and work up to a really strong orgasm.
Start with a lighter touch. Rub her shoulders, her back, her thighs, and her calves. Think of it as literally warming her up - you’re not using a lot of hand strength, just letting her feel the warmth of your skin against hers.
Once you’ve rubbed down her whole body, you can start rubbing with a little more pressure. Knead her firmly to release the tension in her muscles.
Don’t move across her body too quickly. Spend time massaging one spot at a time. There’s no firm rule for this, but aim to massage one part of her body for a few minutes before massaging another one.
Work Your Way Down Her Body
There’s no set order to a massage, but a good place to start is her shoulders.
There’s a good chance she’s carrying a lot of tension there and releasing it will give her a big sense of relief. Your fingers lightly grazing her neck will also start arousing her.
From there, massage her back, starting with the shoulder blades and working down to her lower back.
Go over her back a few times and then move on to her thighs. Rub the back of her thigh and her outer thigh before massaging down to her calves.
After that, work your way back up. This time, include her ass. Massage it the way you would her back, kneading it with your hands, rubbing your palm firmly against it.
Massage her entire body a few times, making sure not to power through too quickly. You’ll get to her pussy soon enough, so there’s no need to rush.
Tease Her Pussy
When she’s fully aroused, moaning under your touch, and ready to turn up the heat, start massaging her thighs.
This time, though, give some attention to her inner thighs, too.
While you do it, make sure your hands occasionally graze her pussy.
Once you’ve teased her a bit, work her pussy into the end of your massage. Rub her thighs and her ass like you were before, but give her lips a few long rubs, too.
Stimulating her pussy and then moving your hand away to massage other parts of her body is going to intensify her horniness. All that teasing and buildup is going to create so much anticipation she’ll practically be squirming.
Pleasure Her
Once you’ve teased her to your satisfaction, start pleasuring her pussy.
Rub it softly with your fingers. You can use your other hand to hold on to her ass or grip her thigh. Or you can use it to finger her slowly.
But don’t finish her off yet. You’re working on gradually building up her pleasure. Plus, a lot of women can’t have strong orgasms from that position, so you risk giving her a smaller climax.
When you can see that she’s getting closer and you’re getting stronger reactions from her, ask her to turn over and lie on her back.
From there, you should focus on her clit. Use the fingers on one hand to spread her lips open and use your other fingers to either rub her clit directly or run your fingers around it.
Give Her an Intense Finish
You want the happy ending to be the cherry at the top of this massage. You don’t just want to make her come — you want to give her an intense, deeply satisfying orgasm.
The best way to do that is to let her build up to it gradually.
Don’t use too much pressure when you’re touching her clit, and don’t rub it too vigorously. A slow, soft touch is going to help her pleasure intensify instead of releasing it all too early.
If she needs you to press a little harder or go a little faster to actually reach a climax, that’s fine. Just make sure you start things off lightly.
The other thing you need to do to give her a really big orgasm is keep things steady. Don’t switch up what you’re doing too much. Just keep giving her the same stimulation and let her focus on it without getting distracted.
Pay attention to the cues she’s giving you - how she’s moaning, how heavy her breathing is, and all the “fucks” and “yeses” she’s uttering. When you can tell she’s getting close, don’t change a thing - keep doing exactly what you’ve been doing. Resist the temptation to speed up or go hard. If she needs that, she’ll tell you. Otherwise, what you’re doing is working so keep it up.
That kind of stimulation is your best chance at giving her a powerful orgasm, a long orgasm, and the kind of orgasm that leaves her feeling spent, tired, and well loved.
Wash Her Off
After giving her a happy ending, use a warm, wet cloth to wash the massage oils off her body. Then use a towel to dry her off.
Don’t just send her off to the bathroom to clean herself. Doing it for her is going to make her feel pampered and it’s fantastic aftercare. It lets her enjoy a few more great sensations and will make you seem more present.
That’s much better than ending things abruptly after her orgasm.
Make Her Night
A happy ending massage is a great way to treat your lady.
If you want to give her something special for a night, show your appreciation for what a great partner she is, or just give her a really satisfying experience, this is the perfect choice.
Most women love sensuality and intimacy. We also love to come. A happy ending massage gives us the best of both worlds.
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