8 Very Dirty Date Night Ideas
Plan a very naughty evening
Date nights are essential. Every couple should have them. Ideally, at least once a week.
They’re great for relationship maintenance. You get to spend some genuine quality time with your partner. It keeps your intimacy strong and helps you appreciate each other more.
They’re also really fun in a chill kind of way.
You get to stop worrying about stuff and just hang out with one of your favorite people. It can’t be beat. It’s one of the highlights of my month.
It does wonders for your sex life, too.
A date night is a really effective way to reignite your spark when you’ve been feeling disconnected from each other.
It gives you space to just be happy and present with each other. And that’s often all it takes to put you in the mood for a fuck.
But as nice as all those are, nothing beats date nights when you’re both already frisky and you know the date is just foreplay. Or even better, the date itself is an opportunity to spend the night being naughty with each other.
The spark is already there, so you could just fuck before going to sleep. But instead you make a night out of it. You get to switch things up and make things more exciting. You can make the sex even more playful than it usually is. And it gives you lots of extra time and space to do nothing but get physical with each other.
If you already feel the urge to pounce on your partner, these are some really fun date night ideas that will take advantage of your horny mood.
Turn Your Bedroom Into a Porn Theater
You could watch porn together on your laptop. That’s always entertaining and usually leads to something really hot.
But it’s so much better if you turn your bedroom into a porn theater.
All you need is a basic little projector that connects to your laptop and a blank wall. If you don’t have enough clear wall space or your wall color is too dark, you can hang a sheet instead.
Then all you have to do is find a comfortable spot where you can cuddle and watch some really hot scenes play out.
You could watch porn from tube sites or whatever, but it’s going to be even better if you find porn you can watch as a movie. That means full scenes or X-rated features instead of clips.
That way, you can hold each other and watch the story unfold instead of skipping right to the dirty bits. You can giggle at the ridiculous setup, enjoy the TV-movie-level acting performances, and get hot over the dynamic between the performers.
And when the action starts and you’re ready to get physical with each other, leaving the projector on is going to make it feel like you’re fucking at a porn concert.
If you’re really bold and up for a bit of a challenge, you can even try to imitate the action you see projected on the wall. Ending your date night by fucking like pornstars can be tiring, sometimes even a little bit awkward, but it’s always going to be hot and leave you feeling very pleased with how things went down.
Book a Hotel Room and Pack Your Sex Blanket
I don’t know about you, but I find hotel sex incredibly exciting.
It gives you a break from your usual space and you can fuck in a bed that isn’t yours.
It’s also completely private but has a slightly public vibe. You’re behind a locked door but you’re also in a commercial establishment and that makes it weirdly thrilling.
And it’s incredibly care-free. There’s not much to do in a hotel room other than fuck. There are no chores to do. No cleaning to worry about. Nothing.
If you’re with the right person, you can turn that room into your own personal sex oasis.
Pack your waterproof sex blanket so you don’t have to worry about how messy you’re being in a rented bed. Bring any lubes and sex toys you’ll want to use. Bring some lingerie to spice things up, some costumes for roleplaying, or just spend the entire night feeling naked and free.
Just don’t bother bringing along a lot of other things to do because you’ll mostly be doing each other. Well, that and ordering takeout when you need a break to recover from all the banging.
Buy New Sex Toys and Try Them All in One Night
Getting a package full of new sex toys is really fucking exciting.
Being able to use them all at once is even more fun.
You can surprise each other with new toys. You can each get something new for yourselves and go at it. You can shop together and plan a whole sexy night.
All that matters is that you have some new things to play with and that you use them on each other.
It can be any kind of sex toy, but it’s even more exciting if it’s something completely different than the toys you already own.
You could finally try a wand and see how it compares to the smaller vibrators you’re used to. Or get an app-controlled vibrator for some fun power exchange. It could be a buttplug to add some assplay to your night or maybe even explore a little double penetration.
If you don’t own a dildo, this is a good opportunity to get one. Having your partner use one on you is so fucking fun and even opens you up to some really satisfying threesome roleplay.
A thrusting dildo is even better. It’s hands-free fucking that can be as gentle or hard as you want it to be.
Getting a beginner bondage kit can be really fucking fun, too, if that’s something you’re both interested in. Most of them come with a blindfold and restraints. Sometimes there’s a little extra like a tickler or a paddle. If you’re at all curious about kink, it’s the perfect way to find a new way to play.
Whatever you get, just make sure you charge all the toys ahead of time so that they don’t die on you while you’re halfway through an orgasm. Everyone learns that the hard way, but being prepared means you won’t get disappointed on date night.
And make sure to get toys to pleasure his cock, too.
I know a lot of guys still don’t use sex toys, but your sexy date night is not a time to hold back on the pleasure. He should get to enjoy lots of extra stimulation, too.
There are so many different strokers you can use on him.
I love pocket pussies and pocket asses. They have some pretty realistic designs on them and watching his cock thrusting into a wet vulva or tight asshole is very arousing.
But less realistic toys are amazing, too. I love the way Tenga strokers are designed. Instead of looking like pussy lips or puckered assholes they just look like fun squishy things.
Tenga Eggs are basically perfect for enhancing a handjob and making it still feel like he’s getting jerked off. But more complex strokers like the Tenga Flip will give way more stimulation, so those are really fun to play with too.
Have a Flavored Lube Tasting Party
If you want a really fun and playful night with lots and lots of oral action, you can buy a bunch of flavored lubes and have a two-person lube tasting party.
Try licking different lubes off each other. Even after you’ve tasted one, keep licking and sucking a bit longer so you both get lots of oral action.
And if you want to turn it into a game, you can have whoever is giving oral try to guess the flavor.
My personal favorite flavored lubes are the three flavors in the Jo Candy Shop line. I also love the Jo Gelato flavored lubes, especially the mint chocolate one. Sliquid Swirl lubes are very tasty, too.
But you can try whatever sounds good to you. All that matters is that you get enough variety to keep the oral action going all night - or at least as long as your jaw can take it.
Try Out a Sex Game
Playing a sex game is a really fun way to have a naughty night.
Basically, you’re committing to doing some sexy stuff, but you’re letting the game take the lead.
You can play a board game, or roll some naughty dice, but basically the result is that it’s going to decide who does what to who.
I personally have a bit of a hard time with some sex games because I find it really off-putting to do certain things when I’m not in the mood for it. Rolling the dice and giving a blowjob when I’m not in a dick-sucking mood would turn me off. Getting my ass eaten when I’m only mildly horny because that’s what the game said is also less than ideal.
That’s why I prefer question-based games. And if you or your partner have the same kind of hesitations I do, they’re a really good way to keep the sexual energy high without feeling like you’re being pushed out of your comfort zone.
You’ll still get plenty of action, though. Asking each other all sorts of very dirty questions about your fantasies and your preferences isn’t just going to get you in the mood to fuck - it’s probably going to make you want to fuck in an even dirtier way than you normally do.
Pamper Each Other Sexually
You could also lean into the more sensual stuff by setting an entire night for sexual pampering.
Set the mood with candles and dim lighting.
Take a bubble bath together and go all out. Use bath bombs to add some pleasant scents and make your skin feel smoother. Get sudsy and enjoy the way it feels to touch each other’s soapy skin.
You can start or end the night with a long, relaxing sensual massage. Use lots of oil to make it feel really fucking good. And if you want to make it extra hot, finish it off with a happy ending.
My favorite way to do a sensual night, though, is with a pussy massage and a cock massage.
A pussy massage is kind of like fingering, except it’s less about giving an orgasm and more about exploring sensations, focusing on lots of subtle pleasures, and fully being in the moment.
A cock massage has different techniques but it’s basically the same. It’s like a slower, longer, more sensual version of a handjob. It’s a bit more playful and exploratory.
And even though pussy and cock massages aren’t technically about the orgasm, they’re so much more fun when you get to come at the end. And because there’s so much buildup, anticipation, and stimulation, the orgasm is usually incredibly strong and deeply satisfying - which is a perfect way to cap off a dirty date night.
Have a Mutual Masturbation Evening
Mutual masturbation is basically just the both of you masturbating together. It sounds like a compromise, but I promise you it doesn’t feel like one.
It’s really fucking hot to hear and watch your partner lose themselves in their own pleasure. Masturbating together is also deeply intimate. And it’s still doing something sexual together.
It’s also perfect for date nights that don’t quite line up with your mood. My sex drive is finnicky. It spooks easily. So, there are lots of times when I have a hard time getting it up for sex but I have no problem getting myself off. Mutual masturbation lets me do something hot with my husband even if I only have the energy to jill off.
But because it’s date night, you should go all out. Don’t just rub one out quickly - take your time and make it as elaborate as you want.
You can watch some porn that turns both of you on. It could be MILFy family roleplay, scenes with tons of butt stuff, or silly stuck porn. Just make sure it’s something you both love getting off to.
Or you can give each other a bit of a show. Focus on your own pleasure still, but there’s nothing wrong with showing off a little.
Bring out all the toys and lube you feel like using and then go at yourself.
Try to make it last. Instead of coming as quickly as you can, enjoy the moment. This is your dirty night together, so even if you know how to make yourself come in two minutes with your favorite clit sucker, prolong the self-love and make the most out of it.
Make Some Porn
As someone who likes filming porn for a hobby, I can tell you that it’s a lot harder than it looks.
I mean, filming some porn is easy. It’s making good porn that’s really fucking hard.
But filming yourselves fucking and fooling around is still a very good date night activity. Because as challenging as it can get, it’s also a whole lot of fun.
It makes having sex a little more playful. Being filmed also makes you feel like a real dirty girl, which can make it very exciting. It encourages you to show off for the camera and that means you’ll fuck more enthusiastically, moan more loudly, and talk dirtier.
In other words, you’ll have much better sex.
And the fact that you have to stay in your shot, get the angles right, and make sure your lighting is good is actually going to be kind of fun. It makes you look at the way you fuck a bit differently and challenges you to try new things and new positions.
If it all goes really well, you’ll have a sex tape you can revisit when either of you is in the mood to get off to some very personal porn.
Get Close
Dirty date nights are really fucking fun and they’ll keep your sex life from getting into a rut.
You can use one of these ideas or come up with your own. It doesn’t really matter. All that counts is that you do is set some time aside to give yourselves an entire night where you do nothing but enjoy each other’s bodies, give each other pleasure, and fuck like you had just met.
It’s going to make you feel really close, strengthen your intimacy, and you’ll get to come really fucking hard. It doesn’t get any better than that.
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