4 Things That Will Excite Your Foreplay Lover (And Get You Laid)

This is how you get in her pants

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If you’re a horny husband, there’s a good chance you’re in a tough spot.

After however many years of marriage, you’re still brimming with all sorts of sexy thoughts about your darling.

You’ve had your ups and downs. You’ve been through a lot together. But never once did you lose an ounce of affection for that ass.

You’re intimately familiar with every little detail of her body, but seeing her naked is still a total thrill.

Thinking about her is enough to make you want to love her hard. Really fucking hard. Deep, too.

You’re bubbling up with red hot desires, which is great honestly. And if you’ve hit the spicy marriage jackpot, your sweetie is going to be down for it on the regular.

Not likely, though. Mismatched sexual desire is pretty damn common. So you’re probably one of the many horny husbands who is paired up with a not so horny wife.

And there’s also a good chance you’ve tried to do something about that. Because you’re a dude, and dudes love troubleshooting.

That’s usually the start of a long struggle. You do your research and experiment with a few things - anything that might get her in the mood. But it’s not really getting you anywhere.

Obviously, there could be all sorts of reasons for that. And a big one might be that you’re trying to get her jazzed up for sex when sex just isn’t that exciting to her.

Foreplay is.

That’s what it’s like for me anyway. And I know a lot of women are the same.

I love a good fuck as much as the next lady, but it’s not always the biggest part of my fantasies. When I’m horny for something, it’s usually the things that lead to me getting banged - not the banging itself.

That’s why I can turn down sex very easily. But I’ll always hesitate before turning down a nice, long pussy rub.

I want the intense pleasure that comes with full-blown sex. I want orgasms so strong they obliterate every single thought in my head. But it’s tension and anticipation that actually makes me crave it.

If you’re a pent up horny husband, that’s how you should approach it. Not getting her worked up for sex, but getting her excited for really hot foreplay. And I’ve got just the things that will help you get her there.

Sizzling Hot Massage Porn

Porn is one of my favorite ways to get in the mood. It’s perfect for getting hot and bothered when I’m not quite there.

But there’s lots and lots of porn out there, and it doesn’t all work the same way.

There are plenty of really hot clips that are just good old fashioned fucking, sucking, and licking. I can totally get myself off to those if I’m already turned on. But they’re usually way too abrupt to put me in a sexy mood.

Porn with passion is good if I’m halfway there. Even if there’s not much setup and the sex starts quickly, that’s all I need.

But a lot of times, I need something with way more lead up. I need something that really emphasizes the foreplay - a scene where the performers don’t hesitate to touch each other but really take their time before going for the naughty bits.

And I’m guaranteed to get that when I watch massage porn.

The setups are always a little different.

It’s a friendly rubdown that gets more than friendly as it goes on. It’s a massage therapist deciding that their client is so tense that a happy ending is the only way for them to really relieve tension. It’s a naked nuru massage that goes exactly where you think it would in a porn scene.

Image from “Four Hands Are Better Than Two” by Nuru Massage

But the one thing they all have in common is that they’re slow and sensual.

Before the dirty stuff, you get massage oil rubdowns on glistening skin. Smooth, gliding, full contact massages with bodies covered in nuru gel. Just a hell of a lot of touching.

It’s visually satisfying. It’s a sensual, tactile experience that you can enjoy vicariously.

And it smoothly shades into the naughty stuff. The backrub eventually becomes a well-lubricated pussy massage. The naked nuru massage becomes a very wet and slippery handjob. Then it ends with some really hot fucking.

If you want to get your foreplay lover something that will consistently turn her on, this is it. I personally recommend Fantasy Massage because it’s full of great massage porn and it gets updated regularly, so it’s the gift that keeps on giving.

And if it works, she’ll probably start asking you for more massages - and they’re probably going to have some extremely happy endings.

Bijoux Boxes

I’ve got a dresser drawer full of lubes and gels. But I still get super fucking excited when I get to try new ones.

Because I know when I bust them out, it’s going to be a really good time.

A few drops of good lube makes pussy rubbing and clit stroking even more stimulating than it already is. Tasty flavored lubes make giving a slow, loving blowjob even more fun. Arousal gels are going to make me warm and tingly in all the right places.

Those are the things that really put me in the mood for fucking.

And I definitely feel that way when I get a package from Bijoux Indiscrets.

I get boxes with sex toys on the regular, and sometimes there are a few lubes in them for a little extra fun.

But it’s the opposite with Bijoux because they’re really focused on all the little bottles and tubes of stuff that make foreplay extremely pleasurable.

The first thing I got from them was their Slow Sex Experience Box, which felt like it was designed to get me excited for fooling around.

There were massage gels that guarantee you’re going to start things slow and sensual.

There were lubes designed specifically for fingering, buttstuff, and nipple play. That alone is enough to give you plenty of naughty ideas.

The Mouthwatering Spray and cooling oral sex strips encourage a whole lot of sloppy action.

It’s all incredibly fun stuff, and digging through the box was enough to make me want to lay out the waterproof sex blanket and see where the night takes me.

And it wasn’t a fluke. It happened again with the other boxes I got.

That’s why getting a bunch of great lubes and sexy gels works so well. It gets her thinking about all the ways she’d love to use them. And because it’s all ways to enhance foreplay, she knows she’ll get to play the way she really wants to.

The Kiss Me / Fuck Me Series

So, I’m going to go ahead and confess something.

There’s not a whole lot of kissing in my marriage.

Like sure, there are some fleeting kisses. A few seconds of lip locking now and then. When we’re fucking, we might even do it for a whole uninterrupted minute.

But that’s pretty much it.

Which is fine by me because there’s still tons of affection. We can get really handsy and physical with each other. And when we want to use our mouths to show each other some love, it’s with sweet compliments - well, that or blowjobs and pussy eating.

It’s not because I’m down on kissing, though. Very much the opposite.

Making out is hot as hell. It’s incredibly passionate. It conveys almost as much desire and horniness as dry humping does.

But I don’t know, it just feels kind of silly to have extended makeout sessions with my husband at this point.

And lots of people feel that way. Even if your lady’s a big foreplay fan, she doesn’t have the overpowering new relationship energy that drives those endless makeout sessions.

But there’s a good chance it still turns her on - a lot. And that means she’d really be into Kiss Me / Fuck Me.

I’m sure you already figured it out from the title, but it’s porn with a big emphasis on locking lips. Everyone’s mouths are busy the whole way through, and not just when they’re going down on each other.

Image from “Cabin Coitus” by Kiss Me / Fuck Me

All that kissing creates extra sexual tension. It helps you really feel the chemistry between the performers.

And if her spank bank is full of makeout memories, it’s going to help her relive some of that thrill.

The Lovense Lush

The Lush is one of my biggest low libido secret weapons.

Porn is what I use the most to get myself turned on. Arousal oils are a really fun way to give my desires a little boost. Sensual massages that might go one way or another are great when I’m sexually undecided.

But it’s the Lush that makes me the horniest.

It’s a wearable sex toy that gives fantastic internal vibrations. It’s also app-controlled and can be used at any distance.

I got it because I wanted a remote controlled toy that actually worked well. I also saw couples playing around with it on Pornhub and it looked like a very good time.

I figured it would be stimulating. But I didn’t anticipate just how fucking arousing it would be.

Giving control over to Mr. Austin means he can tease me with vibrations. Every buzz is a really big turn on because I don’t see it coming. And the fact that he’s basically in charge of my pleasure creates a power dynamic that just works for me.

But I don’t even need him.

Don’t get me wrong, I love putting him in charge and letting him pleasure me through his phone. But doing it to myself still gets me extremely turned on.

And that’s mainly what the Lush is for me now. It’s not really a toy I use to get off - it’s the one I use to put myself in a really horny mood.

If that’s something your lady has a hard time with, playing with the Lush might just give her the intense arousal she craves.

Set Her Up With Some Sexy Stuff

There are tons of things you can do to try to get your lady in the mood for fucking.

But the really nice thing about great porn, stuffed sexy gift boxes, and stimulating sex toys is that it leaves it all up to her. They’re all things she can use on her own or make plans to use with you.

As someone with a low sex drive, I can tell you that makes a huge difference. Because it puts less pressure on her to get turned on and fool around.

Instead, she has everything she needs to turn a little frisky mood into some full-blown horniness. That might not get you laid every single time, but it’s definitely going to improve your chances.

And deep down, that’s all a horny husband wants.

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