How to Finger Her Better
Make her quiver and come
Fingering doesn’t get enough love.
That’s just not fair. I love pussy eating as much as the next gal, but you can’t hit the G-spot with your tongue. And unless you’re in a threesome you can’t get eaten out while making out.
Fingering’s not just an inferior alternative to oral sex. It’s not just a warm up for something better. It’s a way to give your lady some unique sensations that you can’t give her with any other part of your body.
Oh, and it happens to be the most reliable way to make her squirt. If that’s a skill you want to master, you’ll need to get really good with your hands.
What I really love about fingering, though, is the precision.
Not just the fact that you can stimulate different parts of the pussy, but that you can control the way you do it. You can go nice and slow or be so vigorous that your arm gets sore. You can make big movements or more subtle ones. You can be gentle or add some pressure.
That’s why fingering can sometimes be the best way to give your lady the exact kind of pleasure she needs - without overstimulating her sensitive clit.
But that’s easier said than done. Fingering is pretty damn easy - you just touch her pussy and stick your fingers inside her. But good fingering takes some skill and finesse.
Some of that is just hands-on and fingers-in experience. Some of it is getting to know your partner’s pussy and what kind of stimulation it needs. But the rest is technique.
So, here are some of the moves that will improve your fingering game.
Make Her G-Spot Appear
The fact that she has a G-spot makes it sound like it’s just sitting there, waiting for your fingers.
It’s not.
I mean, yeah, it’s there. But most of the time, it’s not the super awesome pleasure zone we all know and love.
It only becomes that when she’s fully aroused. Until then, it’s just a regular degular patch of super sensitive tissue.
And not sensitive in the fun way, but in the way that makes it uncomfortable to be touched.
That’s something a lot of people don’t realize, and it’s responsible for a lot of bad fingering - including my worst fingering experience.
It was in the front seat of a guy’s car. He was bragging about how quickly he could make me come. And I kind of wanted to impress him, so I decided to let him try to impress me.
He undid my pants, slid his hand into my underwear, and jabbed his fingers into my pussy.
He did the move - the one where you crook your fingers and do that come hither motion. But instead of getting the fast orgasm he promised me, it just felt incredibly uncomfortable.
He was trying to stimulate a G-spot that wasn’t ready for stimulation, so it went nowhere - and I never spent another evening in his passenger seat.
That’s why your first fingering move shouldn’t actually be fingering at all. It should be all the things you can do to make her horny, make her really wet, and prep her G-spot for pleasure.
And I mean really horny. The more turned on she is and the more blood is flowing to every part of her pussy, the better everything will feel.
If she’s only partially aroused, you can still have lots of fun. And you can probably make her feel great with your fingers. But if you’re going to make her feel amazing, that’s going to take some full arousal.
If she’s already independently super horny, that’ll be easy. If you’ve been playing dirty little games with remote controlled sex toys, she’s probably ready for you to do anything to her. But if things are just starting to get heated up, make sure you get her so worked up that you can hear it in her breathing.
The Perineal Sponge Is Hotter Than It Sounds
You know you’ve got to stimulate her clit. You know you’ll get bonus points for hitting her G-spot really well too.
But if you want more fancy fingering moves, you should also know how to hit her PS-spot.
That stands for the perineal sponge. I know, it’s not the sexiest name - but the sounds she’ll make when you stimulate it will make up for that.
It’s another sensitive spot in her pussy and it’s basically on the opposite side of the G-spot.
That’s really convenient because all you have to do to find it is turn your fingers the other way around.
If you want to hit her G-spot when she’s lying on her back, you have to slide two fingers insider her and crook them upward - the same direction she’s facing.
For the PS-spot, you do the same thing but bend your fingers in the opposite direction - like you were pointing them toward her ass instead of her bellybutton.
If she’s turned on and ready for it, it’s going to feel really good. And not just because stimulating any part of her pussy feels good - she’ll be able to tell the difference when you hit.
It’s not quite as pleasurable as really good G-spot stimulation. It’s enough to make me come but less sensitive ladies might not be able to climax through it.
But it’s a good way to switch things up, make your fingering less predictable, and give her a different kind of pleasure.
Plus, it’ll show her that you know her body really well - and that is really fucking hot.
Don’t Stuff Her
Inserting one finger at first is a good rule of thumb - or rule of index finger, I guess.
If she’s super wet, she can almost certainly take two - and love it. But it’s still a good idea to work up to it. That way, you can make sure she’s comfortable before you give her more.
Two fingers is usually better than one. But you probably don’t need to add any more than that.
Using your middle and index finger at the same time gives you more reach. It helps you hit any spot you want to hit. Adding even one more finger is going to mess with your dexterity and make it harder to give her the kind of internal stroking she wants.
Two fingers also helps her pussy feel nice and full without making it feel stuffed. With three or more fingers, you risk making her feel stretched out in an unpleasant way.
There’s a few exceptions, though.
If she loves feeling stuffed and stretched, then go for it. Give the girl what she wants, whether it’s three or four fingers.
If she’s into being fisted, then by all means go way beyond the two finger mark. Go wrist deep and drive her wild.
And again, sometimes it’s worth doing things just for the variety and the novelty. If she’s used to all your two finger moves, working a third one in every now and then can be a pleasant surprise.
But in almost every situation, two fingers is going to be your best bet. It’s easy, comfortable, and almost always more pleasurable than using more.
Play on the Shallow End
Pussies are kind of like cocks. There are a lot of parts you can stimulate, but all the most sensitive ones are right at the front.
Handjobs are better when she doesn’t spend the entire time touching your shaft and gives your head, the crown where it meets the shaft, and your frenulum plenty of attention.
It’s the same thing with her pussy. You can try to cram your fingers as deep as you can, but it’s way better if you focus on all her pleasure spots instead.
The best ones are on the surface level - her inner lips and her clit. And the G-spot isn’t that far inside her.
Don’t tire yourself out or put her pussy through its paces by trying to get as much of your fingers inside her as you can. All the best parts are in walking distance.
The only exception is the cervix. Not every woman enjoys cervical stimulation. Not everyone can have cervical orgasms. But if she’s receptive to it, they can be incredibly intense and overpower her with pleasure.
Giving her a cervical climax is going to take some work, though. Not just because you have to make sure she’s super aroused for it but because the cervix is really deep in there. It’s probably still within reach, but you’ll probably need to go down to the knuckles to stimulate it.
If you’re struggling to do it, it’s really not a big deal. You can get her off extremely well by pleasuring all her other sensitive spots.
Get the Pacing Right
Jackhammer sex can feel really fucking good, but it’s not always the right way to fuck a lady.
It’s the same with fingering. Going fast and hard can be exactly what makes her howl and grip the sheets. But most of the time, rapid-fire fingers is going to be too much of the wrong kind of stimulation.
Instead of giving it everything you’ve got, play around a little. Try out different speeds and rhythms and see how she responds to them.
Until she’s ready to come anyway. When you can tell she’s nearing her climax, stick to the same speed and rhythm. Don’t change a damn thing - just give her the same, steady stimulation so she can ride it to an orgasm.
That’s another reason for sticking to a more manageable speed and force. It’s hard to keep a steady rhythm when you’re pounding her with your fingers. You’re a lot more likely to get tired out before you can make her come.
Remember that it’s not how fast and hard you can finger her that’s going to impress her. It’s how well you make her come. And you can do that at a much more comfortable pace.
Activate Her Geiser Mode
Some guys put a lot of importance in making a girl squirt. To them, it’s the ultimate move. It’s confirmation that she’s having mindblowing orgasms - so mindblowing that she loses control of her body and gushes.
Well, it’s not. Squirting orgasms aren’t always the best or the strongest ones. And women don’t tend to care about squirting as much as guys care about making them.
But still, it’s really fucking cool. And as long as there’s a really good sex blanket laid out, the messiness can be fun and kind of hot.
Making her squirt isn’t the be all and end all of good fingering, but it’s still a good move to have. And it’s pretty simple too.
You start with the basic G-spot fingering move - slide two fingers in her pussy and crook them so they’re touching her G-spot. But instead of rubbing that spot, you’re going to tap it.
To do that, you’re going to keep your fingers steady and move your wrist instead. That way, your hand rocks up and down and your fingertips are hitting into her G-spot.
That’s it. That’s all there really is to it.
It might not always work. Some girls squirt more easily than others. It helps if she bears down when she’s coming, too. But it’s the best way to improve your odds of giving her an extremely wet orgasm.
Don’t Let Her Clit Get Lonely
Just because your fingers are inside her, it doesn’t mean you can’t pleasure her clit at the same time.
In fact, she might be secretly hoping you do.
Because internal stimulation feels very good and clit stimulation feels really fucking good. But blending them together really turns up the pleasure.
You can do that with one hand by rubbing your palm against her pussy or stroking your thumb on her clit while your fingers are inside her. I’m actually really partial to that kind of thing. There’s something about it that seems so capable and skilled - it turns me on every time.
It’s probably easier to rub her with your other hand.
You can also lick her clit while fingering her. That’s a combo that almost any woman absolutely loves.
And of course, there are sex toys. Fingering her while vibrating her clit is pretty much a guaranteed way to make her come hard.
All the Internal Pleasure She Wants
Most women come easier from clit stimulation. Even if they can come from internal pleasure, a lof of them stil prefer a more clitty climax.
But that doesn’t mean you should neglect her G-spot and all the other sensitive parts of her pussy.
She’s going to want to feel you inside her.
She’s going to want you to make those deeper parts of her feel really fucking good.
She’s going to want your fingers to prepare her and make her want your cock.
And you should make it count. There’s nothing hotter than a guy who’s good with his hands. So pull out your best moves and leave her impressed and satisfied.
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