The 4 Hottest Versions of the Spooning Position
Never let anyone tell you it’s a boring way to bang
So, I’ve got a little confession to make.
I talk a whole lot about variety and how it makes sex way more fun.
And don’t get me wrong, it totally does. Getting in more sex positions, using more toys, busting out extra moves - it all makes it super exciting.
But sometimes, I give up on the variety and I stick to one thing the whole way through.
Well, most of the way through. There still has to be some good foreplay first. I still have to get all worked up and fully aroused. And I usually need an orgasm or two.
But then if the dick is hitting real good, I sometimes stay in the same position until I’m all fucked out and ready for some aftercare.
And when that happens, it’s almost always when we’re spooning.
Because spoonfucking is like keeping your socks on during sex - something about it just feels right.
There are so many things to love about it.
Like how it’s really intimate without being way too intimate - there’s no prolonged eye contact when you’re both facing the same way.
I get to be the little spoon. That makes me feel taken care of, and that’s a feeling that really turns me on.
And I’m not going to get overheated the way I might when I’m taking it in missionary. Which is kind of a big deal when I’m doing it on a memory foam mattress that likes to suck in the heat and shove it right back at me.
I also love how versatile it is.
It doesn’t sound like it would be - you’re just lying down side by side and fucking. But when you play around with it, you discover so many great ways to have fun in the spooning position.
These are my personal favorites.
Clit-Focused Fucking
The thing I love the most about spooning sex is that you both have easy access to everything.
Mr. Austin can fuck me while playing with my tits, squeezing my hip, or grabbing my hair. But more importantly, he can pleasure my clit.
It’s not the only position you can do when you want to add clit stimulation, but it’s got to be the easiest and most intuitive one. All he has to do is reach down and rub my pussy while he’s fucking it, and that’s so fucking satisfying. It’s some of the best stimulation a girl can get.
That makes it a great position for using toys, as long as they’re not too precise. Because it’s tough to get a visual on the pussy when you’re fucking it from the back, it doesn’t work well for vibrators that are meant to pinpoint the clit.
But you don’t really need to see what you’re doing to use a wand. They all have big, smooth vibrating surfaces, so he can just hold one to my clit while giving me some nice, deep thrusts.
Pussyjobs are another great way to pamper the clit while spooning.
Technically, that’s not fucking - if his cock’s stroking along my pussy, it means he’s not actually inside me. But it’s a way to get pussy pleasure from a dick, so it’s close enough.
You don’t get the extra pressure you can get from a missionary pussyjob. You don’t get the feeling of being in charge like when you straddle him and glide your pussy along his shaft. But Mr. Austin has pretty good dick control when he’s doing it from the spooning position so it always feels incredible.
I believe there should be almost constant clit stimulation during sex. And the spooning position really encourages that, so I’m a big fan.
The Lazy Doggy
Spooning’s not the only fun way to get banged from behind.
There’s face down, ass up, which is a great option for when you’re feeling a bit naughty and want some serious pleasure.
And of course, you’ve got your classic doggystyle. All you have to do is get on your knees, give your back a slight arch, and you’re ready to enjoy a hard, intense fuck that will make you want to shout the filthiest things you can think of.
It feels amazing, but it looks like a lot of work if you’re on the giving end.
The guy pounding into your sweet puss has to brace and balance himself, work his hips so hard it engages his core, and pump so fast he’ll be working up a sweat before you’re even close to coming.
That’s one of the reasons I like to do it sideways sometimes.
Lazy doggy is basically spooning sex, only at a different angle. Specifically, a 90 degree one. The same one you’d be in if you were on your knees and he was hitting it from the back - except you’re both flat on your sides.
That might not sound like a big change, but you can really feel the difference. And it’s closer to doggy than you might expect - complete with fast and hard fucking, good depth, and that super satisfying way his body smacks into yours.
He can give it to you without using up as much energy. That means he won’t need to tap out before you’re done or start varying his speed so he can pace himself - he can just fuck and fuck without turning it into a high intensity workout.
Spooning Buttstuff
If I have to pick my number one position for anal, it’s going to be face down, ass up for sure.
It makes penetration easy and comfortable. It helps you take it deep, which is perfect for girls like me who really love anal with a good thrust.
I’m also really into prone bone anal. That one’s not as easy, but I get really turned on by the idea of just lying there while my husband lies on top of me and pounds my ass as hard as he can.
So I guess that makes spooning anal my number three.
But it might be the one I do the most often.
Partly, that’s because you can have such a natural progression when you’re doing spooning buttstuff.
I can start with a butt scoot when our clothes are still on - pressing my ass against his hard-on to get things going.
When he pulls down my undies, he can give me a nice assjob by sliding his cock between my cheeks. That’s not the kind of thing that will make me come, but it will definitely tease my asshole and make me want him inside me.
And when it’s time to lube up and get fucking, he’s in a position that gives him plenty of control. He can place the tip of his cock against my asshole, make subtle shifts to his angle, and slide it in as slowly as can be. No risk of slipping or accidentally going too deep too fast - just him taking his time and paying attention to my reactions.
I’ve got a lot of control from that position, too. When I’m face down and sticking my ass up in the air, he’s the one taking the lead and I’m at the mercy of his cock. But when we’re spooning, I can shift my hips to adjust the angle or push my butt back to take him deeper.
I know I talked about clit stuff already, but that’s definitely a perk for this too. Having him slowly rub my pussy while he’s fucking my ass is so intensely pleasurable that I can barely put it into words.
Fair and Square 69
I don’t 69 all that often.
Getting my pussy eaten can be kind of distracting, to the point where I keep forgetting to suck him off.
When I do manage to stay focused and keep my mouth on his cock, it’s too arousing. I end up coming too quickly instead of getting to fully enjoy the way his tongue feels against my lips and clit.
And there’s really no good way to decide who’s going to be 6 and who’s going to be the 9.
If he’s on top, it’s less of a blowjob than a facefuck. And it’s a facefuck where it’s too easy for him to unintentionally hit my gag zone.
It’s better with me on top, but that’s got its own issues. I’m a big girl, so I try not to smother him - even though he claims to be down for it. But it’s way easier for me to concentrate on that when I’m not slobbering all over his shaft.
At least that problem is easy to fix. Because no one has to be on top if you’re 69ing from the spooning position - it’s always fair and square.
Neither of you will get the semi-facesitting experience by doing it this way. But you can both use your best mouth moves and have some fantastic mutual oral.
I’m a Little Spoon for Life
When you hear people mentioning sex positions, you’ll notice a pattern.
Doggystyle gets talked about in glowing terms, which is totally understandable.
Missionary often gets a bad rap, which is completely unfair.
And spooning usually doesn’t get mentioned at all. Which is a damn shame, because spooning is such a handy way to get it on.
It makes sex more comfortable without sacrificing any of the pleasure.
It opens you up to so many more types of stimulation other than just having a dick thrusting in you.
It’s intimate, passionate, and surprisingly versatile.
I consider it a basic and essential position. And I really hope most people are having plenty of spooning sex, even if it never seems to come up. Otherwise, they’re seriously missing out.
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