How to Have Better Sex on a Memory Foam Mattress
Don’t let good sleep get in the way of a great bang
I take my sleep very seriously, so I’m pretty fussy about mattresses.
Ideally, it should be a cross between a cloud and a marshmallow. It should have a soft sink that takes my shape and cradles the contours of my body while I drift off to dreamland.
Nothing too firm - preferably, no firmness whatsoever. And definitely no lumps, not even slightest ones. I will still notice every single one of them, Princess and the Pea style.
That leaves me with only one option. It’s memory foam all the way, baby.
And it’s done me real good.
My mattress makes me feel like I dragged one of those super comfy hotel beds into my room. Lying on it is like taking a few milligrams of melatonin.
I don’t always sleep like a baby, but it’s never because of the fluffy surface I’m lying on.
That fluff has also done me dirty, though.
Turns out memory foam is a blessing and a curse. Because all that pillowy goodness might be great for sleep, but it’s terrible for sex.
I mean, it’s still doable. You can fuck your brains out on memory foam. And you might as well, since you’re well rested and full of energy.
But it does make it trickier.
First, there’s the sink.
When you’re fucking, it feels less like a soft hug and more like some very timid quicksand.
It’s only a shallow dip, but it’s enough to make missionary feel like I’m getting pounded into the mattress - and not in a good way. My hips drop lower and the angle of penetration gets messed up.
The thrusting is shallower. The sex is less intense. It’s still good, but you just know it could be better.
There’s no bounce, either. The foam just absorbs all the energy you pump into it and doesn’t give any of it back. That’s fine if you’re just chilling, but it means you have to put in more effort to fuck and keep a good thrusting rhythm.
And those two problems make cowgirl sex a real chore. My knees press into the mattress, which puts my body in an awkward position that makes riding tougher than it already is. And it’s harder to bounce on a dick when the mattress isn’t giving you any help at all.
The edges of the bed are especially challenging. They don’t stay firm and angled - they dip and warp with the slightest pressure. Which really blows because the edge of the bed is where a lot of the best stuff happens.
Getting bent over it and pounded gets two big thumbs up from me. Same with lying at the edge while Mr. Austin stands next to the bed and fucks me. It’s a really good spot to get on my knees and suck him off.
All fantastic, hot action that’s not nearly as it should be because the damn edges of my mattress folds over at the mere sight of a butt.
And if that wasn’t enough, memory foam also absorbs more heat. So you’re way more likely to get too hot and sweaty when you’re banging it out - especially since you have to work harder to get a good fuck thanks to the material under your bodies.
So yeah, it’s a real cockblocker of a mattress.
But I’m never going back. I’m all about that memory foam life now.
That doesn’t mean I’m settling for worse sex, though. I’ve figured out a few workarounds so I never have to choose between great action and a deep sleep.
Get Fucked From Behind
Memory foam is going to screw you in any position. But it’s worse when you’ve got someone on top and someone on the bottom.
Missionary. Cowgirl. Reverse cowgirl. Probably piledriving too, but I can’t vouch for that one. They’re all way more effort when you’re on top of a smushy surface.
Getting fucked from behind is better.
Not perfect, mind you. Your hands and knees are going to make deep prints into the mattress. You might not get quite as much speed or force as you would on a firmer surface. But the difference won’t be as noticeable.
If you’re tired of your mattress cramping your best moves, start doing a lot of doggystyle. Spooning too - especially if your bodies need a break. Go face down, ass up if you want something real special.
You’ll still want more variety than that. You might miss the control you get from going cowgirl. And there’s a high probability you’ll want the deep penetration you get from missionary.
But if you spend more time taking it from behind, your memory foam won’t give you nearly as much trouble.
Have Some Lazy Sex
I know lazy sex sounds bad, but it’s really not.
It’s just misunderstood.
Sex with someone who doesn’t put in any effort to turn you on or get you off really sucks. Someone who fucks you like they’re checked out feels like it has zero passion. And sometimes a good, vigorous jackhammering is just what the sex doctor ordered.
But don’t let bad, low effort boning keep you from enjoying lots of hot lazy action.
There are lots of ways you can fuck that won’t break a sweat but can still blow your mind.
You can fuck with precision instead of force. Work on getting a really good rhythm instead of pounding it out as hard as you can.
You can use toys to get some really intense stimulation without doing any athletic moves. Hold a wand vibrator to your clit while you’re getting fucked. Try a couples toy to get more stimulation from the penetration. Wear a buttplug so you can get powerful blended orgasms from very gentle thrusting.
Or don’t bother with penetration at all. Use your hands and mouths instead. Get off with blowjobs, pussy eating, cock stroking, fingering - or use your favorite sex toys on each other.
If you don’t turn sex into a cardio session, your memory foam won’t slow you down.
Embrace the Wedge
Using a wedge makes sex better, plain and simple.
It’s more comfortable. The penetration hits you deeper and at better angles. Even pussy eating lasts longer with one of those bad boys tucked under your hips.
And they’re especially useful if you’re trying to fuck on memory foam.
I know you’re technically just throwing foam on top of foam. But the big difference is that the foam in the wedge is nice and firm. Not so rigid that it’s uncomfortable - and not so squishy that it’s going to give in like your mattress does.
I’d use one no matter what. But I think my mattress is the reason I use the Liberator Ramp as much as I use their wedge. It’s good for positioning but it also gives you a large firm surface to play on. It’s like a little sex raft in the middle of your foamy ocean.
A wedge or a ramp won’t have the extra bounce you’d get from coils. But you get rid of a lot of the sink, and that makes a huge difference.
Get Into Mutual Masturbation
A memory foam mattress isn’t great for sex, but it’s just fine and dandy for masturbation.
Going solo is a perfectly fine option if you’re sick and tired of overheating and exhausting yourself to get off. And it’s even better if you do it with your partner.
Mutual masturbation isn’t a perfect substitute for fucking. But it will still give you a lot of the same things you get out of sex.
You get turned on with your partner. You get to see them in pleasure - and enjoy every sound they make because of it. It’s really intimate and makes you feel really close - even though you’re not actually touching.
It’s great for those times when you want to come together but you don’t want to go through the rigmarole of messing on your plushy bed.
Find a Better Spot for Fucking
Sex in bed doesn’t have to be your default, especially if it’s frustrating you or messing with your performance.
If you’ve got other options, use them.
The couch is a really great spot, as long as you have enough privacy for it. Some of the best sex I have is on this big armchair I’ve got my in my home office.
And if you want to really get fancy, you can get yourself a great sex chair - one that curves in all the right places.
Fool around in the shower. Get creative and figure out all the different ways you can bang it out in the kitchen. Throw some blankets and pillows on the floor and make yourself a little fuck nest.
If you find a few good places to get it on, you might barely ever fuck in your bed again.
Enjoy a Soft Sleep and a Hard Fuck
I wish memory foam mattresses were better for sex. If they were, they’d be just plain perfect.
Because they’re great for everything that comes before and after it.
Cuddling on memory foam is nice. Light and flirty hanky panky too.
It’s a great spot to sit and have a post-sex snack after a really hardcore round.
And when you’re all tuckered out after a great fuck and some extended aftercare, it’s going to carry you through a really good snooze.
I’ll never recommend buying a different mattress just because it’s not great for sex. Just know that you might have to start fucking a bit differently, because you should never compromise on pleasure just to get a good rest.
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