4 Sex Positions I Use for Chronic Pain
How I get off without getting hurt
Ever hear of the piledriver?
It’s a sex position you’ve almost certainly seen, but probably never tried.
It starts with a lady going upside down. She’s got her shoulders, neck, and the back of her head against the floor. Her back is resting against the side of a bed, a couch, or some kind of sex bench or whatever.
Then a guy maneuvers himself above her and starts thrusting down. Into her pussy, usually. But he can totally bang her ass too.
It’s basically a porn position. It can’t be comfortable or easy to pull off, but it looks pretty good on camera.
It puts a lady’s body on full display. You get to see the penetration really well, too.
It’s the kind of wild nonsense you leave to the professionals.
But sometimes I wish I didn’t have to. I’d love to get the piledriver treatment, at least once. Just to see what it’s like.
That’s not going to happen, though.
Not because I’m not flexible enough. I could definitely bend in all the ways I’d need to.
Not because it’s ridiculous, either. Get me in the right mood and I’m down for some very silly sex stuff.
It’s because I know I’d hurt myself just trying to get in position. Hurt myself real bad, too. I’d get the kind of sex injury that could take weeks to fully recover from - and I might not even get to the sex part.
My body’s just fragile like that.
I get hurt super easily and I don’t heal all that well when I do. Lots of sex positions get painful if I do them for too long. Normal ones, I mean - not piledrivers.
And because of that, I’ve had to learn a few ways to modify them so they work with my chronic pain. These are the main positions I use when I want to take a good fuck while still being gentle on my body.
Doggystyle Down Low
I love taking it from behind, but I avoided doggystyle for years.
I’d only do doggy when I got a really big urge for it. But even then, it didn’t last long. I didn’t even always manage to get an orgasm.
It hurt my wrists too much, so I had to switch positions almost as soon as I got on my hands and knees.
Then I finally realized that was exactly the problem.
So I don’t get on my hands and knees anymore. I get on my knees and elbows instead. If I’m feeling extra slutty, I don’t even bother with the elbows - just completely face down.
That puts zero pressure on my wrists, which means I can concentrate on how good it feels to get pounded instead of how bad it feels to hold myself up.
And there isn’t really any downside to it. I don’t miss holding myself up with my hands that much because using my elbows makes arching my back feel more natural. Plus, there’s something fun and submissive about keeping myself low while pushing my ass up in the air.
Off the Bed Cowgirl
Cowgirl wasn’t a big part of my repertoire, either.
I had a few excuses I used to talk myself out of it, too.
Like how bouncing on full display made me feel too self-conscious.
Or that I just wanted to take it easy and be kind of lazy.
And sometimes I’m just going to be a pillow princess and that’s that.
But the thing that really kept me from doing it more is just how hard it was on me.
I could do squats when I was working out, but for some reason being on top during sex felt like it was wearing on my joints. My legs would start aching soon after I got going.
I wanted to bounce on a dick as much as the next gal, but it just wasn’t worth it.
But you can’t keep a good cowgirl down, so I kept trying until I found a way to get on top and make it work.
And it turns out I didn’t have to give up cowgirl at all - I just had to give up doing it in bed.
When I straddle my husband on the couch or on a chair, it’s all fine and dandy. I can fuck him until I come a few times - or tire myself out trying. I never have to tap out because it gets uncomfortable.
Same with doing it off the edge of the bed. If he’s leaning off the edge and I’m standing with my feet on the ground, I can give him my best reverse cowgirl.
I have no idea why, but I’m guessing it has something to do with his position and the way I have to hold myself. Something about his body being bent at the waist a bit instead of lying flat seems to make all the difference.
Propped Up Missionary
I don’t always have to mess around with this position to make it work for me. I can usually handle plain and simple missionary.
But if I’m already feeling worn down, if I’m starting to ache from another position I did first, or I think I’m going to get pounded for a good long time, I’ve got to pull out the big guns.
I need to get the wedge.
Putting a wedge under my hips makes missionary so much more comfortable. It keeps my body at the perfect angle with no effort at all.
It’s super easy on my body, even if my legs are getting pushed back and I’m getting fucked really hard.
And some modifications make me feel like I’m missing out a bit, but not this one.
Using a wedge for missionary doesn’t just make it more comfortable, it also makes it more pleasurable. The penetration is deeper. The thrusts are more stimulating. The dick hits just right - and my body feels fucking amazing.
Spooning All Night Long
This one isn’t really a modification. It’s just your average, run of the mill spooning sex.
But it’s the one position I can always count on.
No matter how I do it, it feels good. No pain at all. Zero discomfort. I could get spoonfucked for an hour straight without having to switch to a different position.
Any time my joints start to ache, I feel some pain starting to creep in, or my body’s getting really uncomfortable, it’s time to be a little spoon. I tap out of whatever I was doing, get on my side, hold my leg up, and take as much dick as I want.
And no matter how much spooning I do, it doesn’t get old.
It’s a decent position for taking it deep. It’s perfect for pussyjobs. It makes it easy for my husband to rub my pussy while he fucks me. I can use a vibrator while fully enjoying his dick.
I can get my hips squeezed, my tits played with, and ask him to pull out and put it in my ass if I’m in the mood for it.
It’s just plain perfect. I’d probably want to get spooned hard every time I fuck even if my body wasn’t so fragile.
You Don’t Need Pain With Your Pleasure
Sex shouldn’t hurt. That’s something I believe completely.
But it’s tough when you’re dealing with chronic pain. Because it means some of the typical sex stuff everyone else enjoys can do a number on your body.
It took some messing around and experimenting, but I found ways to fuck without getting hurt.
And it means I can’t do all of the athletic porny sex positions, which is a bummer.
It means I can’t even do some of the normal stuff, like getting on my hands and knees for a pounding.
It kind of sucks to have to modify basic sex positions so I can handle them, but it’s totally worth it. Because what really matters is getting a good fuck and a few solid orgasms - even if you’ve got to use a wedge to get there.
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