The 5 Best Variations on the Missionary Position
Make a great position even better
If there’s one thing I’m not going to stand for, it’s people slandering the missionary position.
It just doesn’t deserve any of the hate it gets.
It’s comfortable and pleasurable. It hits a lot of the right spots. And it’s a good way to add some passion and intimacy to your fucking.
That’s why it’s not just a classic. It’s more than that - it’s a sex staple.
And in all fairness, I think most people are waking up to that. Most of us are ready to admit that the missionary position is awesome actually.
It’s a great way to get good dick - plain and simple.
But not everyone got the memo, I guess. Because missionary sex is still being used as a shorthand for boring sex.
And that’s just plain bananas. Because the missionary position is a lot of things, but boring isn’t one of them. Especially when you figure out all sorts of ways to modify it.
Once you play around an experiment, you discover that missionary sex isn’t just great - it’s also really verstaile.
These are my favorite variants on the missionary position and what makes each of them so fucking good.
Legs All the Way Back
Spreading your legs wide for missionary is a good idea. The more room you make for comfortable thrusting, the better the penetration is going to feel.
And you’ll probably end up pulling your legs back to some extent - shifting your hips and lifting your thighs a bit. It’s more comfortable and it gives you more pleasure, so it’s just a natural way to modify missionary.
But I find it even better when my legs get bent back to a much less natural angle. Like, all the way back.
Because pulling your legs up and back all the way might not make missionary more comfortable, but it does make the penetration deeper - way deeper. It’ll make you feel exactly what people mean when they say balls deep. And it’s going to leave you craving more of it.
If you’re super flexible, I’m sure it’s even better. I have no idea - I only bend back so far. But even that’s enough.
You don’t have to fold your body completely in half to get some deep dick. Pulling the back of your knees up with your hands or elbows will do it. So will resting your ankles on his shoulders. And when he sees how much louder you moan, he’ll probably grab your thighs and push them back for you.
Standing Off the Bed
I also can’t get enough of missionary where the guy is standing by the edge of the bed and banging you good.
And he will bang you good, because that’s one of the big advantages of this position. It gives him way more dicksterity.
He doesn’t have to prop himself up while pounding you. He doesn’t have to feel his way to a good angle. He can put all his focus on what his cock is doing. He can maneuver it in whatever way he wants. And he can actually see it penetrating you, too.
That means he can pull out all his best moves. He can angle himself with more precision, keep a better trusting rhythm, and get a clear view of how you’re reacting to all of it.
On top of improving his dick skills, it also encourages him to stimulate your clit. It gives him easier access to it while he’s fucking you and it happens to be a perfect position for pussyjobs too. So if he has a single generous bone in his body, he’ll be treating you to some great stimulation while his bone is in yours.
Squishy Missionary
There’s a kind of missionary you’ll see in PG-13 movies. It’s when the guy presses his whole body against hers.
It’s a way to show sex without turning it into softcore porn. Because you can’t see a lady’s nipples when they’re squished against some hunk’s chest. If they get the arm placement right, you won’t even catch a glimpse of sideboob.
That makes it really frustrating when you’re watching a steamy sex scene - because steam is always better with boobs. But it feels really fucking good when you’re the one getting it.
I personally love squishy missionary because it makes me feel pinned down. It’s like full-body bondage.
It makes me feel small, too. And that happens to be a turn-on for me.
But even if you don’t get off on being submissive and getting pinned down, it’s still a really good position. Because when a guy is lying right on top of you, he’s in a great spot for working his hips to the fullest.
That means he can give you a strong, fast pounding - and to do it longer without tiring himself out.
He can still give it to you slow and soft if that’s what you want. But if you want some really intense penetration, pull him close and tell him to give it to you hard.
The Coital Alignment Technique
The coital alignment technique has a fancy name, but it’s just a slightly modified missionary.
It’s a special one, though. Because it does something that’s supposed to be impossible - it stimulates the clit with penetration.
There are lots of ways to add clit stimulation while fucking - fingers, toys, grinding. But coital alignment is the only one where the dick does both the penetrating and the clit rubbing.
To pull it off, you have to fuck at an angle that feels all wrong. You get in your usual missionary position, but then the guy scoots up a couple of inches. Instead of his cock sliding straight into you, it’ll be thrusting down. And along the way, his shaft is going to rub against your clit.
It’s like a sexual magic trick.
It’s not a perfect move, though. On paper, it sounds like the best of both worlds. In reality, it’s like a pussyjob that’s not quite as stimulating combined with penetration that doesn’t hit all the best spots.
Plus, it takes some precision to pull off. It’s really easy to slip out, so it involves careful thrusting. Can’t really bang it out like an animal when he’s trying to make sure his dick doesn’t move too much.
But still, it’s really fun to experiment with. It can be a great way to get started before you work up to some heavy duty pounding.
And at the very least, it’s a pretty decent party trick.
Clingy Missionary
This is sort of like the squishy version of missionary. Except instead of him pressing against you, you’re the one clinging to him.
Wrap your arms and legs around him while he’s fucking you and pull your body close to his. It’s really simple, but it makes a surprisingly big difference.
Being so close and having your hands on his skin makes it really intimate. And it gives you that extra sweetness without sacrificing any good dick whatsoever.
It also shows a lot of enthusiasm and desire. It’s basically the complete opposite of just lying there and taking it. That’s going to make it extra arousing for him, which will motivate him to give you his A-game dick.
And it just feels really fucking good. Clinging to him can make it a little tougher to get those long, satisfying thrusts. But it puts you at a good angle for taking it deep and hard, and that more than makes up for it.
The Most Fun You Can Have on Your Back
As much as I love missionary, it’s not like I’m going to use it exclusively.
I like to have a lot of variety when I’m fucking and that usually means getting in a few different positions.
Otherwise, I’d miss taking it from behind. I’ve got to have my spooning, too. And I don’t think I’ll ever come as hard as I do when I’m taking it prone bone.
But you could totally have great sex without ever getting out of missionary. With the right variations, you can take it deep, you can get pounded hard, you can get a perfectly rhythmic thrusting, and your clit can get plenty of action too.
It might not be the only position you’ll ever need, but there’s no way all that good dicking is boring.
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