How to Give Your Lady an Arousing Ass Massage
Rub that butt right
I don’t know if ass massages are actually a thing.
But I married a butt guy who loves putting his hands all over my body, so they’re definitely a thing for me.
He’s quick to offer me massages of all sorts. Soothing shoulder rubs. Sensual full body massages. The kind of rubdowns you see in massage porn when I’m feeling frisky. Pussy massages when I’m feeling pillow princessy.
But he seems to have a special fondness for massaging my ass, which helped me learn to really appreciate it.
It’s not just because he’s really into kneading my buns, though. It genuinely feels good. It’s really fun foreplay. It’s also a great way to warm up for all kinds of buttstuff.
And like any other rubdown, it will be decent if you wing it - but it will feel amazing if you know what you’re doing.
So I’m going to share all my tips for giving her an ass massage that will make her butt feel great and has a really good chance of turning her on.
Oil Her Up
You don’t need a whole lot to rub her butt the right way, but you do need some massage oil. Otherwise, it’s not a massage - you’re just groping her.
It’s also going to make it feel at least three times better for her, which is kind of the whole point. Because the better the sensations, the more likely she is to get turned on - or to ask you for more butt rubs in the future.
The extra glide is going to make it easier for you, too. That way, you can stay focused on what counts - using your best massage moves and the pleasure of playing with her butt.
I personally like the Slow Sex Full Body Massage gel. It’s got a great texture, good slipperiness, and lasts pretty long, so it’s good for all sorts of massages - ass included.
I also recommend laying out something waterproof and comfortable before you get started. Because if you get really into it and don’t skimp out on the massage oil, you’re going to end up dripping some on the sheets.
So unless you have a massage table, lay out a sex blanket or some towels. Or just go ahead and get a massage table - it comes in really handy.
Be Gentle, Then Manhandle
There are two big mistakes you can make when massaging her.
The first one is rubbing aggressively right off the bat.
At some point, you’re going to be kneading her like an enthusiastic baker. But you have to work your way up to that.
Start by touching her softly and massaging her gently. That’s going to warm her up, help her relax, and ease her into all the good sensations you’re about to give her.
The other mistake is being gentle the whole way through.
After feeling her up for a few minutes, use a bit more pressure. Don’t go super hard or anything, but go ahead and put a little muscle into it. Her ass can take it.
You should check in with her a couple of times to see how firm she wants it. But if your hands don’t start to feel a bit tired after a while, it probably means you’re going way too light - and cheating her out of a proper ass rub.
Start at the Peak of Her Mountains
If you’re the kind of ass freak who would read an article like this one, you’re probably primed and ready to get all up in her business.
But like anything else that involves her asshole, you’ve got to take your time and build up to it.
So keep the massage really superficial at first. Rub the mounds of her cheeks. The softer area - the bubbly part of her bubble butt.
Once you’ve given the peaks of her ass a good amount of contact, work your way down the sides - right above her hips.
Unless she’s arching her back and whining for it, massage her for a good four or five minutes at least before grabbing at her inner cheeks. Even if you know she loves being touched there, it will be so much more enjoyable if you build some anticipation for it.
Work Her Hips
Strictly speaking, her hips aren’t part of her ass. But they’re in the same zone, so you can work them into your massage.
And you probably should, because rubbing the sides of her hip is going to feel really nice for her. And if she’s at all in the mood, it can be pretty arousing too.
Don’t Be Timid
Alright, now’s the part you’ve been waiting for. We’re going to talk about her cute little asshole.
If she’s not into having her asshole touched, then that’s all there is to it. You’ll get to oil up her cheeks, sneak in a few peeks, but that’s as far as it will go.
But if she’s down for it, you’re going to want to give her asshole some direct stimulation.
Don’t be timid about it, either. She doesn’t want you to pretend like you’re accidentally grazing it with the side of your palm. She wants you to give it some proper affection.
Letting your oil-covered hands run along it while you’re working her ass is a good way to start.
Then you’ll want to rub your oiled up fingers along it. Slowly and gently, because that’s a really sensitive spot.
It’s a really nice stimulation and can majorly turn her on. It’s also a great way to warm her up if you’re going all the way after the massage is over.
But once you work up to it, make it part of the overall massage. Don’t just camp out there and rub her asshole non-stop. Give the rest of her butt some attention too. Otherwise, it will feel like the massage is over and you’re just having your way with her. There’s a time and a place for that, but it’s not when she’s just trying to enjoy a slippery round of grab ass.
Give Her Backdoor a Happy Ending
Most ass massages are going to be one of two things.
They’re either going to be a great excuse to play with her butt and tease her asshole for the sheer pleasure of it. Or they’re going to a way to get her all revved up for some action - and get her asshole warmed up for penetration.
But once in a while, she might be down for an anal happy ending instead.
What that looks like will depend on what she’s into and how easily she can come from buttstuff.
The best way will be to slip one finger inside her - index or middle, your pick. Or both, if she asks for a bit more girth.
Go slow at first, no matter how much time you spent warming her up. And go for rhythm over speed - a steady and consistent pace is more likely to get her off.
Always go with her preferences, though. If she wants you to fingerfuck her ass so hard that your palm keeps smacking into her, then that’s the kind of happy ending you should give her.
And if she needs to ride a vibrator or rub her pussy to get there, then encourage her to do that while you pleasure her ass.
Be enthusiastic about making her come, but keep paying close attention to her and what she wants. Because it’s only a happy ending if she gets it her way.
Towel Her Down
Your job isn’t done until she’s clean and satisfied.
Don’t leave her covered in a layer of oil so she can’t sit anywhere. Don’t send her shuffling off to the shower with massage gel dripping down her thighs.
You made her all slippery and oily, so be ready to towel her down when you’re done.
Because having to awkwardly deal with all the messy stuff will kind of spoil the experience for her. And that’s going to make her a lot less likely to ask you for another rubdown.
Treat Her Ass Right
As much as I love them, I think ass massages are going to be a very occasional thing for me.
Personally, I’m far more partial to pussy massages.
And I know that when I strip down to my socks for a full-body massage, I’ll get a really thorough one with plenty of attention on my ass.
But it’s still a really fun option to have.
There’s something really playful about it. It’s a great way for her to treat you to her ass, and a really good way to pamper her if she happens to be an anal queen.
And if she’s curious about assplay but totally new to it, massaging her butt is a fantastic way to start experimenting.
So, learn the technique. It’s not hard at all, but a few of the steps are really important and you should really know them. Because when you do get to massage her butt, you’ll want her to be glad she asked you to rub her ass instead of her shoulders.
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