You Gotta Do the Post-Nut Cleanup
It matters more than you think
I have vivid memories about the first time I made a guy come. Some of the details are a bit fuzzy, though.
It was my first time doing a lot of things.
First time seeing a hard dick in the flesh - all stiff and ready for action.
First time touching one too, and feeling that perfect combination of rigid firmness and subtle softness.
It was also my first time giving a handjob. Which was incredibly thrilling but also totally nerve wracking because I had no clue what I was doing.
That’s probably why I have trouble remembering some of the details.
I had all sorts of excited thoughts racing through my mind and all sorts of feelings bundling up inside me. My heart was beating so fast I probably came close to passing out on the spot.
I know I kept it simple - just jerking it up and down, hoping that would be enough.
I know I made him come. And I know his come must have gotten all over my hand.
But I have zero memory of what happened to it after that.
It got cleaned up, obviously. I just can’t remember how it happened.
All I know is that I must’ve done it myself.
It had to be me. Otherwise, I’d remember it for sure. Because having him clean his mess off me would’ve definitely made my pulse race even harder and stayed in my mind forever.
I’ll give my ex-boyfriend a soft pass on this one. He was young and inexperienced, just like me. He probably didn’t know what to do at the end of a handjob anymore than I knew what to do during one.
But as a rule, if you come on your partner you really should be the one to clean her up.
It’s Common Courtesy
To me, that seems really obvious.
If you make a mess on something, you clean it. Even if it’s your lady’s tits.
If I had to guess, I’d say that guys who don’t wipe a girl down after a cumshot probably feel like it’s her territory. It’s his spunk, but her body. And she’s usually the one who cleans her body, so they default to letting her handle it.
That’s true, but there are exceptions.
If you shower with her, you should go right ahead and soap her up.
If you spill something in her lap, you should help her deal with it.
And if you have the privilege of blowing your load all over her, you should absolutely take the initiative and give her a hand with the initial clean up.
It’s a nice thing to do. It’s a way to show appreciation for the fact that she let you use her body for target practice.
But really, it’s just considerate. And you should always be considerate - especially with people you’re fucking.
It Finishes on a High Note
Sex that ends abruptly kind of sucks.
Not because the sex itself was bad, but because there’s always a comedown after a good fuck.
Which makes sense, because you just gave her this really intense experience. Not just because of the pleasure, but all the other stuff that goes along with it too.
You made her pulse race and her body overheat. Every happy hormone in her body was firing at full speed.
You switched off the part of her brain that feels shame so she could be super vulnerable with you.
You had her saying nasty things she’d never say with her clothes on. And if she didn’t say them, she was definitely thinking them.
You made her come so hard her entire body tensed up - more than once if you’re a good boy.
Then the icing on the cupcake - you blew your load on her and made her feel like a dirty girl.
And then it’s over and all that just stops. If it stops slowly, it’s great. It’s a gentle comedown and she can just catch her breath, slow her heart rate, and feel all the warm and fuzzy feelings you get after getting all nasty with someone.
But if it stops quickly, it feels more like a crash than a comedown.
Which is why you should clean her up.
Having her sit on the edge of the bed to wipe herself clean or shuffling off to the bathroom isn’t going to make her feel all that connected to you.
But it will if you clean her up. It’s going to be another moment of you connecting with each other. It’s going to make her feel like you’re still present after you’re done fooling around.
I know it doesn’t seem like something that would make such a big difference, but it really does. Wiping the spunk off her stomach is going to make fucking you even better, so go right ahead and do it instead of waiting for her to ask.
It’s Surprisingly Sexy
Coming all over her ass is going to be a big turn on for her.
But so is cleaning it up.
Because it’s not just a nice thing to do, it also makes you more attractive.
There’s something sweet and playful about it. It’s attentive, and every woman wants an attentive guy.
Taking care of her after you fucked her silly has a bit of a daddy vibe to it. And that never hurts.
Basically, it’s like rubbing her clit while you’re fucking her or giving her dirty praise while she’s blowing you. It’s a hot guy move.
It’s one of the easiest ways to make yourself sexier, so don’t skip it.
Don’t Leave Her High and Sticky
Unless she’d really rather handle it herself, make it a rule to handle the post-nut cleanup.
Even better, be prepared for it.
Have some wipes, a towel, or at the very least some tissues on hand. That way, you won’t have to make her wait awkwardly on the sex blanket while you pop off to look for something to clean her with.
It’s sweet. It’s sexy. It’s one more nice little moment between the two of you.
It also makes her more likely to ask you to come on her tits, her face, or her ass again in the future. And that’s an opportunity you really don’t want to blow.
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