The Gentleman’s Guide to a Great Cumshot
The best way to blow your load
When you marry a delayed ejaculator, you learn to fully appreciate a great cumshot.
It takes my husband forever to come. And early in our relationship, he often wouldn’t.
I’d jerk him off until my arm couldn’t take it anymore. I’d blow him until my jaw got too sore. He’d fuck me until I was completely tapped out.
He gave me these big show stopping orgasms - intense climaxes that left me all lovey dovey and super sleepy.
But he didn’t get those - not even close. Instead of a big finish, he’d get more of a gentle ending. He’d hold me while I breathed through the comedown, his stiff hard-on would slowly go soft, and that was basically it.
Fucking him was incredibly fun. I had no real complaints about it.
I just wished I could make him come.
I mean, I felt bad that he didn’t get to finish. He found all sorts of ways to take me to the moon with his fingers, his tongue, and his cock. It didn’t seem fair that I got all that and he couldn’t even have one itsy bitsy little climax.
But I wanted it for selfish reasons, too.
See the thing is, the cumshot is one of the hottest parts of fucking a guy. It’s right up there with getting manhandled and being pounded from behind.
It’s just such an intense moment of pleasure. It’s all loud and grunty. Even the most uptight fucker is going to lose it when he blows his load
And you get to be there to witness it.
Well, not me. Sadly, I had to miss out on all of that.
That was a major bummer. But it did give me a deep appreciation for what I couldn’t have.
And there really is a lot to appreciate. Because it’s more than just a bunch of spunk flying every which way. If it’s done right, it’s a moment that’s so arousing it will stay with you long after you’re done fucking.
It’s the creamy cherry on top of the fuck sundae.
It’s also something you have to get good at if you want to be really amazing in the sack. Sure, you’ll need to master a few really solid positions. You’ll have to learn when to hold back and when to escalate. You’ll have to know what you’re doing with your fingers and your mouth.
But you should also know how to blow your load in a way that’s going to be really arousing and exciting for your lady.
Here’s how you can do that.
Get Permission to Come on Her
Okay, I know asking permission doesn’t sound like a sexy thing to do. But it can be if you do it right.
You can talk about it over lunch if you want. Get her to list out every part of her body that she wouldn’t mind you finishing on. That’s all fine and good.
But if you want to make it really hot, wait until you’re getting close.
When you’re fifteen or twenty thrusts away from blowing, ask her in a really straightforward way.
“Want me to finish on your ass?”
“Can I come all over your pretty face?”
“Where do you want me to come?”
In that context and with a bit of confidence behind your voice, that’s not just asking permission - that’s full blown dirty talk. And that’s definitely a turn on.
Plus, there’s nothing sexy about coming on her without her permission. That’s just a very quick way to ruin perfectly good sex.
So, ask first. Find out where she likes to take it and aim accordingly.
And be cool with coming on yourself if she doesn’t want to be your human canvas. Because watching you get messy can be really arousing for her, too.
Give Her a Heads Up Before You Finish
Tell her when you’re about to come - even if you know exactly where she wants you to finish.
Your climax is going to be quick. Once she feels that first splash of come hit her skin, it’s practically over already.
She doesn’t want to miss any of it. But she might if she’s not paying attention - if the sex is good, she’s probably kind of distracted.
She’s enjoying all the heavy thrusts you’re giving her. She’s focusing on the stimulation she’s getting so she can get a bigger orgasm. She’s holding her wand to her clit so she can feel those super intense vibrations.
She needs to hear you say you’re about to come so she can snap back to reality and listen to your grunts, feel your muscles tensing, watch the way it erupts from your cock - all that good stuff.
Don’t let her miss out on any of it. Let her know when you’re close.
Dish Out the Dirty Talk
A cumshot is a perfect opportunity for some really good dirty talk.
You can say things before splattering your spunk all over the place.
“I can’t wait to come on you.”
“Are you ready for daddy to come all over your tits?”
Or go really simple with “I’m gonna come.”
And you can say some more hot stuff after you’re done blowing your load.
“What a dirty girl.”
“You look so fucking hot covered in come.”
If she lets you come in her mouth, you need to give her some proper praise. And if she swallows, it’s actually illegal not to call her a good girl.
Dirty talk is exciting. It’s enthusiastic. It’s super arousing. So, don’t get all quiet and miss your chance to really turn her on.
Get Loud
Some guys try to keep their cool when they’re hitting a climax.
Big mistake.
I mean, it’s fine if you want to hold back. If you’d rather force all the sound right back down your throat, go ahead.
But if you want to give her the kind of cumshot she’s hoping for, you should let go and get loud.
Moan. Groan. Grunt. If you sound like an angry animal, you’re doing it right.
Because that’s part of the experience for her. She wants to know that you’re being overwhelmed with pleasure - that coming with her and for her is turning you on so much that you can’t hold yourself back.
So get lost in the moment and be as loud as you want to be.
Give Her a Hand
All these years after I first started fucking him, Mr. Austin is still a delayed ejaculator. So, I know from personal experience that a cumshot can lose its sparkle if it takes too much work to get to it.
I’ve made him come before, but I had to some real muscle into it. I worked his cock like it was my job. I was determined to keep going until he creamed all over my hands - or I passed out trying.
Finally getting him off felt genuinely satisfying. But it also felt like a big relief. Because getting him off started feeling like a chore, and I was just glad it was over.
If you want your cumshot to really turn her on, you can’t let her get into the mindset. If making you come feels more like work than play, the cumshot’s going to lose some of its ooey gooey magic.
So pay attention to how it’s going. If it’s taking you a while to get there or you can see that she’s struggling to make you come, help her out.
Take over for a while. If she’s stroking or sucking you, give her a break by jerking yourself off while eating her out. If she’s riding you hard, flip her over so she can rest her legs while you bend them back.
Or just do it all by yourself. Beat yourself off to a finish while she rubs her pussy and watches you go to town on your shaft.
As long as she doesn’t have to go through an endurance test to make you come, she’ll be able to fully appreciate your big, noisy finish.
Clean Her Up
Messy cumshots are hot as hell.
But leaving her with a bunch of spunk to clean up isn’t exactly sexy.
Unless you came all over yourself or she swallowed every drop, you’ll have to get the tissues or a towel to wipe her clean.
It’s considerate, which is an attractive quality. It makes her feel taken care of, which is hot on its own. And it gives you a sweet moment together, which is a great way to cap off some dirty fun.
Stay Connected
Some guys will check out after sex.
They abruptly leave to go hop in the shower. They grab their phones to check the notifications they missed. They get quiet and drift off - or fully fall asleep.
That kind of emotional disconnection can leave a lady feeling kind of abandoned. And it can feel even worse if she’s left with her tits, ass, or face covered in come.
So if you want her to love your cumshot, follow it up with some decent aftercare. Stay with her for a while. Hold her, talk to her, be present with her. Pull her into the shower with you. Go fetch her a snack and some cold water.
That way, she won’t feel lonely or anxious after you finish. She’ll have nothing but positive associations with you coming - it’ll be good vibes all the way through.
Give Her a Hot, Messy Finish
When guys say they want to improve their cumshots, they usually mean one thing.
They’re talking about volume.
They want to know how many ounces of water to drink each day for maximum spunk output.
They analyze the ingredients in herbal supplements to figure out which capsules they need to swallow if they want a load so big it spills out of her mouth.
They ask other guys on Reddit if doing kegels is going to help them shoot ropes.
And that’s a perfectly fine hobby. There’s nothing wrong with tweaking your diet until you need to ask the nurse at the fertility clinic for a bigger cup.
But if you’re doing it because you want your cumshots to be as sexy as they can be, that’s really the last thing you should worry about.
How much you come doesn’t matter nearly as much as how you do it.
Unless she’s got a very specific kink, your lady isn’t hoping to get drenched in jizz. She wants to see you make a mess - on her or on yourself. She wants to hear you get loud and say something filthy. She wants to feel you lose control, even if it’s just for a few seconds.
If you can give her that, she’ll look forward to your orgasm almost as much as her own.
If you liked this article, you should totally check out the Boy That Really Grinds Our Gears (Pussy Trouble, Lube Hands, and Sore Legs) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!
