6 Ways to Get More Anal Sex
How to make her want it as much as you do
I’m really into anal sex. But when I say that, I worry I’m giving people the wrong idea.
Like, I genuinely love it. No question about that.
Some of the most intense, pleasurable, and satisfying sex I have involves my ass.
I started working anal play into my masturbation sessions because it can feel absolutely incredible and make me come so much harder.
It’s all over my fantasies, too. And my browser history is full of buttstuff.
I’d say my anal-loving credentials are pretty solid.
But the thing is, I don’t actually do it all that often.
I don’t go for an assbanging every time I fuck. Not even close, honestly. As much as I love it, it’s still very much an occasional part of my sex life.
So I guess that makes me a full-time anal lover, but only a part-time anal haver.
And I think that gives me a pretty good idea of what it takes to make it seem really appealing and what you can do to get your lady in the mood for it.
I don’t have any magical tips or anything like that. If you’re with someone who isn’t into anal, there’s nothing you can do to change that. Some women just don’t like it and that’s all there is to it.
But if she enjoys it on occasion, there are things you can do to make those occasions a lot more frequent.
If you want to increase your chances of getting some anal action, these are the things you’ve got to do.
Make Her Super Horny
Getting her really turned on is the most important step, but it’s one that a lot of guys skip.
I don’t think they mean to. I just think they don’t understand exactly how horny a gal has to be before she’s going to want her ass fucked.
Anal isn’t the easiest thing to pull off. Even if you know all the right moves, it can be tricky to get right - and uncomfortable if you get it wrong.
But it’s going to be a lot easier if she’s super horny. Way more pleasurable, too.
And I mean hella horny. Because she might be aroused enough to fuck. She might be turned on enough to let her naughty side out. But it might still not be enough for her to take you in her ass and fully enjoy it.
So, you’ve got to get her really worked up.
Give her lots of foreplay. Tease her and take your time instead of rushing past third base.
Edge her until she’s squirming and can barely control herself.
Make her come a few times and talk dirty to her so she wants more.
When you get her to that point, she’s way more likely to crave something in her ass. And it’s way more likely to blow her mind when she gets it.
Put Her Mind in the Gutter
Anal isn’t a spontaneous thing for me. When I have it, it’s usually because it was on my mind before I started fooling around.
So if you want to improve your chances, don’t wait until you’re actually getting it on. Get her thinking about sex even when you’re not having it.
Flirt with her at random times. Make it a little spontaneous.
Be sweet and playful with her. Get a bit frisky without trying to move things past that point.
Send her suggestive text messages so she knows you’re thinking about her - and that your thoughts aren’t exactly PG.
If you do that, her mind is more likely to go to some dirty places. She might start fantasizing. She might start thinking about everything she wants you to do to her.
And if you’re lucky, that will include things she wants you to do to her ass.
Be Really Into It - Without Being Too Into It
Anal sex can feel fucking amazing.
It’s really intense. It gives the kind of pleasure that can almost take her breath away. Combine it with good clit stimulation and it’s a recipe for powerful blended orgasms.
But coming hard is only one of the things that’s going to make it good for her.
Another one is how much you enjoy it.
If fucking her ass drives you wild, that’s going to be a major turn on for her. The more you lose your mind over it, the hotter it’s going to be.
Knowing that you’re really into it can make her feel desirable, too. She’ll be more eager to have you in her ass if it makes her feel like she’s treating you to something you fantasize about in a big way.
So, let her know you’re really into anal. Or even better, that you love fucking her ass specifically.
When you’re in her ass, show her just how much it excites you. Grunt and groan instead of pounding her butt silently. Tell her how amazing it feels to be inside her.
And show some appreciation when it’s all over. When you’re cuddling after a good fuck, tell her how hot it was.
Just make sure you don’t overdo it.
There’s a fine line here. If you don’t show her that you’re really into fucking her ass, she’ll be less excited about asking you to do it.
But if you’re always making a really big deal out of it, that’s probably going to backfire on you.
If you seem obsessed, it will come across like you care more about anal than about having a dirty good time with her.
She might also get the impression that you’ll be disappointed if you just get to fuck her pussy instead of her ass. And that’s definitely going to take the fun out of it.
Stick to the happy middle ground. Go nuts for her butt without making her feel like you expect to have your way with it.
Worship Her Ass
Even if she’s not up for anal action, she’ll probably still appreciate you worshiping her ass.
Grab and grope her it while you’re making out with her and getting things going.
Bend her over and give her a few playful spanks.
Slowly pull down her underwear while telling her how incredible her ass looks.
Give her ass a good massage.
Kiss and lick her cheeks - shove your face into her.
Being so physically enthusiastic with her ass shows her that you really desire her body. It makes it clear that you don’t just want to fuck her - you’re also majorly turned on by her.
It can also put her in the mood for more.
Giving her a bit of ass worship might get her thinking of all the other things you could do to her butt.
Doing things that make her ass feel good can also give her the urge to do something that will make it feel even better.
And it could make her feel less self-conscious about her butt, which will make it easier for her to get in the mood for some assplay.
Be Cool Not Going All the Way
Usually, when people talk about anal they basically mean assfucking.
But there are so many more ways to have a really good time with your lady’s ass.
You can finger it. That can still be really pleasurable for her, and it’s way easier than sliding your cock inside her.
Eating her ass is definitely an option, too. If she’s down for it, licking her asshole while rubbing her pussy is a good naughty move.
You can even just give her a nice hotdogging. Just lube up your cock and thrust it between her cheeks - like a pussyjob, but for her ass. It’s not going to make her come the way a good, slow fuck might, but it still feels nice and it’s a really playful way to fool around.
You should be open to all those options. Honestly, you should even be the one to suggest them.
Because sometimes going all the way is a bit much. Taking a dick in the ass is a whole production, and she’s not always going to want to put all that work into it.
But she might still be down for getting her ass fingered. Or just having you gently rub your spit-covered thumb against her asshole while you’ve got two fingers working her pussy.
And don’t forget buttplugs. You can slide one into her ass before going down on her or have her wear one while you fuck her. Whatever she’s comfortable with.
All that buttstuff is really good anal foreplay. And if her ass is prepped and ready, she’s way more likely to want your cock thrusting into it.
But more importantly, you’re adding all sorts of assplay to your sex life. And the more fun she has with her ass, the more often she’ll want you pleasuring it. Especially if she can feel like it’s totally on her terms.
If she wants you to pound her ass, great. But if you want to bring her anal loving side out, be cool with just doing other things to it.
Pleasure Her Pussy, Not Just Her Ass
If you can blow her mind while fucking her ass, she’s definitely going to want it again - and more often. So when you do get some anal action, make it feel amazing for her.
That means covering all your anal basics - starting off very slowly, using the right kind of lube, being attentive to all her subtle reactions.
But it also means giving her pussy plenty of pleasure.
Rub her clit while you’re thrusting into her. Use a vibrator on her while you’re easing yourself deeper and deeper.
If you’re in a position that makes it tricky, ask her to do it instead. Encourage her to touch herself for you. Hand her a wand and tell her you want to see her get herself off.
Stimulating her clit while you fuck her ass is going to make it so much more pleasurable. It’s going to give her powerful blended orgasms. It’s going to make her feel dirty and pampered at the same time - and that’s just plain hot.
Plus, if you fuck her ass without pleasuring her pussy, she’ll feel like she has to choose between the two. And she probably won’t choose anal all that often.
Get That Ass
Even if your lady’s really into anal, it’s still out of your hands to some extent.
How often she wants it isn’t even entirely about you.
It might depend on where her horny thoughts take her. Maybe she only craves it when she lucks out and finds really good anal porn. Or there’s no particular reason at all - she just gets the urge to do it out of the blue.
But you can still do things that will make it way more enticing for her.
You can fuck her ass in a way that makes her come back for more.
You can worship her ass and show her just how much it turns you on.
You can get her so horny she’s practically delirious.
None of that will guarantee she’ll want some backdoor action. But it sure as hell is going to improve your chances.
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