3 Pussy Eating Mistakes (You're Probably Making)
Great oral isn’t just about licking her clit
I’ll never take good pussy eating for granted - not since the first time I did it and realized that it wasn’t as simple as I thought it would be.
It was a weird situation and I wasn’t ready for it at all. I was having a very small and intimate birthday celebration and it became even more intimate when my close friend decided to gift me a foursome.
She put the moves on me and I didn’t need a lot of convincing. She was cute. I was drunk. And my boyfriend didn’t seem to have any problem with her hand sliding up my shirt.
Making out with her was fun. She tasted like the sickly sweet alcohol we had both drunk too quickly. But the more she escalated, the more nervous I got.
I was turned on and getting excited about fucking her. But I was terrified that I wouldn’t do it well.
I had zero practice with pussy other than my own, and it occurred to me in my drunken, horny haze that I wasn’t sure exactly how to get her off.
Thankfully, she went first. That helped me relax and get my mind off my worries. Her tongue felt so fucking good on my pussy. My boyfriend holding me and playing with my tits while she went down on me and made me feel the way a birthday girl should.
Even though I still had some impromptu foursome anxiety, she managed to make me come really well. I wanted to repay the favor.
I’m not actually sure I did.
I ate her out, but I didn’t do a great job. I licked her pussy but I did it timidly. Going down on her made me realize that I knew even less about pleasuring a woman than I thought I did.
I might have made her come, I don’t know. I was kind of distracted and for all I know, she faked it. I’m not sure I’d blame her if she did.
Ever since then, I’ve been paying a lot more attention to oral sex. If I’m ever lucky enough to bury my face in another muff, I want to eat it like I know what I’m doing.
I read all the tips I could find. I watched pussy eating porn with rapt attention. And I started noticing exactly what my husband does when he’s between my thighs.
I identified some of the techniques that work really well. I learned a few ways to switch things up so it never gets boring. I even tried a few things out on some artificial vulvas.
Along the way, I also picked out a few mistakes that a lot of people make when they’re going down on a lady. Doing these doesn’t necessarily mean the pussy eating is terrible, but it does mean it’s not nearly as pleasurable and arousing as it could be.
Going Straight for Her Clit
Most of the basic pussy eating advice I’ve heard is extremely simple. It’s always some version of “just find the clit and lick it.”
That’s kind of right. But it’s also half-wrong.
Yes, she will be extremely disappointed if you never find her clit. And yeah, licking it at a steady pace is going to be the best way to make her come.
But that’s something you should do at the end.
Going straight for the clit before getting her fully aroused can be overstimulating, which makes it less enjoyable. And even if she’s as aroused as she can get, going right for her magic orgasm button is going to make the pussy eating end too quickly instead of letting her fully enjoy it.
So, if you want to give her amazing oral, lick her everywhere else first.
Tease her by kissing and licking her outer lips. Let her get excited for what you’re about to do next instead of going right for the most sensitive parts of her pussy.
Then, spread her lips open and lick her inner labia, lick around the clit - lick her everywhere except that little orgasmic nub.
Doing that is going to build her arousal, get her extra turned on, and make her clit even more sensitive and receptive. Once it is, that’s when you should start focusing on it.
But even once you start licking her clit, you can move away from it again. You can tease her by licking her elsewhere. You can prolong her pleasure by giving her clit a short break while you lick her pussy lips. You can give her arousal more time to build so her orgasm is even stronger.
Lick her all over and make her pussy feel loved and she will be extremely appreciative.
Not Touching Her
A lot of guys eat pussy like they’re bobbing for apples. Their mouth is in the game but they keep their hands out of it.
Sometimes, they leave their hands to the side. Other times, they rest them softly on her legs.
Either way, it’s a big missed opportunity because what you do with your hands when you’re going down on her can be almost as good as what you do with your mouth.
There’s just something about being touched that can make such a huge difference.
Stroking her thighs and touching her tenderly while you eat her out is going to make her feel loved and cared for.
Squeezing her sides, gripping her hips, or pulling her closer to you is going to make her feel wanted and desired. Doing something firm with your hands is one of the best ways to add some extra passion to the moment.
And then there’s all the extra pleasure you can give her with those fingers.
Grab her tits and squeeze them gently. Rub her nipples with spit-slicked fingers. Give them soft pinches and tugs.
Finger her pussy while you’re eating her out. Rub her G-spot to give her extra stimulation. Or go extra deep if that’s the kind of thing that gets her off.
And if she’s into a bit of backdoor action, you can slowly finger her ass while you lick her pussy. For girls who are into it, that combination is intense and incredibly pleasurable.
Whatever it is, just make sure you do something with your hands. Your tongue is doing all the important stuff, but it doesn’t have to be the only kind of contact and stimulation she gets.
Being Quiet
Yeah, okay, so I get why this one doesn’t occur to a lot of guys.
Your tongue is kind of busy at the moment. Your whole mouth is, really. The last thing you’re going to be asking yourself is if you should be doing something else with it.
But you should. You should also be talking dirty to her.
Dirty talk during oral sex is incredibly hot. I personally can’t get enough of it and I don’t think I’ve ever encountered a woman who could.
Saying naughty little somethings while you’re between her legs is one of the best ways you can show enthusiasm - and that enthusiasm is always going to be a turn-on.
Every dirty phrase coming from your mouth is a reminder to her that you’re not just going down on her - you genuinely love eating her pussy. Being between her legs is exactly where you want to be. You’re not just doing this so she’ll suck you off after - you’re doing it because you’re really into giving her pleasure.
And most women are at least kind of self-conscious about their pussies. Taking your mouth off hers every once in a while to tell her that it’s so fucking hot, that you love the taste of it, or that you’ve been thinking about eating her out for days is going to give her all the reassurance she needs. She can stop worrying about her pussy and just get off to all the things you’re doing to it.
When she’s getting closer to her orgasm, though, you might want to just shut up and eat her. With her pleasure building fast and nearing a climax, you’ll have to keep the stimulation going and keep it steady to get her there. That’s not the time to take your mouth off her.
But it doesn’t mean you need to be quiet. It’s the perfect time to get vocal even if you can’t be verbal. Letting yourself moan while you’re licking her clit is going to make it hotter for her and will help her hit her climax — and maybe come even harder.
Eat Her Out and Turn Her On
I’m still not sure I’ve got what it takes to eat pussy like a pro. I’m extremely out of practice and I’m sure I’ll be nervous as fuck the next time I get to try it.
But at least I know a few more moves now - and a few things to avoid.
And you do, too.
Use your hands to show your passion when you’re going down on her. Use your words to show your enthusiasm. And ravish her whole pussy to show her a really fucking good time.
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If you want more pussy eating discussion, check out the Pussy Eating for the Win! (Eat It Like You Mean It) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!
