The 4 Reasons You Should Tell Her When You're About to Come
Make your climax even hotter
There’s a sexual quirk a lot of guys share. When they feel their orgasm coming, they keep that information to themselves.
That’s definitely something I’ve experienced.
It’s not like it was a total secret or anything like that. All the tell-tale signs were there.
They groaned and grunted. Their breathing would shift. Their muscles would tense.
The cock twitching is less noticeable, but I could feel that too.
Some guys came hard. Some of them were more subtle. But almost all of them came out of the blue.
The first time I jerked off a guy, I didn’t know he was close to finishing until I felt his come drip on my hand.
There was also a very memorable threesome that finished too abruptly. I had no idea the cock stroking was almost over - not until my tits were covered in sticky droplets of spunk.
Mostly, it was one night stands and short-term boyfriends fucking me and coming without much warning.
It wasn’t the worst thing. Orgasms are hot, no matter how they happen.
But these ones felt a little too sneaky.
And that was really disappointing because I wanted to be told. I fantasized about it. I got turned on by the thought of hearing just four little words.
“I’m going to come.”
That’s it. Simple as that. That would’ve been so much better than being caught off guard by a cumshot.
So take it from me. If you’re about to come, let your lady know. There are so many reasons she wants to hear you say it, but these are the big ones.
She Wants a Say in Your Cumshot
Okay, first things first. There’s the whole consent thing.
The fun thing about a messy finish is that it can happen in so many ways.
You can come inside her. You can pull out and come on her stomach. You can come on her ass or on her thighs. You can unload in her mouth or on her tits.
She might even let you come all over her cute face.
Those are all great options. They can be really fucking hot and fun for her too - as long as she’s down for it.
That’s one of the biggest reasons you need to give her a heads up.
Even if you want to finish in a way you’ve already done before, it’s good to give her a say in it.
Because she might not be in the mood for a mouthful of come this time. Maybe she’s feeling a bit too lazy for the post-facial washup.
One night she wants to see your come splatter all over her stomach and the next she might rather you just make the mess on yourself.
Telling her you’re about to come gives her a moment to make sure you finish in a way she can actually enjoy.
That might mean taking her mouth off your cock and finishing you with her hand instead. Or pointing your dick away from her face for the last few strokes. Or just politely requesting that you come on her ass instead of coming inside her.
She Gets Massively Turned on When You Say It
Hearing you say you’re about to come is fucking hot.
For one thing, it’s dirty talk. And any kind of dirty talk is a massive turn on.
It’s a few extra filthy words out of your mouth, and you should definitely not hold any of those back.
But it’s also because seeing and hearing you come is so arousing.
The sounds you make when you finish. The fact that you’re hitting a peak of pleasure. The way you lose control of yourself and your body for a few moments. Everything about it is extremely hot.
And when you announce it, she gets to enjoy it even more.
It builds anticipation for it. Even if it’s just a few seconds before you shoot your load, knowing it’s on its way really ramps up her excitement.
And knowing you’re on the verge of coming means she can fully focus on you.
She can listen out for the change in your breathing. She can pay attention to the way your muscles flex. She can try to feel the way your cock twitches.
Your orgasm is one of the highlights of sex for her too. And when she knows you’re about to come, she doesn’t have to miss a single detail of it.
She Wants to Be Your Dirty Girl
The hornier I am, the dirtier I get.
Partly, that’s because I’m down for more when I’m aroused. Things that felt just a little too filthy half an hour ago suddenly seem really fucking fun.
But it’s also because I want to feel like a really naughty girl. And that means doing things that make Mr. Austin look at me like I am one.
There’s a really good chance your girl is the same.
The right stimulation can turn her on. So does anything that reminds her how capable, attractive, or dominant you can be.
And some things really do it for her because they make her feel like she’s turning you on.
She wants to be your dirty girl.
And your climax is one of her best opportunities to feel that way.
When you tell her you’re about to come, she can pull out all the stops.
She can keep her mouth on you and swallow your load enthusiastically.
She can stick her tits out while jerking you so your come lands on her tits.
She can beg you to come all over her face.
She can sweetly ask you to pull out and come on her pussy instead of inside her.
Or she can just ramp up the dirty talk.
She can encourage you to come for her. She can practically plead for you to finish on her ass. She can playfully encourage you to stroke yourself - and giggle sweetly when she sees your load erupt from your cock.
Maybe you’re going to creampie her either way. But because she sees it coming she can tell you to fill her with your come.
Those dirty girl moves are all incredibly fucking hot. And that’s precisely how she wants to feel.
She Wants to Come With You
Simultaneous orgasms are extremely tricky. They’re a lot easier when you’re enjoying some mutual masturbation, but even then it’s tough.
But you can get close - and that can be very satisfying.
It’s intense too. My orgasms are even stronger when Mr. Austin is coming at the same time. Hearing him come pushes me further over the edge.
Your lady can only experience that if you warn her that your climax is coming. Because nearly simultaneous orgasms don’t happen randomly. They happen because she makes them happen.
She’s got moves that will speed up her climax. She just needs to know when to use them.
Rubbing her clit faster while you’re fucking her could do it. Pressing her vibrator harder against her pussy might take her there faster too.
She can decide to lean into her pleasure instead of trying to hold back her orgasm.
If she likes to fantasize during sex, she can skip right to picturing the hottest part.
She won’t always come with you. But if she knows when you’re about to hit your peak, she can at least try.
Give Her a Better Ending
There’s one exception to all of this.
Genuine surprise cumshots can be extremely fun.
If your orgasm is so sneaky that it catches you off guard too, that can be part of her excitement. It’s unexpected in a way that feels playful.
And knowing that the pleasure was so intense you couldn’t even tell the difference between the cusp of your orgasm and the stimulation that led you there is really fucking hot.
The rest of the time, you should definitely let her know.
You want her to enjoy your climax. You want her to be turned on instead of surprised. You want to feel her excitement.
And you might come even harder when she’s being a dirty girl and begging for it.
There’s really nothing to lose. It’ll be better for you. And it’ll be hotter for her.
So don’t hold back. When you feel your climax coming, just say those four little words and watch how turned on she gets.
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