Rock the Shocker
It’s not just a high school joke
If you’ve heard of the shocker, you probably haven’t heard about it since high school.
It’s a technique for giving manual sex. Two fingers (usually the index and middle finger) give some vaginal penetration while another (usually the pinky) gives anal stimulation.
But it was always treated almost like an urban legend. I heard people make jokes about it but as far as I could tell, no one was actually using it as a sex move.
When I become an adult, I almost completely forgot about it. I probably wouldn’t have thought about it at all if it wasn’t for the fact that I spent a lot of time listening to Peaches while driving.
After a while, it occurred to me that I had actually been on the receiving end of the shocker on repeat occasions, I just didn’t call it that. I didn’t call it anything, really - it was just my pussy and ass getting fingered at the same time.
When I put two and two together, I realized that none of us had given the shocker its due. Because once you start working it into some fun, grown-ass sex, it stops being a crass punchline and just becomes a damn good time.
If your partner is into anal stimulation, giving her the shocker could result in really good finger play and some blended orgasms. Here are some tips you should follow if you want to rock the shocker.
First, Get Consent
This one probably goes without saying, but I feel like I should address it because of the whole concept behind the shocker.
Sadly, it doesn’t seem to get its name from the electrifying pleasure it gives you. Instead, it’s supposed to be about the element of surprise. The idea is that you’re fingering your lady like a proper gentleman, but then you slip your pinky into her ass without checking in with her.
Don’t even think about doing that. You should never put anything in anyone’s ass without giving proper warning and getting their approval. That’s consent 101.
Getting verbal consent is ideal, but if you want to ask non-verbally you can also slowly and gradually work your way up to it. Gently rub your lubed up pinky against her asshole while you finger her and see how she feels about it. Asking “Is this okay?” while you’re doing it is a good way to gauge her comfort level before moving ahead.
Be Patient
Not everyone likes to kick things off with anal play. In fact, I suspect that most women prefer getting worked up quite a bit before anything goes into their ass.
So, don’t make the shocker one of your introductory moves. Unless she wants you to do it sooner, you should save it for late into your foreplay or between bouts of penetrative sex.
Start with Vaginal Penetration Only
Once you’ve got her consent, it’s best not to go straight to fingering her ass. Instead, start with one, then two fingers in her pussy. Get her stimulated and used to the sensation before giving her any anal action.
If she’s multiorgasmic, I recommend taking it a step further and making her come with your fingers before putting one in her ass.
Work It Slowly
When she’s ready for you to put your finger in her ass, don’t jab it in two knuckles deep. Instead, go slowly.
Start by rubbing her asshole so she gets used to having it stimulated. Then move on to some very slow and shallow penetration. Let her get comfortable with your finger before you ease it in further.
Even if she has plenty of experience with it, anal is something that you can’t rush. Unless she’s really trained her body (and unless you’re dating an actual porn star, there’s a good chance she hasn’t), she’ll probably need to take a few moments to get used to it every time.
Don’t Skip the Lube
You can cover your finger with spit, you can get it slick by fingering her with your pinky beforehand, or you can give her a really wet rimjob, but none of those are substitutes for proper lubrication.
You should always have lube around for any kind of sexual activity, but it’s practically essential for anal play. So, don’t skip it.
The nice thing about anal is that you can use any kind of lube for it, but I recommend using silicone-based lubes over water-based or oil-based. It makes penetration easier and you probably won’t have to reapply it unless you’re giving her the shocker repeatedly or for a very long stretch of time.
Never Go From Ass to Pussy
Going from ass to pussy is something you’ll see in porn, but it’s just not sanitary.
Once your finger goes into her ass, don’t go anywhere near her vulva with it. No matter how well you’re fingering her, she probably won’t have a whole lot of fun if she’s spending the whole time worrying she’ll get an infection.
You Don’t Have to Thrust With All Three Fingers
Once you’ve got all three fingers in her, you can thrust with all of them, but you don’t have to. She might prefer if you just keep your pinky inside her. That way, it can basically act like a buttplug: giving her extra sensations and a stronger orgasm just by staying in place.
The Two-Handed Shocker
The traditional shocker is a one-handed move, but it has its limits.
With your pinky in her ass, you can’t really stimulate her G-spot all that well. And if you can contort your hand enough to do the come hither motion from the right angle while keeping your pinky in, there’s a chance you either make it unpleasant for her or make your hand very sore.
That’s why there’s no shame in giving a two-handed shocker. When you insert a finger from one hand in her ass, the fingers on your other hand can stimulate her with a lot more dexterity. You won’t have any problem hitting her G-spot or doing any other moves she enjoys.
It’s also a good way to regulate your speed. Using two hands makes it a lot easier to finger her quickly while sticking to slow and gentle anal penetration.
The Holy Grail
Done the right way and at the right moment, the shocker is a fantastic sex move. But there’s one modification that I need to include here because it takes it to the next level.
The first time I experienced it, Mr. Austin was fingering me. He had just brought me to an orgasm and was easing a finger into my ass. All his fingers worked me slowly and a few seconds later I felt his tongue against my clit.
The sensation of his tongue on me was familiar - him lapping my clit while fingering my ass and pussy wasn’t.
The blend of sensations was so pleasurable, I couldn’t hold back, I moaned out “holy fucking hell!” and made all sorts of other noises while I felt it all.
I came really hard, and if he hadn’t gone for a second round of it, I probably would’ve begged him for more.
Being eaten out while getting the shocker is some seriously good stuff. And getting a blended orgasm from three kinds of stimulation is something that should be on any woman’s wish list if she hasn’t experienced it already.
If you’re giving her the shocker and you want to win some serious brownie points, put your mouth on her pussy at the same time. It’s some truly memorable stuff.
Give the Shocker Its Due
The shocker deserves more love than it gets. It shouldn’t just be giggled about by high schoolers.
It’s fun on its own, and that’s a good enough reason to take it seriously. But it also works really well as an introduction to anal.
For one thing, most guys have less girth on their pinkies than their cocks. It’s also easier to get the angle right when you’re using your finger. But more importantly, the shocker has some built-in vaginal or G-spot stimulation, which will help her relax, get more comfortable, and ease penetration.
So, whether she’s trying anal play for the first time or she’s already a pro at it, consider giving her the shocker. And don’t be surprised if she likes it so much she starts blasting Peaches in the car, too.
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And if you liked this article, you should totally check out the Pussy Eating Mistakes (It’s Slurpy Summer, Baby!) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!
