How to Become Multi-Orgasmic

Yes, men can do it too



I used to be a one-and-done kind of lady.

Orgasms were the end-point of whatever naughty stuff I was doing. When I came, that was it for me. I’d stop masturbating or be done having sex.

Once I came down from my climax, my arousal would disappear and I’d go back to my normal state of mind (still dirty, but without strong desire).

It wasn’t an issue when I was a teenager. I didn’t have a lot of opportunities for long, drawn-out masturbation sessions. And none of the guys I dated or hooked up with ever even tried to make me come.

Then I met a guy who could. With him, I discovered that I have premature orgasms — I come easy and I come fast.

Unless we took things real slow, or I did a lot more giving than receiving, I would finish soon after we started.

That wasn’t a big deal. In fact, it was kind of fun because we were having sex several times a day anyway.

After a while, though, all that new relationship energy and the intense desires that come with it start to fade a bit. You have to go back to living a normal life instead of spending all day naked in bed watching TV or feeling each other up while listening to New Order albums.

That’s when the one-and-done thing started to get frustrating.

First off, when I’ve only got enough libido to have sex a few times a week, I don’t want it to end so abruptly. I want to make it last. When I’m done, I want to look at the clock and say “Holy shit, it’s late!”

I also hated having to choose how I got off. If Mr. Austin ate me out to completion, I would sometimes regret not having sex. When he just went down on me long enough to get me started and he would fuck me to an orgasm, it made me wish I could get off on his tongue, too.

(It was all amazingly satisfying, of course. I’m just a big fan of getting as much pleasure as I can.)

I also felt bad for Mr. Austin. I could still do stuff after he got me off. Nothing stopped me from jerking him off, sucking his cock or fucking him post-orgasm. And I did those things because I wanted to give him more. But even when I managed to work up the energy to do it, I didn’t do it with as much gusto. I just wasn’t horny enough to get really into it.

There’s a noticeable difference between an enthusiastic handjob or blowjob and one you give because you do because you feel you should. I hated knowing he had to settle for less, especially after he managed to make me come so well.

I was so jealous of the women who were multi-orgasmic. I fantasized about being able to keep going and going.

I had no idea that I could teach myself to have multiple orgasms. In fact, I did it by accident.

Masturbating My Way to Multiple Orgasms

I love masturbating. And not just because I love to have an orgasm — I love jilling off and playing with sex toys.

The trouble is, I figured out how to get myself off pretty damn early. Discovering vibrators just sped up the process.

I often wished I could prolong my masturbation sessions, so I tried to stop myself from having an orgasm too quickly. But holding myself back didn’t feel natural. I still had a strong urge to climax. My fingers would speed up instinctively or I would struggle to pull the vibrator away from my clit.

I tried to edge myself, but I didn’t always have the kind of discipline it took. I’d usually go a bit too far and accidentally make myself come before I wanted to.

I needed a new approach. I decided to just let myself get off and then just go again.

I would have an orgasm and lose my arousal as usual, but because I made a commitment to myself, I would keep the porn on and keep touching myself.

It was a bit awkward at times, but I’d get there eventually. I would come a second time and get the amount of self-love I wanted.

Soon, I skipped the post-orgasm lull altogether. I had managed to rewire my brain. Instead of losing my arousal after a climax, I was ready for more as soon as I caught my breath.

It worked with masturbation and it worked with sex, too. Mr. Austin could get me off multiple times before it felt like it was too much.

My Multi-Orgasmic Man

Before Mr. Austin, I had a boyfriend who would hate having his cock touched after he came because it got way too sensitive.

I assumed that was a guy thing and Mr. Austin would be the same. As it turns out, though, he’s been multi-orgasmic longer than I have. I just never realized it because he’s a delayed ejaculator so he never goes for a second round.

He even has the same origin story as I do.

He loves masturbating, and spent quite a bit of time doing it when he was sixteen and pohad all sorts of spare time.

He loved it so much he sometimes hated being done, especially if he had found some particularly good porn to get off to.

So, he would regularly let the porn play, and keep touching himself until he got aroused again and could make himself come a second time.

Soon, he didn’t have to work up that arousal — he felt ready to go right after coming.

(Yeah, we’re both natural born hedonists — it’s no wonder we ended up tying the knot.)

How to Become Multi-Orgasmic

It didn’t take me long to become multi-orgasmic and it just took a bit of practice. Whether you’ve got a cock or a pussy, the methods are more or less the same.

So, here’s what you can do to keep your arousal strong after an orgasm.

Push Through

Becoming multi-orgasmic is kind of a mind over matter thing. It’s about setting an intention and just going for it, no matter how you feel.

The first times I did it, it really felt like I was pushing through. I was determined to make myself have an orgasm even though I was no longer horny after I came the first time.

It’s a weird headspace to be in, trying to get yourself off when your body is telling you it’s done.

But you have to show your body who’s boss. You have to push through that dip in arousal until you get back into it again.

For me, that meant touching myself, watching porn, and just giving it a good goddamn try until I was aroused again.

The more I pushed through it, the less time my body took to get aroused again. Eventually, it took so little time, the gap was barely noticeable.

Vary the Stimulation

Having multiple orgasms is mostly a psychological thing. It’s about desire and keeping the arousal going. Still, there are some physiological obstacles that can get in your way. The big one is sensitivity.

After I come, my clit gets more sensitive. That made it harder for me to go for round two and get that second orgasm.

The best way to overcome that is to vary the stimulation.

If you can give yourself clitoral and G-spot orgasms fairly easily, you can alternate between the two. If you used a G-spot stimulator to get your first orgasm, grab a vibrator and work your clit for the second one — or vice versa.

I’m a clitoral stimulation gal all the way, but I still managed to switch things up by saving my easier orgasm for last. It’s harder for me to get off when I’m laying on my back with my legs spread, so that’s what I did first. Then, for my second round, I’d lay on my stomach and use the technique that gets me off much more quickly.

And if you’re way too sensitive after you come, find a way to get aroused without touching your pussy. Put on some hot-as-fuck porn and stroke and tug your nipples until you get back into it.

Guys don’t have the luxury of multiple types of orgasm (unless they’re into prostate stimulation, in which case, go for it), so if you’ve got a penis and it’s way too sensitive after coming, your best bet might be to just touch yourself very lightly and gently (with plenty of lube) until you’re hard (or semi-hard) and ready to stroke yourself again.

Go Solo

If you want to become multi-orgasmic, it’s probably best to try pushing through when you’re masturbating instead of having partnered sex.

That way, there’s less pressure, you can focus on yourself more, and you’ll probably feel less mood-killing stress.

Plus, pushing through and having sex when you don’t really want to can feel a bit sketchy or triggering, so I can’t advise it.

If you really struggle to get re-aroused without your partner around (I’m a bit of an exhibitionist, so I get it), try mutual masturbation. Watching your partner get off (and being watched by them) might just help you get there faster.

It’s Worth a Shot

I have no idea if everyone is capable of multiple orgasms. There seem to be fewer multi-orgasmic men than women, so maybe plenty of them just can’t achieve it.

And really, it’s not a big deal if you can’t. Single, one-and-done orgasms are absolutely worth it. (I’m just greedy.)

Still, I think it’s worth a shot. If you’re not already multi-orgasmic, try to get yourself there. If you can, the payoff is longer-lasting, more orgasmic sex and masturbation. And even if you never achieve it, attempting to get there is pretty fucking fun in itself.

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