Sex on Top Sucks - But It Doesn't Have To
5 ways to make it worth the effort
I know, I know. I hated getting on top too.
I loved getting fucked from behind since my first round of doggystyle. I’ve taken it lying down more times than I can count.
But getting on top was always kind of disappointing.
I really didn’t want it to be, though. I wished I could be a horny cowgirl who straddled guys and rode them like mechanical bulls.
I knew getting on top would make me feel like a better fuck. It would give me more control so I could get tons of pleasure.
And it was always really fun at first. I mean, it’s taking a dick at my preferred pace and rhythm. The moment I eased myself onto it felt breathtakingly amazing.
But it was a total tease - that initial excitement never lasted very long.
Fucking on top is a legitimate workout. It was exhausting. My thighs would get sore. If I went long enough, the muscles would start to burn.
I’d do my best to power through until I came. That way, it felt natural for me to flip around so I could be on the bottom again.
I did it once in a while - whenever I got in the mood for it. But it was never one of my favorite ways to fuck. And it was never worth the effort.
That’s been changing lately, though. I’m finally getting into cowgirl sex and fucking loving it too.
But it’s not because I’m powering ahead and suffering through the muscle aches. It’s because I’ve been experimenting and finding ways to make it so much easier and way more pleasurable.
If you hate getting on top, doing it these ways is almost definitely going to change your mind.
Grind and Bounce
I totally get the appeal of the bounce.
I’ve seen enough porn to know that it looks hot as hell. There’s nothing finer than a girl bouncing on a dick.
It looks so damn enthusiastic. You can practically feel everyone’s excitement. And you get a perfect view of all the things you really want to see - thighs flexing, asses jiggling, wet pussies slamming down on stiff cocks.
But watching the bounce is one thing. Doing it is something else altogether.
It’s really hard. It’s tiring as all fuck. And it’s not even the best way to get off.
That’s why the number one way to fall in love with cowgirl sex is to cool off on all the bouncing. You should be doing lots of grinding instead.
Grinding while you’re on top builds in a lot of breaks for your thigh muscles. That way, you can go longer without feeling tired and worn out.
But more importantly, you’re giving yourself the one thing those bouncy cowgirls aren’t getting nearly enough of - clit stimulation and plenty of it.
When you’re grinding on top, you’re pressing and rubbing your clit into his pubic bone. And that’s an incredibly pleasurable sensation.
Even better, you’re doing it while his cock is inside you. So it’s not just your clit getting some action - you’re also feeling him subtly sliding in and out of you, shifting around, and hitting all sorts of really good spots.
You could grind all the way through if you really want to just use him to get off. But I like mixing it up so I get a bit of everything - external pleasure from the grinding, internal pleasure from bouncing. And if I’m lucky, I’ll get to enjoy two completely different kinds of orgasms before I even dismount.
Do It on the Couch
This was my first big cowgirl breakthrough, and it happened pretty much by accident.
We got this big round armchair that I think is supposed to seat one person, but it’s spacious enough for two people to fuck. And I bet three people would have absolutely no problem fooling around on it.
I loved it so much - I just couldn’t figure out where to put it.
I got it for the living room, but it made it feel kind of cramped. I tried it in the sun room, but then I started using it to grow plants.
After a while, it found its way into my bedroom. And it stayed there for months because it was such a great spot for all sorts of sexy fun.
Because it’s lower than the bed, it made giving blowjobs on my knees so much easier. Leaning over it put me in the perfect position to get fucked from behind.
Then one night, I was feeling really frisky and decided to climb up and ride the cock I had just covered in spit. And what a fantastic ride it was.
I was so aroused and Mr. Austin’s cock was so slick and wet that it slid into me without any effort. Just the smoothest fuck imaginable.
But the best part was the angle.
Him lounging back with his legs off the edge of the chair. Me getting to keep my thighs lower because of it. I don’t know what it was, but it just worked really fucking well. It was probably the most comfortable cowgirl sex I ever had.
And then I found out that it works really well for reverse cowgirl, too. I get to keep my feet on the floor, bounce with a lot less effort, and get some really deep stimulation.
I almost never do cowgirl in bed now. Riding on couches and chairs is just so much easier.
Smother Him Once in a While
If you’re going to ride him the same way the whole way through, you’re going to call it quits before you want to.
You’ll be doing the same movements. You’ll be using the same muscles and flexing them the same way. There’s no break until it’s over, which means it’ll be over way too quickly.
That’s why you should smother him with your tits.
Okay, not necessarily. But lean your body right into his - so close that your chest is pressing against him.
That doesn’t exactly make cowgirl easier, just different. But different is exactly what you need if you want to make it last.
When you’re leaning into him, you’re working a different set of muscles. It feels like you’re giving your legs a break, even though you’re still using them.
You’ll get to experience his cock differently, too. Leaning in changes the depth and the sensations you get from it.
So go ahead and smother him with your tits. Then sit back up and let him admire them. If you keep alternating between the two, you’ll get to ride longer and get even more pleasure from it.
Take It Deep
Okay, so this won’t make getting on top any easier. In fact, I find it much harder.
But I still want to tell you about it because it makes it very, very rewarding.
When you get in your typical cowgirl position, you’ve got your shins flat against the bed. It’s intuitive. It’s comfortable. Makes total sense.
But if you put your feet flat on the bed instead and ride him in a squatting position, you’re going to get a dicking so deep it’ll feel like his cock got longer.
Getting in that position can be a little awkward. It’s tough to keep it going. If cowgirl feels like a workout, this is the high intensity version. You’ll probably end up with sore thighs, but the deep and intense pleasure you’ll get is totally worth it.
Make Him Do the Work
If you’re on top of a really giving fuck, you might not actually need to put in a whole lot of effort.
The moment you get tired and start to slow down, he’ll take over. His hands will grip your waist and he’s going to work his hips to do all the thrusting for you.
That’s a move that takes a hell of a lot of energy - but at least it’s his and not yours.
And you can make it happen with a little bit of dirty talk. Just stop bouncing on his dick, moan “fuck me,” and he’ll take over.
Then it’s just a matter of giving him lots of encouragement. Tell him to keep fucking your pussy. Tell him you love how well he’s fucking you. Tell him it feels amazing. Or just tell him not to stop.
He’ll probably keep working hard just so he can hear all the naughty words coming out of your mouth.
It’s tough stuff, though. You’ll probably have to take over after a bit. But it’ll feel incredible while it lasts - and it’ll give you enough of a break to repay the favor with plenty of bouncing and grinding.
Enter Your Cowgirl Era
Even with all these modifications, I’m still not a horny cowgirl through and through.
I don’t get on top every time. No matter how many orgasms I get while I’m riding, it’s never how I’m going to finish a fuck session. And as fun as it is, I still prefer a comfortable spooning, some intense doggy, or a hard missionary pounding.
But still, I’m way more into it than I’ve ever been before.
It’s way easier. It feels a hell of a lot more pleasurable. It’s still a bit of a workout but at least it’s worth the effort now.
So if you hate getting on top, try modifying it.
You’ll have more variety. You’ll get better stimulation. And if you end up begging him to take over after two minutes, at least those two minutes are going to feel amazing.
If you liked this article, you should totally check out the Pussy Eating Mistakes (It’s Slurpy Summer, Baby!) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!
