How to Make Him Eat Your Pussy Longer
Keep him between your legs for as long as you want
The first time a guy went down on me, he did it so quickly that I’m surprised I even noticed.
He was an ex-boyfriend, but we had spent the day together and I could feel our old spark coming back.
He was acting bold and putting the moves on me, drunk off a bottle of red wine I had stolen from my parents.
His desire turned me on, and I didn’t mind the tart taste in his mouth when we were making out.
I felt his fingers working their way down my pants and then undoing them. He caught me completely off-guard by saying he was going to eat me out.
In all the time we’d been together, he had never once put his face near my pussy. It was either the wine or the sexual experiences he had after we broke up, but something clearly changed his mind about giving oral.
My heart raced with nervous excitement. Not just because I’d never had anyone go down on me, but because I couldn’t think of a better person to do it with. He had soft lips and knew how to use them - even when he was too drunk and a bit sloppy, he was still an incredible kisser.
I couldn’t wait to see what his mouth could do to my other lips.
It was really fucking good while it lasted. But that’s just the problem - it didn’t last long at all.
The licks he gave me felt incredible. Warm, soft, wet, and intensely pleasurable. I wanted him to keep going - I would have let him go all night if he had been willing to.
But he pulled his mouth away after a few seconds because he wanted to fuck. Later, he got queasy and couldn’t hold down the booze any longer. So, I never got to find out exactly what his mouth could do.
Things got better from there, thankfully. I never slept with him again, but I eventually settled into a relationship where the pussy eating lasts much longer than it did on that night.
Oral sex is pretty much perfect. It can be loving and intimate or passionate and intense. It’s warm, wet, and just feels amazing overall. And the orgasms you get from it can be some of the strongest.
It rarely disappoints - unless it’s too short.
There’s no set length of time for really good pussy eating. But ideally it would be somewhere between however long it takes to make you come and however long he can go without hurting his neck.
The best way to get longer oral is to be with someone who’s really into it - a guy who wants to eat your pussy almost as much as you want him to eat yours.
But even if you’re fucking a real pussy fiend, there are still a few things you can do to encourage him to use his mouth even longer.
Be an Incredibly Enthusiastic Recipient
Giving someone an enthusiastic response is the best way to get them to do anything and do it longer.
Moaning in pleasure, letting yourself squirm in excitement, letting little dirty phrases fall from your lips - they’re all going to show him just how much you’re into it and encourage him to keep going.
Even something simple as saying “oh yes” and “that feels so fucking good” can make all the difference.
It can be physical, too. Play with his hair, touch his head, grip the sheets tightly, prop yourself up for a few moments so you can look down and watch him in action.
You don’t want to leave any doubt in his mind. He shouldn’t be wondering if you would rather he stops using his mouth so he can fuck you instead. Or whether you’re really into it or just need it as foreplay. And you don’t want him thinking that one or two minutes is good enough so maybe it should be his turn to get sucked off.
You want to give him the kind of reaction that makes it perfectly clear that the only thing you want right now is for him to stay right there and keep doing what he’s doing.
So, express your enthusiasm. The more you show him that you want it, that you’re enjoying it, and that it’s giving you the kind of pleasure you crave, the more motivated he’ll be to keep going.
Praise His Skills
If you praise his technique, his moves, and the way his tongue makes you come, there’s a good chance you can turn him into an extremely proud pussy eater.
If he’s good at it, let him know. Make him feel proud of his abilities. Make him feel like eating you out is an ego boost - an opportunity to show just how good he is.
And if you’ve told him before, tell him again. Let him know that he’s still got it - that his tongue still gives you an intense amount of pleasure.
Some guys really need this because they have performance anxiety when it comes to eating pussy.
With sex, they feel like they know what they’re doing - just thrust in and out until someone comes. But when it comes to oral, things get complicated. There’s technique involved. There are different parts of the pussy that respond in different ways to getting licked.
If he doesn’t do it as enthusiastically as he does other stuff and taps out soon after he starts, it might be because he’s not sure he’s any good at it. He might even be a bit embarrassed about it.
So, let him know how much you love it. Tell him how good he is with his tongue. When he does something that feels amazing, tell him you love the way he does it.
All that praise is going to reassure him that he’s doing a good job and encourage him to keep going.
Don’t bullshit him, though. If you don’t love what he’s doing or you’re not a fan of his technique, don’t pretend you are just because it’s better than not getting eaten out at all.
Pick out something he does that makes your pussy feel incredible and give him some genuine praise for it. Encourage him to do more of it.
And if he does anything that doesn’t work for you, ask him to do the opposite. Tell him you think it would be really hot if he licked your labia first instead of going right for the clit. Tell him you’re really curious about how it would feel if he circled his tongue around your clit instead of lapping at it. Tell him that his slow pace is really nice but you think you might be able to come really hard if he went faster.
Framing it as a horny request will avoid triggering his performance anxiety and might even make him feel excited about trying something different.
Literally Tell Him
If you’re at all shy, dirty talk can be really fucking hard to do.
You might moan, you might shout “yes” while you’re approaching a climax, but that’s it. Even the thought of saying any more than that makes you go quiet.
But it’s a good skill to develop, even if you’re a really bashful gal. It’s going to make you feel less inhibited. It’s going to make sex more fun. It’s going to make you feel naughty and sexy.
And it’s going to mean your pussy gets more oral action.
Because when you start talking dirty, it opens you up to straight up telling your partner what you want.
You don’t have to work up the nerve to say anything super filthy like “keep licking my pussy, daddy” - though, if you’re feeling it, definitely go for it. All you have to do is keep saying things like “don’t stop” and “keep going - that feels so fucking good” when he’s going down on you.
He might not go at it forever, even if you’re practically pleading for it. But it might at least get you a few more minutes with his face between your thighs - and maybe an extra orgasm or two because of it.
Bring It Up When You’re Not Having Sex
Showing how much you love the way he’s eating you out, praising his skills while he’s using his tongue, and begging him not to stop are all going to make him want to go longer.
But if you really want to increase your chances, don’t just say nice things about his mouth when you’re having sex. You should also bring it up at random non-sexy times.
Sex talk in everyday situations hits different. And it’s sometimes even more effective than the things you say mid-fuck.
Drop flirty little comments about how you can’t wait for him to use his mouth again.
Make winking references to his amazing tongue.
Remind him that you practically melt when you think about the way he goes down on you.
Mention it over dinner. Slip it into a text conversation. Whisper a dirty comment about it in his ears when other people are around.
It’s going to show him that you love it so much and want it so badly that you’re thinking about it spontaneously.
And that’s going to make him think about it, too. It’s going to entice him, keep your pussy on his mind, and when it’s time to actually fuck, you probably won’t even have to ask him to eat you out - he’ll be eager to spread your legs and go at it for as long as he can.
Switch Up Your Positions
You probably have a favorite way to get eaten out. Chances are, it’s on your back, hips propped up, and legs splayed apart lazily. It’s a perfect way to fully relax and enjoy all the sensations.
But if that’s the only way you ever do it, you’re stuck in an oral sex rut. And that’s going to take some of the excitement out of it for him.
If you want him to get really into it, to eat you out with passion, and to do it until his tongue gets sore, make it interesting for him. Experiment with different positions so he never knows exactly what to expect.
Lie on your side and hold your leg up so he can eat you out from a different angle - and grab a good handful of your ass while he’s doing it.
Bend over so he can eat your pussy from behind. It’s going to give him a really hot visual and you’ll get to feel his tongue licking you at different angles.
Get on top. Sit on his face and ride his mouth. Or straddle his chest and let him do all the work while you suck his cock.
Ask him to eat you while you’re slouching in a chair or standing up against a wall.
Be creative, try whatever comes to your mind, get in positions you’ve only seen in porn. They might not all work, but that’s okay. They’ll make eating your pussy more playful and exciting, and that’s going to turn him on and encourage him to go longer.
Prop Yourself Up
One of the problems with pussy eating is that the ergonomics aren’t always great.
If you’re just lying flat on your back and he’s lying flat on his stomach, it probably won’t take long before his neck starts to get sore. It’ll probably happen long before you feel like you’ve had your fill of his tongue.
That’s especially true if you have a memory foam mattress like I do. They’re really comfortable but they can be inconvenient for sex.
There are a few ways to make it more comfortable. Trying different positions helps. He can try propping himself up on his elbows, though that’s not always super comfortable either.
The best way by far is to prop up your hips. That gives him easier access to your pussy, at a more comfortable angle, and will keep his neck from getting sore.
You can stack pillows under your butt. That can work alright. But what I found really effective is using a wedge.
Wedges are firmer and they’re the right shape to get your body at the perfect angle.
They’re game-changing when it comes to sex. They help you try out different positions. They make penetration feel much deeper. And they will let your partner go down on you for half an eternity without getting sore.
Propping yourself up takes the effort out of eating you out, which will keep him from tapping out early because he got uncomfortable.
Get All the Oral You Want
There’s no such thing as too much oral sex, but I really do believe you can get too little of it.
Getting a few token licks is always disappointing. It’s so much better to come from a guy’s tongue than to just have him use it to get you a bit wet.
If you feel like the pussy eating always ends before you’re done, do a few things to encourage him to lick longer.
Try out new positions, use your sweet mouth to say dirty things, make him feel like a pussy eating stud - and maybe don’t let him chug a whole bottle of wine before going down on you.
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