They’re not just for his pleasure

Strokers are cool as hell and I don’t understand why more people don’t play with them.

There’s just so much to love about a good stroker. They’re soft and squishy. Some of them look extremely realistic. From the moment I saw one, I knew they’d be really fun to use.

I love sticking my fingers inside them and feeling all the different textures they have. If I had a dick, I’m sure I would fill my nightstand drawer with a bunch of synthetic sleeves I could fuck.

So, I was genuinely surprised when my husband told me he wasn’t interested in trying them.

I figured he didn’t have any because he was frugal. Turns out he was just insecure.

He was fine with my sex toys. He never felt the need to compete with vibrators and he was happy to have them play a pretty big role when we had sex.

But the thought of using a pocket pussy really put him off.

He associated strokers with guys who couldn’t get laid or weirdos jerking off in poorly lit basements, and he was sure I’d feel the same way. In some little dark corner of his mind, he was convinced that I’d lose respect for him if he stuck his dick inside an artificial pussy.

He couldn’t have been more wrong.

I encouraged him to get one, to see how good it would feel to pump his dick into something soft and wet instead of jerking off with his bare hands like some kind of caveman.

He was still reluctant. In fact, he only changed his mind when I told him that I didn’t just want him to try a pocket pussy - I wanted to watch him do it.

I guess that excited his exhibitionist side, so we went online and ordered his very first sex toy.

We settled on a Tenga Egg because it looked fun, compact, and soft. But more important, it was disposable and affordable. If this whole experiment turned out to be a dud, it would cost us less than ten dollars to find out.

But it wasn’t a dud at all. When I took the Egg out of its plastic casing, poured lube into it, and stroked it over his stiff cock, he was won over instantly.

And so was I.

Using it on him was really fucking cool. Hearing him groan from the pleasure was hot as hell. And watching him come inside his new toy was even more arousing.

He became a stroker fan overnight. He got a few more spins out of the Tenga Egg, but I soon upgraded him to a Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit.

From there, it was more and more Tenga toys, an ass stroker, all the way down to a torso doll we can share.

In two short years, he’s gone from never having tried a sex toy to owning several. Now, he can get himself off in total luxury. And it also opened up new ways for us to play together.

Strokers might be designed for solo play, but like any good sex toy they’re even better when you use them as a couple. Here are a few ways to do that.

Enhance Your Handjobs

My husband is a handjob aficionado. He’s got a real thing for them, which is one more reason I was surprised by his reluctance to use a stroker.

After playing around with different kinds of lube and trying out a couple of fancy techniques, the only way to make a handjob more stimulating is by using toys.

Every stroker has a different internal texture, so you can play around with all sorts of sensations.

There are soft bumps and ridges that will stimulate the head of his cock. There are some that use suction to make your handjob feel more like a deep blowjob. Some sleeves will also let you apply extra pressure with your hand, so you can intensify his pleasure by tightening your grip.

This is how we play with every new stroker we get. As soon it’s out of its packaging, I’ll get Mr. Austin hard, lube up his cock, and jerk him off with the toy.

Obviously, it feels amazing for him. But it’s also really fun for me. A toy like the Tenga Egg gives me a really interesting tactile experience - like playing with a squishy toy. A stroker with a hard casing like a Fleshlight can be easier to hold and use and I don’t even have to get lube on my hands.

Threesome Roleplay

When I bought Mr. Austin a Fleshlight, I did it for a few reasons.

I wanted to give him a toy I knew had a good reputation for quality.

I was curious to see if the canister it comes in would make it easier to use on him.

But the biggest reason is that it looks like a vulva.

That’s a visual I wanted. The thought of watching his cock slide in and out of a wet pussy was extremely appealing to me.

We’ve had group sex before, but I never got to see him fuck another woman. That’s too bad, because I love the way he fucks and getting to be a spectator to it would be incredibly arousing.

An artificial pussy is the next best thing. I get to imagine that’s exactly what I’m witnessing. I can get stare at his cock pumping into that pussy while I get lost in my threesome fantasies. And I can do it all with zero risk of jealousy.

It’s not always easy to make a threesome happen. You have to both actually want it, find the right person to fuck together, and all the stars have to align so nothing fucks up your horny plans.

Groupsex roleplay is way easier.

A sex doll or a torso doll works extremey well for that kind of thing. You can also get creative by using a sex toy mount that lets him fuck a stroker in doggystyle or missionary.

But the most affordable way to do it is by using a good old fashioned pocket pussy.

Use it on him while you’re riding his face so he can fantasize about pleasuring two women at once. Have him fuck it for you so you can imagine what it would be like to watch him fuck someone else.

Throw in some dirty talk to make it even more authentic. Ask him how it feels to fuck her. Tell him it’s so hot to watch him pound into someone else. Whatever your dirty girl mind comes up with, just say it out loud.

Enjoy Some Amazing Mutual Masturbation

If you haven’t masturbated with your partner already, you really should.

I worried it would be awkward or embarrassing or something. But it wasn’t. Not even close.

It was hot as hell. I got to see him stroke off and get lost in his own pleasure. I could hear him moan and groan. I got to watch him get all messy and come all over himself.

Best of all, I could enjoy the show while jilling off.

And as fun as that is, there are a few things that can make it even better.

Watching some really good porn will make it even more entertaining.

Throwing in a little bit of dirty talk and fantasizing doesn’t hurt.

And sex toys. Lots and lots of sex toys.

I’ve got vibrators and dildos to make it really fucking fun. If I’m in a very naughty mood, I might even add a buttplug to give myself some really intense pleasure.

Mr. Austin has his strokers. Watching him use them is really fucking hot. I can also tell he’s getting lots of pleasure from them. His groans are deeper and he comes more loudly - which is exactly what I want to hear.

If you want to make your mutual masturbation even hotter, get the right accessories. Porn you can both enjoy, so much lube there’s no chance you’ll run out, and toys to enhance the pleasure you’re both getting.

Give Your Pussy a Break

One of my podcast listeners told me about the first time she used a stroker on her husband. She surprised him with a Fleshlight and gave him a very stimulating stroke.

But she didn’t stop there. She also held it between her thighs so he could fuck it like he was pounding into her.

Her husband is a delayed ejaculator. That means he can fuck and fuck and fuck without coming. It also means tapping out from handjobs because your arm gets tired, stopping a blowjob because your jaw is getting sore, or ending sex because your pussy is getting sore and overstimulated.

Bringing a stroker in bed is the perfect solution for this.

He can fuck the stroker to give your pussy a break. When he’s getting close, he can pull out and finish inside you.

Or he can fuck you until you’re spent and then switch to the sleeve to finish off.

And if you hold it between your thighs for him, you can give him the extra satisfaction fo feeling like he’s thrusting inside you.

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Sex Toys Aren’t Just for Masturbation

By now, most people have figured out that vibrators, dildos, and buttplugs aren’t just for solo play. They’re really fun to play with by yourself, but it’s even more exciting when your partner gets involved.

Strokers can be the same.

They’re great for jerking off. But you won’t enjoy their full potential until you start using them as a couple.

If your partner owns a stroker, use it on him or ask if he’d let you watch him use it on hismelf. It’s a great way to spice things up, show him that you take his pleasure seriously, and get a very hot visual experience out of it.

When you start using it togehter, you’ll love his pocket pussy almost as much as he does.

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If you liked this article, you should totally check out the Meet Our Third! (Sex Doll Threesomes, Strap-On Virgin, and Discount Porn) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!