7 Ways to Get Her to Suck You Off Longer
Make the good times last
Blowjobs are awesome. That’s as close to a universal fact as you can get.
But that doesn’t mean guys never complain about them.
Sometimes, it’s because of the technique.
She doesn’t use enough spit and drool to give him that extra stimulating sloppy toppy.
She throws in an unsettling amount of eye contact while going down on him.
Or he’s dealing with the dreaded teeth scraping against the head of his cock.
But those complaints are few and far in between. Once in a while, you’ll come across a guy who’s upset about the kind of head he’s getting. Most dudes, though, are just happy to get sucked off.
And in a way, that’s what the most common blowjob complaints are about.
For a lot of guys, the only problem with blowjobs is that they’re not getting enough of them.
That, or they’re disappointed because the good times always end too quickly.
And honestly, I completely get it. When someone’s going down on me, I want more than a few courtesy licks. I want some pleasure I can really ride out.
It’s the same when you’re getting blown. It feels amazing, so you want to savor that experience.
Well, I’ve got some good news for you. If you wish the blowjobs you got didn’t end so quickly, there are a few things you can do to encourage her to go down longer.
Scrub It Up
Making sure your junk is fresh and clean is the most important step you can take. If you want extra-long blowjobs, it’s essential.
Even a hardcore knob slob is going to tap out early if her nose is inches away from balls that smell a bit too much like balls - if you know what I mean.
In fact, it’s one of the reasons some women give up blowing their partners altogether. It’s not because they don’t want to suck cock - they just want to suck on one that smells and tastes clean.
That can be tricky because your crotch just so happens to be a part of your body that has a nasty tendency to get sweaty and accumulate bacteria - and the unfortunate smell that comes with it.
That means even when the rest of your body is feeling pretty fresh, your balls might still need a quick wash.
Take a shower if you have to. Scrub up at the sink if that’s all you need. Whatever it takes to make sure nothing about your whole situation down there is going to turn her off.
Keep an Assortment of Flavored Lubes
Using flavored lube works to your advantage in two ways.
First, the extra lubrication is going to make the blowjob more comfortable for her.
A slick and slippery cock is easier to blow. The lube is going to keep her lips from getting dry, which will make the blowjob feel smoother and more natural - for her and for you.
It’s especially helpful if you happen to be on the thicker side. Sucking a girthy cock is most definitely challenging, but a bit of lubrication can help her handle it.
Second, flavored lube makes giving head way more fun.
The best ones are legitimately tasty and turn any dick into a super suckable cocksicle.
And it’s even more exciting if you have a lot of different flavors so you can keep switching things up. You can surprise her by picking the flavor and having her guess what it is. Or you shop for new lubes together so she can get really excited to taste them all and try them out.
That’s going to make the blowjobs a lot more playful, and that’s going to make her want to go as long as she’s comfortable going.
Be Her Blowjob Fantasy
Lots of women love giving blowjobs. Sucking cock excites them. They get off to the very thought of it.
The thing is, your gal’s blowjob fantasies aren’t really about having a dick between her lips.
What turns her on about a blowjob is the dynamic it creates.
Every blowjob queen has a different reason for getting down on her knees, but there are some common themes.
It could be that giving as much pleasure as she can makes her feel really sexy.
Maybe she wants to feel like a dirty girl and sucking someone off does that for her.
If she’s a little more submissive, she might do it to feel like she’s being of service to whoever is at the other end of the shaft she’s servicing.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys are pretty chill and quiet when they’re getting head. So instead of feeling those dynamics that make her super horny, the blowjob becomes just about taking a cock in her mouth - which probably doesn’t excite her nearly as much.
But if you can give her the kind of blowjob experience she fantasizes about, she’ll enjoy giving you head almost as much as you love getting it. And that means you’ll be getting her A game - her longest, most skillful, and most enthusiastic blowjobs.
To get that out of her, you’ll have to be a lot more active while she’s sucking you off.
Make her feel wanted by touching her. Lay a hand on her shoulder. Play with her hair.
Get noisy to let her know how good her skills are.
Moan when her tongue is making you feel really fucking good. Don’t be afraid to let out a groan when she does something that really turns you on, like when she looks up at you with her doe eyes like a good girl or licks your balls like a naughty little thing.
And don’t hold back on the dirty talk.
Praise her skills. Tell her how incredible her mouth feels. Say how much you love watching her suck you off.
If she’s into light degradation, you can call her your dirty little slut - or whatever it is that turns her on.
Those are the things that will turn the blowjob into one she could get off to - and one that she won’t be in a hurry to finish.
Make It Her Idea
There’s one big blowjob mistake that guys in long-term relationships tend to make.
They miss the good old days, back when things were still new and she was giving head like it was her hobby.
Now, things are settled down and the blowjobs aren’t happening as often as they used to.
They get a little impatient. Waiting around for some head doesn’t get them blown nearly as often as it used to. So, they start requesting it.
Usually, they’ll propose it sometime during the foreplay.
It doesn’t hurt to ask, right?
Except it kind of does. At least in this situation.
Because blowjobs are a delicate subject for a lot of women.
In principle, there’s nothing wrong with asking for a little suction. In the right context and with the right approach, it can even be a bit playful or a dominant move.
But in almost every situation, it sucks the fun right out of sucking.
It turns it into an obligation. Something she’s doing because she feels like she should, not because she really wants to. And most likely something she’ll only do for as long as she has to.
You’re much better off putting her in the right mood for a blowjob.
Get her so horny she wants to blow you - without being asked.
Be the dommy daddy she wants while she’s sucking you off so she can’t wait to do it again.
Make sex fun and playful instead of just a tit-for-tat where you’re both just trying to get yours.
You probably won’t get as much head as you did at the start of the relationship because new relationship energy is one of the biggest libido boosts there is. And she probably won’t suck you off for quite as long as she did back when she was trying to impress you.
But if she’s sucking you off because she feels like it and not because she feels obligated to, you’re going to get longer blowjob sessions out of it.
Finger Her While She Goes Down on You
Another really good way to make a blowjob last is to give her some stimulation while she’s giving you head.
Rubbing her pussy, stroking her clit, or fingering her is going to give her lots of pleasure. And that’s going to encourage her to keep it going even longer.
This one is actually a bit risky, though. Not because she might hate it, but because it might be too good.
If she’s anything like me, getting fingered while she has a cock in her mouth isn’t just going to be pleasurable - it’s going to be incredibly arousing.
That means she might come quickly and come hard. And even though that’s going to be hot for you to watch and incredibly hot for her to experience, it’s probably going to cut your blowjob short.
But hey, that’s not a total loss. A hard orgasm like that might end the knob slobbing faster than you want it to, but it’s also the kind of thing that can end up in her spank bank. And doing things that make her fantasize about sucking your cock is definitely going to pay off for you in the long run.
Don’t Get Thrusty
Blowjobs are vanilla. They’re part of most people’s sex repertoire. You don’t need to be freaky to suck a dick.
Facefucking’s different. That’s a kink.
Aggressively thrusting into a girl’s mouth is something you do when she’s really into rough sex. Same with pushing her head down on your dick.
Gentle facefucking, too. Even if you’re not being aggressive and jabbing your cock down her throat, it’s still something that has a tinge of BDSM to it. It’s a move that puts her in a submissive position, because you’re using her mouth instead of letting her pleasure you.
There’s nothing wrong with any of that. And there are definitely women who want every blowjob to leave them in tears from all the gagging. Not to mention all the subby girls who find it incredibly arousing to have a guy grip them by the hair and thrust into their mouths.
But most women don’t get turned on by that kind of thing. People tend to be more vanilla than that.
If you’re a little too aggressive during a blowjob, it might turn her off, it might ruin the dynamic for her, or it might even be distressing and make her feel violated.
She’ll be in a much more giving mood if you let her have control over the blowjob. I don’t mean you should be totally passive - go ahead and talk dirty to her, praise her, and show your enjoyment and appreciation. But let her be the one to decide how fast and deep it’s going to get. Give her a chance to show off all her best moves.
And if you suspect she might want to get facefucked, get her head pushed down on your cock, or any kinky shit like that, don’t just pull those moves on her. Talk to her about it first. Because women who fantasize about really rough sex or like to jill off to extreme porn don’t necessarily want to get fucked that way. And the ones who do will still want it to happen with their explicit consent.
Be Giving As Fuck
Most women love giving head - as long as the sex they’re having is amazing.
When they’re incredibly satisfied, they’re getting their minds blown on the regular, and they can’t believe how good the action is, that’s when they get in dirty girl mode.
This is kind of tricky, because there are lots of things that can make sex exciting. And every lady is going to want something else out of it.
But in general, your best bet is to be really giving in bed.
Make the foreplay last instead of rushing to the fucking.
Eater her pussy for so long your neck almost gets sore.
Use lots of really good sex toys to enhance her pleasure and make things more interesting.
Keep going until she comes. And if she’s down for it, go until she comes again - and again.
Ask her about some of her fantasies and turn-ons and incorporate them into the way you fuck.
Don’t neglect her pleasure - before she sucks you off, after she sucks you off, and on nights when her mouth doesn’t even go near your dick. Because if you can make her feel really well taken care of, there’s a good chance she’ll want to take very good care of you too.
Put All the Odds in Your Favor
A lot of guys sabotage their blowjobs.
They don’t realize they’re doing it. But the way they approach getting head spoils the whole cocksucking vibe for her.
So, they end up on the receiving end of some very brief blowjobs - if they’re lucky enough to get any to begin with.
The better approach is really simple. You just have to make the blowjob better for her.
Do things that make sucking your cock incredibly hot. Leave her so sexually satisfied that she’ll be eager to give you lots of pleasure. And a dab of flavored lube never hurts.
If you do those things, I can’t guarantee it’s going to result in more blowjobs.
I can’t guarantee that she’ll drop to her knees and give you a marathon suck session.
But I can guarantee that this is your best shot at getting the long-lasting, amazing head you’ve been fantasizing about.
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