3 Things to Try the Next Time You Give a Blowjob
Blow him away
I can’t deepthroat. I’ve tried to do it a few times, but I haven’t come close to getting it all the way in.
I can get about four or five inches into my mouth at a time, but can’t go so deep that my lips are kissing the base.
It’s not really a big deal. I’m not even sure I’d want to throat a cock even if I could - especially if it involves any kind of gagging or gulping.
But I used to think that meant I couldn’t give really good blowjobs.
I sucked cock as best as I could.
I teased the head of my partner’s dick with my tongue. I bobbed my head at different speeds, trying to give as much stimulation as my lips could. I stroked his shaft while sucking him, I gave his balls a few licks, I even let him gently fuck my mouth.
I knew it was probably good. I just didn’t know that it would be amazing or impressive unless I could make his whole shaft disappear into my throat.
Thankfully, I got over those feelings of blowjob inadequacy (don’t worry, I still have plenty of other insecurities to take its place).
That’s partly because I learned to accept myself - blowjob skills and all. It’s okay not to be amazing at everything, and you can still give a very decent suck even if you can’t do it at a professional level.
But it’s also because I realized that deepthroating isn’t necessarily the best way to give head.
I’m sure the sensations are unique. Maybe it feels incredible to have your cock deep inside a woman’s throat. And if you’re really into rough sex and power play, throatfucking can create a very satisfying dominant and submissive dynamic.
There are so many other things that make a blowjob great, though. It’s not all about depth.
Enthusiasm is a really big one. Sucking cock like you actually love sucking cock is the best way to give amazing head.
Playfulness makes a difference, too. Switching things up, being spontaneous, and following your cocksucking heart instead of following a blowjob script is going to make it way more exciting.
And being experimental and open to trying new things. There are plenty of tricks, tips, and techniques that you can work into your blowjob to make it more pleasurable and fun.
Some of the tips you’ll read about won’t work. But these will. They’re simple and easy but each of them will improve your blowjob game.
The Washing Machine Technique
When you’re giving head, you’ll alternate between using your tongue and using your mouth.
The Washing Machine is a technique that gets you using both.
It’s a really simple move. All you have to do is wrap your lips around him, take him into your mouth, and run your tongue around the head of his cock.
It’s going to combine that amazing feeling he’ll get from being inside your warm, wet mouth with the more intense stimulation you can give him with your tongue.
There are a few more advanced versions of this if you want to go the extra mile.
You can bob your head while doing it, so that he’s getting the full blowjob experience while your tongue works its magic on him.
You can also incorporate some suction. That will add a bit of pressure, which can be very stimulating.
But sticking to the basic technique is more than fine. It will make him moan either way - with or without the sucking and bobbing.
Get Really Wet and Sloppy
I used to try my best to be a lady when I was giving head. There was some spit involved, but I tried not to make too much of a mess.
Lately, though, I’ve done my best to make things really wet and sloppy when I’m giving head.
I had to get over my usual hesitance to get my saliva everywhere. Having OCD made it even trickier.
But I’m glad I managed to do it because it’s been a big improvement.
All the extra wetness makes the blowjob into a sensory experience. He’ll love the feeling of your warm spit on his cock and the way your mouth glides effortlessly across his shaft. Your hand stroking him will give him twice as much pleasure with all that lubrication. Even feeling that wetness drip to his balls is going to feel really good.
It’s going to be better for you, too. A wet blowjob is an easier blowjob. Your mouth won’t get as sore. You’ll be able to take his girth more easily.
So, salivate as much as you want. Spit on the head of his cock. Drool all over his shaft. Get messy.
You can even use some mouthwatering spray if you want to help your mouth along.
Flavored lube, too. Using too much of it can make the flavor overpowering, but just a few drops can make your blowjob much better and tastier.
Use a Blowjob Stroker
Using your hands during a blowjob is a really good way to prolong the action, give your mouth a break, and switch up the stimulation.
But using a stroker is even better.
A stroker does things your hand can’t. They’re lined with ridges, bumps, and textures that deliver pure and intense stimulation to his cock.
Combine that stimulation with the things your mouth can do and you’ll be giving him some of the best pleasure he can experience.
Get a stroker that’s designed specifically for blowjobs, like the Fleshlight Quickshot or the Blowyo Oral Stroker. They’re shorter in length and have openings on each end to make it easier to stroke and suck.
You’ll have to use lube with these. You can do that by getting really drooly and sloppy. But again, you can also apply some flavored lube. That’s going to make the blowjob feel like a treat for you, so I highly recommend it.
A lot of guys swear by strokers, but some are really hesitant to try them. They have hang-ups because of the stereotypes they’ve encountered about pocket pussies and the kinds of guys who use them.
That sucks because they’re cheating themselves out of extra pleasure.
Asking to use a stroker on him can change that. And I can’t think of a better way to change his mind than by using your mouth to show him just how great those toys can be.
Level Up Your Blowjobs
Blowjobs are like any other kind of sex - the more routine they get, the less exciting they are.
They’re less exciting for him because routine head sucks the spontaneity right out of it (pun very much intended). When he knows exactly what to expect, there’s no curiosity and no surprise. It becomes all about the physical stimulation and less about the dirty thrill of seeing what you’ll do to him next.
And they’ll be less exciting for you because you’ll start going through the motions. The same moves, the same techniques, the same reactions from him.
Sucking cock is so much more thrilling and arousing when you get to be creative, when you can switch things up, and when you’re not even sure what you’re going to do to his cock next — only that you’ll both enjoy it.
Try a few new things and make blowjobs even more fun than they already are. Stroke him good, get his cock nice and sloppy, and show him what your tongue can do. You’ll drive him wild - even if you can’t go deep.
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And if you’re in the mood for even more blowjob discussion, check out the The One With All the Blowjobs (From Our First to Emma’s Fantasy Blowjob) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!
