5 Ways to Keep Your Summer Sexy

Hot action that will still keep you cool

People talk about hot, sweaty sex like being hot and sweaty doesn’t suck.

And okay, fine. I kind of get it.

I know what people really mean is passionate sex. Sex that’s physically intense. Fucking so hard and for so long that it burns some legit calories.

I can totally see the appeal of that. But I’m more into hard, passionate sex that doesn’t make my body feel like a sauna.

And that’s actually been a problem over the years.

I could follow my mood in the fall and all winter long. But then I’d turn down sex in the summer, even when I was prettty darn horny for it. Because as much as I wanted to get fucked, the thought of getting all sweaty and uncomfortable was enough to make me put a pin in all that.

And that’s just no way to live. I don’t want to give up on some really good action just because of the weather.

But to do that, I’ve got to change a few things about the way I fuck.

There probably won’t be as many full body massages until the fall. So I’m going to find another way to get my happy endings.

I’m not about to give up on missionary for a whole season, but I might ease off on the kind of missionary where my husband’s all smushed up on top of me.

And I’ll probably use it as an excuse to spend a bit less time tiring myself out by getting on top.

But that doesn’t mean I can’t have a hell of a lot of fun anyway. And you totally should too. So if you’re tired of getting cockblocked by summer, I’ve got a few ways you can get frisky without feeling like a sweaty mess.

Cool Down Your Junk

I love working a bit of temperature play into sex. Different sensations are really exciting for me. They make me feel like I’m tuned into my body and all the different kinds of stimulation it can enjoy.

And I personally have a slight preference for a bit of heat.

I really like the way warming massage oil makes my body feel. Some of my favorite arousal oils are the ones that make my clit feel warm and throbbing. And I love getting cleaned off with a warm, wet towel after Mr. Austin paints my ass with his come.

Except when it gets way too hot. Then I’m all about the cooling stuff.

Arousal oils that have a cooling effect work really well to get me in the mood. And feeling like I’m giving my pussy a blast of spearmint is extra satisfying when the temperature’s high.

When the action gets going, you can get the same kind of sensation by using a cooling lube.

I also recently tried some oral sex strips and let me tell you, those are no joke. After Mr. Austin popped one into his mouth, I got to experience some super chilly, tingly, and intensely stimulating pussy eating.

The overall cooling effect is basically psychological. Like, yeah you’re definitely going to feel a cool, minty sensation right on your junk. But it won’t actually bring your body temperature down.

It still feels really refreshing, though. And that’s a really nice touch when it’s a little too hot.

Work on Your Naked Confidence

Okay, so this one is a toughie. It’s not like you can just will yourself to be comfortable with your body overnight - or even over a month.

I know it took me a whole lot longer than that. And I’m not sure I’m totally there yet.

But I highly recommend it because it’s going to help you enjoy summer sex a lot more.

One of the reasons I used to turn down sex on hot days is because I couldn’t bring myself to fuck naked. I was so self-conscious that I would only go in Winnie the Pooh mode - bottoms off, shirt on the entire time.

It wasn’t the worst thing in the world. Look at any lady wearing nothing but a shirt and you’ll have proof that it’s a cute look. Plus, I could pop my tits out of my top so all the essential bits were accessible.

But it really sucked in the summer. Because sometimes it’s getting railed in a summer dress weather. Then other times even a light tank top feels like too much.

And it’s even worse if you’re so shy you insist on doing all the naughty stuff under the covers. That’s just sweat city.

If you’re too bashful to strip everything off in front of your partner, start by taking some baby steps.

Wear a little less every time. Dim the lights until you get used to being undressed. Try on some super cute thigh highs or lingerie on so you don’t feel quite as naked.

The more confident you’ll get with your body, the better you’ll feel. And the less you have to cover up, the more comfortable you can be when you’re getting down and dirty.

Fool Around in the Shower

Another reason to work on your naked confidence is because you need a whole lot of it to enjoy shower sex.

I’m not super into shower sex or anything. It can be really, really fun but it definitely has its limitations.

But it’s basically the perfect way to fuck on a hot day.

Because you won’t feel all sweaty when you’ve got the showerhead spraying you down. And you can adjust the temperature of the water so it’s just slightly cooling.

Then you can do all the sexy shower stuff you want.

Soap each other up and rub your bodies down.

Handjobs and fingering work really well in the shower. With some strategic positioning to block off the water spray, you can enjoy blowjobs and pussy eating too.

And I found that getting bent over and fucked in the shower was a nice little highlight. Though you do have to make up for how tricky it is to get proper lubrication when everything’s wet.

When you’re done, you can wash each other off. That’s basically some built-in aftercare, which is a really nice way to come down from your last orgasm.

Masturbate Together

No matter how you’re doing it, getting naughty is going to make your body a little warmer.

And that might be as hot as you want it to get. You’ll go for some sexual pleasure but you’ll take a pass on mixing someone else’s body heat with yours.

If that’s where you’re at but you’re still jonesing for your partner, the easiest solution is to just masturbate - and invite them to join you.

That’s about as low contact as sex can get, so it’s a great option when your room is already way too warm.

You can strip down and watch each other getting off. If you like getting verbal, you can give your partner some dirty encouragement. If you want something more simple, you can put on some grade-A smut you can both enjoy.

Or you can keep it real casual and just enjoy each other’s company while making yourselves come.

No matter how you do it, it’s a really great way to spend a hot afternoon or a warm evening.

Take Your Wearable Toys Out for a Spin

Any remote control toy is a really good way to help you stay cool.

I’ve got enough app-controlled strokers that I could get Mr. Austin off without even having to touch him.

I’ve got some toys of my own that he could use to help me hit some really good climaxes without even coming anywhere near me.

And that’s all very satisfying in its own way. But my favorite way to use long-distance toys is to wear them outdoors.

Some of them are discreet enough that you can wear them on a chill nature walk without having to worry about getting caught. Or you can use them to turn a cute little outdoor picnic date into a cute little outdoor picnic date with sexual stimulation and possible orgasms.

And if you happen to have some semi-private outdoor space, you can play around with a wearable toy that’s a lot stronger and not so discreet. It will be a little too loud for public spaces. And because it packs a lot of power, you’ll be too loud for public spaces too. But it’s a really good way to get naughty on the deck or in the backyard.

When it gets way too stuffy indoors, a wearable toy is definitely the best way to take your dirty fun outside.

Keep It Cool

Hot sex doesn’t actually have to be physically hot.

It just has to turn you on, make you want your partner in very specific and filthy ways, and give you great stimulation in all the right places.

And there are plenty of ways to get all that without turning yourself into a human baked potato.

So when it’s already too damn hot, find some ways to fuck and fool around that won’t warm you up too much. Because summer’s going to suck a whole lot less if you’re getting all the sexual satisfaction you need.

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If you liked this article, you should totally check out the Sk8er Boi (Summer Shorts, Sleazy Sex, and Buttstuff by the Pool) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!