How to Give an Incredibly Stimulating Cock Massage
Treat him to something really special
There are so many different ways you could make your guy feel very well taken care of.
You can be really forward when you’re initiating sex, then fold and bend yourself in all his favorite positions.
Surprising him with an impromptu blowjob will usually do the trick, too.
You could dress up in a frilly Princess Peach outfit or a tight Black Widow costume. Strip part of it off, give him a really good show, and make one of his nerdiest sex fantasies come true.
But one of the best ways to do it is by giving him a cock massage.
That’s a kind of manual sex, but it’s not the same as your standard handjob. It’s a lot more sensual and erotic than just jerking him off.
It’s focused on pleasuring him and stimulating him, not just making him come.
And it can make him feel desired, wanted, and loved - but in a very sexually charged way.
It’s basically a spa day for his cock. And it’s going to leave him feeling deeply satisfied and extremely grateful.
If you want to pamper his dick, here’s how you can do it.
Make Yourself Super Comfortable
A cock massage is probably going to run long - longer than a handjob normally does anyway. And definitely longer than a quick stroke to get your foreplay started.
So, you’re going to want to sit, lie, or kneel somewhere really comfortable.
The first time I gave a cock massage, I worried I was going to have to cut it short. Not because my arms were tired, but because my lower back was starting to ache.
So, find a comfortable spot. Kneel between his legs. Sit next to him on the edge of the bed. Lie on your side with your head resting on his stomach.
Use cushions, pillows, anything you need to get comfy so you can enjoy massaging his cock from start all the way to the finish.
Have Lots of Lube on Hand
I’m a big fan of using lube for all sorts of sex. But there are two situations where you pretty much need some.
Anal is the obvious one. A handjob is the other.
Some guys aren’t super sensitive and don’t mind getting stroked dry. If you’re handling an uncut cock, you might be able to go lube-free by keeping the foreskin sheathed over it. Sometimes you can get away with spitting in your palms a few times while jerking it.
Not with a cock massage, though. You’re going to have to get very lubey for this one.
For one thing, it’s a lot of stroking. Fifteen, twenty, thirty minutes of playing with his cock - maybe even longer if you want to show off and really impress him.
Even if he can take a dry jerk once in a while, going that long without lube might be a bit much.
It’s also going to be easier for you. The more his cock is lubed up, the more comfortable and smooth it will be to handle.
And there’s also the fact that you’re trying to make him feel really fucking good. And that’s what lube does. It’s going to make every touch and stroke feel so much more stimulating.
So, get some high-quality lube that lasts. Some water-based lubes can work decently well for this, but you’ll probably have better luck using something silicone-based. Some people also swear by oil-based lubes for hand stuff. You can even keep it super simple and dip into a jar of coconut oil.
As long as you’ve got something that will safely lube up that cock and keep it super slick the whole time, that’s what counts.
Take All Your Mess Worries Away
Maybe it’s my OCD, but the biggest reason I haven’t given more cock massages is the mess that’s involved.
Using lots of lube is what makes it fun and stimulating. But it’s also what makes it a bit of a sloppy activity.
You’re going to have lube dripping from the head of his cock down to his shaft. From his shaft to his thighs and his balls. And lots of it is going to drip all the way down to the bed.
That’s not a mess you want to deal with after you’re done. And it’s not something you want to even think about while you’re trying to make him feel like one lucky duck.
So, protect your bed before you get started. Lay down a towel. Lay down two. Fold them if you have to. Whatever it takes to keep your attention off the sheets and on his cock.
My favorite thing to use is a water-proof sex blanket. It’s perfect for this kind of thing and there’s no way that anything gets through to the bed. Not the lube, not his sweat, not his come - not anything.
It’s the perfect peace of mind that will let you both lose yourselves in the massage.
Stroke Slowly
When you’re giving a handjob, you probably put a bit of speed into it. You’re trying to can coax some moans out of his throat or some come out of his cock, so you’re going to give it a good, hard jerk.
But that’s way too intense for a cock massage.
For one thing, you don’t necessarily want to make him come too quickly. You want to give him a nice, long, sensual experience - not something that’s over soon after it starts.
But you also want to enjoy yourself, which means avoiding things that will tire you out or make your arm sore.
So, take it slow. Give his cock some lovingly patient strokes. Let him feel every move your hands are making. And drag it out for as long as you want - he’ll enjoy every single moment of it, so there’s no need to rush through it if you don’t want to.
Be Playful With His Cock
Stroking can get pretty monotonous, especially if you’re doing it for a really long time.
Like, don’t get me wrong, it’s fine. And I’m sure your guy will appreciate the long, slow jerk you’re treating him to.
It’s just that I find it so much more interesting to add a lot of variety to a cock massage.
You can use different techniques, like rubbing his shaft between your palms, turning your hand upside down to give his cock a different grip, or running your fingers along the edge of his head.
But I think it’s way more fun to just play with the cock. Treat it like it’s your toy and you’re having some fun with it.
It takes less mental effort than trying to memorize a bunch of strokes and hand moves. It’s also really playful, which will make you seem super enthusiastic. And you’ll probably give him a lot more pleasure too.
Don’t overthink it. Just go with your horny instincts. If something’s fun to do, do it a few more times. If it gets a particularly good response from him, repeat it.
There’s really no wrong way to do it. As long as it feels good to him and fun for you, you’re doing it right.
Give His Shaft and Balls Some Action
A cock massage is about giving different sensations and lots of stimulation. That means you don’t need to stick to the things that will make him come more quickly or easily.
You’ll give the head of his cock plenty of attention. His frenulum is going to get lots of action too. But you should also spend time playing with the less sensitive parts of his package.
That includes the shaft. It’s nowhere near as sensitive as the head of his cock, but he’ll still very much enjoy the feel of your lubed up fingers running along it.
His balls, too. Stroke them. Rub them. Tug on them gently if he’s into that kind of thing.
Now, some guys love ball play. Others find it alright. But you might happen to be with a guy who doesn’t care for it at all. Handling his balls is just going to make him uncomfortable.
If that’s the case, stick to the dick. Otherwise, play ball.
Edge Him
Edging is a big part of control play and other types of kink. But I think more people should incorporate it in their vanilla sex, too.
It’s a great way to prolong sex, make the stimulation more intense, and give stronger orgasms.
And it’s especially handy if you’re massaging a cock that reaches a climax quickly. In that case, edging is a great way to keep the massage going.
All you have to do is play with his cock until he’s close to coming. Then, stop touching it completely. Rub his thighs. Stroke his balls. Say some sweet and dirty stuff to him. But leave his dick alone until he’s had time to come down from all that stimulation.
Then, slather more lube on him, grab his cock, and go for another round. And repeat that as often as you want to.
Even if he doesn’t come especially quickly, you can still edge him for fun. That way, you can give him varying levels of pleasure. You can tease him by bringing him close to a climax and then pulling him back from it. And all that edging is going to give him a really strong finish once you’re finally ready to get him off.
Edging is kind of like ball play, though. Some guys don’t care for it at all. They find it frustrating or uncomfortable.
But lots of people find it exciting and super stimulating. Just be sure to feel him out before edging him.
Give Him a Big Finish
When you’re ready to bring the cock massage to an end, all you have to do is work him up to a climax.
After all the stimulation you’ve given him, it shouldn’t be too hard to make him come.
Depending on what his cock responds to, you might have to stroke a bit more quickly. Or give lots of repeated, focused stimulation on the crown of his cock. Or maybe the slow, sensual massage will just carry him all the way there.
If you have trouble getting him there, you can ask for his help. Get him to stroke himself for a while so your arms can get a break. Take over again when he’s close so you can finish him off.
Or you can cap things off by using a stroker. That’s a really good way to give him lots of extra stimulation without having to increase your speed or use a strong grip.
Whatever way you get him there, just add more lube, let him relax, and work his cock until his come bursts out of it.
Give Him a Little More
You can finish when he comes - but you don’t have to.
This is like edging - it depends on the guy. Some of them won’t want you to come anywhere near their cock after that climax. They get way too sensitive and they’re donezo.
But others will respond to it really well.
So, if he’s up for it, keep playing with cock for a couple of minutes after he’s done coming.
The fact that he’s sensitive might just be what makes it so intensely pleasurable for him.
He might love riding that intense hit of pleasure all the way past his orgasm.
Or maybe he just finds it hot to see your hands stroke his cock while it’s getting soft.
It can also create a certain vibe - like you’re so enthusiastic about pleasuring him that you want to keep going even after he’s finished. That could be a really big turn-on for him.
Doesn’t really matter why he’s into it. All that matters is that it can be a great way to end his happy ending.
Clean Him Up
When it’s all over, you’re going to have a real mess on your hands - and on him.
It’s going to be a mix of lube and come - maybe even a bit of spit if you decided to use some.
You can clean your hands and send him off to the shower if you want.
Or you can take this as an opportunity to keep pampering him.
Wipe him down. Clean him off with a wet cloth. Dry him off with a towel.
He might still have to hop in the shower. But it’s going to be one more step that makes him feel really loved and appreciated.
Love Up on His Cock
Cock massages take some real sexual energy.
To me, they’re a way to really express your sexual gratitude for someone. Like, he makes you feel so fucking good that you want to do something special to return the favor.
Or he treats your pussy so fucking well that it gives you the urge to worship his cock.
Or maybe he just does things to you. He makes you think filthy thoughts. He brings out your naughty side. He makes you daydream about inappropriate things.
Those are the kinds of things that will make you want to get your hands on his cock. And when you do, giving it a long sensual massage is the perfect reward for all the excitement and satisfaction he’s given you.
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