The 8 Things You Need in Your Sex Bag
Be ready for anything
Opening myself up to dating again was extremely exciting. Then it became complicated.
The thought of crushing on someone made me get out of bed more quickly each morning.
Fantasizing about multiple partners gave me hope that I could fulfill all my romantic and dirty fantasies.
Actually flirting with other people gave me life.
But then something would always bring me right back down to earth. Because nothing about my life is that simple.
I knew that dates would lead to fucking. They just would.
When I’m high on new relationship energy, it manifests in an obscene amount of horniness.
I spend most of my waking moments thinking about the naughty things I want to do to them and the dirty things I hope they’ll do to me.
I’m willing to wait and take it slow. But I know it probably wouldn’t happen. I’d be way too eager to get physical.
The only problem is, I couldn’t get physical in any of the places I normally do.
If I met someone locally, it’s not like I could bring them back to my place. I’ve got four kids at home. Even if they weren’t super nosey, bringing someone over for a shag and an overnight stay in my bed might be kind of awkward.
And I have no idea how many dates you’re supposed to have before introducing someone to your husband. But I’m pretty sure it’s not something you jump right into.
I’d have to take my sexy shenanigans elsewhere.
Which means I’d have to be prepared - for impromptu hookups, for dates that go so well I end up on my knees, for lunch that turns into spending a weekend at someone’s apartment. For anything.
I’d need to pack a sex bag.
Well, in theory anyway. I never actually did pack one. My attempts at finding some extra love didn’t go as planned. And I’m too busy and awkward to really go looking for it anyway.
But I did have very serious plans to do it, and I worked out exactly what I’d always bring with me.
Condoms Galore
If there’s one absolutely essential item, it’s condoms. But make sure you’re carrying enough.
If there’s one thing I learned before settling down with Mr. Austin, it’s that you can’t always rely on the guy to carry a condom. A lot of them will, but some won’t bother if they don’t expect to get laid.
But that’s not how horniness works. If the chemistry’s off the hook, a casual get-together can turn into a total sexathon.
So, make sure you’re packing. Just in case.
And unless you’re familiar with the dick you might be sheathing, make sure you’ve got a couple of different sizes. That way, you won’t be stuck using a condom that’s too tight or too loose - or not getting to fuck at all.
Pack plenty of them, too. If you have the opportunity to get fucked multiple times over the course of one or two nights, you’re going to want to take it. Passing up on extra action and orgasms because you just had a three-pack would suck.
Speaking of suck, flavored condoms are a good option too. If you’re going to give head, you might as well make it a little tastier.
Dental Dams
Most people don’t bother with dental dams, but they should.
When you’re hooking up with someone, you shouldn’t do things that come with a risk of STI transmission. And that includes unprotected oral sex.
If you hook up with a lady and can’t go down on her, that’s going to limit the fun you can have together. I don’t know about everyone else, but my girl-on-girl fantasies are pretty heavily focused on pussy eating. So, that makes dams pretty essential.
And no matter who you end up sleeping with, you definitely don’t want to lose out on getting your pussy eaten.
That’s like half the fun.
Extra Underwear
If things go well, I don’t mind wearing the same outfit the next day.
It might be a bit wrinkly and ruffled, but it’ll still be comfortable. And I don’t really care if anyone notices that I’m wearing the same clothes while doing my walk of pride.
As long as I’m not wearing the same underwear.
I’m going to need another pair of those if I’m going to feel fresh and clean.
Travel-Sized Deodorant
After a good, hard, sweaty fuck, you’re going to feel blissed out. You’re going to feel tired and wired all at once.
And you’re definitely going to miss your deodorant.
So, make sure you’ve got some with you. If you’re anything like me, not having it is going to make you feel pretty damn self-conscious. And that’s not the mental state you want to be in when you’re still trying to impress someone.
Toothbrush and Toothpaste
Like the deodorant, you’re going to want these to freshen up.
That’s definitely the case if you spend the night. Nothing’s going to kill your game like a case of morning breath.
But even if you’re going to be sleeping in your own bed that night, it’s still a good idea to have it on hand.
Chances are you’re going to pee after sex, and you’ll probably want to give your teeth a scrub while you’re at it. That way, when you’re kissing afterward, you won’t taste like you’ve spent seven minutes slobbering on a strawberry-flavored condom.
Lubes
It doesn’t matter how horny you get, there’s still a chance you might need some lube.
If you want to get your hands on your date’s cock, it’s always better to jerk someone off with lube. Having some with you is going to help you focus on stroking instead of trying to make enough saliva to spit in your hand and keep it from getting too dry.
When penetration is a bit challenging, a little bit of condom-safe lube is going to help things a lot. And if his cock is especially thick, you’ll be really happy you have it.
And if things go extremely well and he knows how to bring out your inner dirty girl, you might be in the mood to go all the way. Like, right up to fifth base. But you won’t be able to enjoy all that hot anal action if you didn’t bring any lube.
Yeah, sometimes you can get away with an all-spit ass fuck. But it’s usually not possible. And even if you can manage it, it’s going to be so much easier, safer, and more pleasurable with some proper lube.
If you want, you can also pack some flavored lube. If you’ve got flavored condoms already, that might not be necessary. But it’s nice to be able to rub a little flavor into some plain condoms or to freshen up a flavored one that’s lost its taste.
A Reliable Vibrator
You don’t technically need any sex toys to have fun.
You can have great sex without them. You might not even think about them if you’re just enjoying some wall-to-wall oral action. And sometimes you’re just carried by the sheer excitement of fucking someone who’s still kind of new to you.
But still. There’s really no reason not to have at least one good toy on hand.
If you get too nervous and have trouble coming, your vibrator will help you get there. And if you’ve given yourself death grip or you just don’t have a very sensitive clit, you might need it no matter what.
It’s also some extra pleasure. And there’s never any reason to pass up extra pleasure.
Plus, it’s just plain fun. Having someone you’re hooking up with use a toy on you can be extremely fucking hot.
Depending on the size of your bag, you might want to pack something that’s on the smaller side. Lots of ladies swear by Magic Wands, but they’re not exactly discreet.
I don’t use bullet vibrators too often, but that’s probably what I’d stock in my sex bag. I’d leave my favorite wand in my nightstand and pack something more compact instead, like my Hot Octopuss Amo.
Wipes
Tissues are good to have on you, but they’re not great for cleaning up.
For that, you’re going to want a small pack of thicker, pre-moistened wipes.
If you end up giving your date a handjob in the passenger seat of his car, what are you going to do after he comes all over your fingers?
Or if you want to show off what a dirty girl you are by begging him to come all over your tits. Once that’s over, you’ll want an easy and quick way to clean yourself up.
And after you’re done slathering lube all over his cock or whatever else you’re going to lube up, you’re going to want to wipe it off your hands.
Don’t settle for a half-assed job with tissues. Make sure you’ve got what you need for a proper wipe-down.
Don’t Get Caught Unprepared
I’d like to think that I’d just keep a cute little sex bag packed with all the essentials. But I know myself better than that.
I’m an overpacker. I’d probably end up trying to stuff two sexy costumes, my travel-sized sex blanket, and six or seven types of sex toys into a small suitcase. You know, just in case.
I might even see if there’s room for one of my torso dolls before deciding that getting double penetrated on the first date might be a little much.
It wouldn’t really matter how much I end up bringing with me, though. As long as I have all the essentials I listed here, I know I’d be set up for anything from an incredible evening to an intense weekend fuckfest.
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