7 Small Things That Will Keep Her Attracted to You

Dec 6

Dec 6 7 Small Things That Will Keep Her Attracted to You

Fellas, these matter more than you think

Early in your relationship, attraction is easy.

You’re both high on love hormones that are so powerful they should be regulated.

Everything’s still hot. And just about anything you do is going to make you seem more attractive to her.

The way you hold her. The way you look when you’re focused on something. Just the sound of your voice is going to be enough to make her think some very nice thoughts about you

You’re on her mind constantly. She can’t stop thinking about all the things she likes about you.

It’s incredibly powerful stuff.

But it doesn’t last.

After a while, she gets used to the way you look. Your voice is just your voice - hearing it isn’t enough to make her feel butterflies anymore. Her mind is on all sorts of stuff and doesn’t always make a detour to swoon at the thought of you.

It’s not that the attraction is gone. It’s just different. It’s more familiar, and it can take a bit of effort to make it feel exciting again.

That’s not a bad thing - it’s just more subtle. She can still have the hots for you, but the things she’s paying attention to and noticing are going to change.

These are some of them - the things that make her keep looking at you with appreciation, that keep her feeling drawn to you, and that help make you fuckable even after you’ve been settled down for years.

Venting With Her

This probably isn’t the kind of thing you’d assume would make you sexy to her, but it’s actually a pretty big deal.

Lots of women hate that they can’t come to their boyfriends or husbands with things that bother or frustrate them. Not because those guys don’t care, but because they go into problem-solving mode.

The thing is, she’s not always looking for a solution. Sometimes shit just sucks and she wants to blow off steam about it.

And when you’re there to vent with her, it makes her feel more connected to you. You’re someone she can talk things out with, someone she knows is in her corner. You make her feel heard no matter what she’s going through.

Being that guy for her makes you seem empathetic. It makes her feel more comfortable and open with you. It’s surprisingly intimate.

All of that is going to make her feel even more attracted to you.

Touching Her for No Reason

Touch is one of the first things to go when a lot of relationships get settled.

And that really sucks because losing touch will quickly make you feel disconnected from each other.

It’s also a surefire way to make you both feel less desireable. And that makes it hard for her to have sexy thoughts - including sexy thoughts about you.

A lot of guys, though, don’t even realize that the touch is gone. They think they still touch their lady plenty.

But it’s the kind of touching that matters. Because a lot of women start to feel like they’re only getting touched when their guy thinks he has a chance at sex. Or there’s only passion behind the touch if he thinks it might lead to fucking.

So, touching loses its magic. Instead of feeling happy, thrilled, or even turned on when you touch her, she rolls her eyes and gets bothered by it.

Unless you keep touching her with no sexpectations.

Trace your fingers up and down her arm. Rub her back. Play with her hair. Give her hips a squeeze.

Touching her that way is going to make her feel great. It’s going to make her feel wanted. And it’s going to make her feel drawn to you even more.

Taking Her Boundaries Seriously

Sexual boundaries are non-negotiable, but in a lot of relationships they get treated like they’re flexible.

It usually happens when a guy gets fed up with how little sex he’s getting or how the sex has changed.

He wants to get laid more. He wishes she would suck him off the way she used to. He’s annoyed that she never initiates sex.

So he starts pressuring her with passive aggressive comments. Or he complains that she doesn’t give him enough. Or tries to shame her because of the kind of sex she wants to have - or doesn’t want to have.

And not only is that completely uncool, but it kills a lady boner like nothing else does.

It turns sex into an expectation instead of something fun and playful.

It makes her feel guarded instead of making her feel charmed and excited.

It makes her more inhibited or give up on sex completely because she doesn’t feel entirely safe to just fuck anymore.

Genuinely respecting her boundaries is the only way to avoid that.

When you do that, she can let her guard down with you. She can be as open as she wants about sex. She can be herself without worrying it’s going to take a weird turn.

And she can flirt with you because she knows you won’t take it too far.

That’s a big deal because it means she’s going to direct more of her sexy thoughts and sexual energy to you. And the more she can do that, the more attraction she’ll feel.

Wearing Nice Socks and Underwear

Socks and underwear are an afterthought for a lot of guys. Even if they wear decent pants, shirts, and shoes, there’s a good chance they just grabbed a pack of whatever was cheapest to cover their feet and their junk.

But your socks and undies aren’t just functional - they’re one of the things she’s going to notice.

You can go classic with your socks by getting them in black. But I always prefer something a little more bold. Bright colors, patterns that pop - something that shows you put some thought into it.

And definitely make sure you’ve got some good underwear.

When she’s excitedly pulling down your pants, seeing worn out underwear or a pair of something that doesn’t fit right is kind of a mood killer.

It’s also a major missed opportunity. She’s about to see your package, so you want it to have some nice wrapping.

Great underwear is going to make her even more excited for your cock. And it’s going to make her want to tug your pants down again in the future.

Using Your Hands

There’s something about a guy doing manual work that’s just fucking hot. It doesn’t matter if it takes strength, precision, or careful skill - it’s all very attractive.

Bonus points if your forearms are exposed while you’re doing it.

It’s so active and physical. It shows that you can be good with your hands. And it also makes you seem like you don’t shy away from putting in some effort.

It doesn’t have to be stereotypically manly stuff like splitting firewood or whatever. It can be strumming a guitar, doing simple home renovation projects, or kneading pizza dough into a smooth ball.

Women are in almost universal agreement about this one. And it’s a great way to get her thinking about all the things your capable hands could be doing to her.

Smirking When She Says Something Clever

Women are funny as hell. They’re quick-witted, snarky, ridiculously abusrd, and amazing at self-deprecating humor. It’s the reason most of the people I follow on Twitter are women - well, that and some of them show their tits.

And following all those funny women gives me confirmation of something I always suspected was true. A lot of men don’t seem to get when women are joking.

I don’t mean that they don’t find women funny or don’t get their jokes. I mean that the things women say don’t even register to them as jokes.

I see it all the time. Girls saying something that should make everyone laugh, but the guys respond as if she’s being completely sincere.

It sucks when it happens online, but it’s an even bigger bummer when it happens in a relationship.

If she says something witty and it misses you, it screws up your communication. But if you smirk when she’s being clever, that encourages her to banter with you. If you get her jokes, she’ll be more likely to tease you playfully.

Basically, it means she can flirt with you a lot more easily. Which means she can feel the hots for you way more often.

If you only laugh at your own jokes, she’s going to feel sidelined. But if you can laugh with her, it’s going to feel fun and intimate. It’s going to make it clear that you’re present and tuned in to her. It’s going to make her fall for you a little more.

Showing Lots of Sexual Enthusiasm

At some point in their formative years, a lot of guys get the impression that it’s not cool or manly to show enthusiasm.

Maybe it’s because they bought into the bad boy stereotype or something - the hot guy who acts like he doesn’t give a fuck about anything.

I don’t know. All I know is that it makes sex worse. Like, way worse.

Because you might be enjoying the sex. It might be blowing your socks clean off. But if you don’t let any of that show, it’s going to make it really dull for her.

Porn doesn’t exactly help, either. Not the kind of amateur porn that’s popular on tube sites, anyway. It’s full of guys who barely make their presence known. They’re barely in the frame and somehow completely quiet even when they’re balls deep in a girl’s ass.

But those aren’t the guys you should be modeling yourself after. Girls don’t tend to fantasize about those off-screen dicks. It’s the pornstars with great mouths they can’t get enough of.

That’s who you should fuck like. Not with their stamina or their tendency to go ass-to-mouth - unless she begs you for it. But with their passion, their grunts and groans, and their dirty talk.

Because it doesn’t matter how good you are at fucking, it’s all going to feel mechanical if you don’t seem enthusiastic when you do it.

So, get into it. Don’t hold back. Make some noise when you’re enjoying yourself. Praise her when she’s blowing you. Say some filthy stuff to her while you’re pounding away.

It’s going to turn her on like crazy, make you so much hotter, and make her way more eager to jump back in the sack with you.