The Real Reasons You Need to Get Her Super Wet for Sex
It’s not just about reducing friction
You already know you have to get her wet before fucking her.
I have a hunch you also know that her pussy should be a bit dewey before you slide a finger inside her.
Most guys know that trying to fuck a lady while she’s dry isn’t going to be fun for anyone. And that sex really is better when it’s wetter.
But not everyone knows why - or how important it really is.
The more I see people talking about foreplay and fucking online, the more I realize a lot of people only have half the story. Sometimes even less.
And it’s not their fault. If you don’t have a pussy, you have no first-hand experience of what it’s like. You have to rely on whatever people tell you about it - and not everyone is super comfortable talking about their wetness.
So I will.
In the interest of helping everyone have better sex, I want to spell out exactly why you need to get a lady super wet before fucking her.
Penetration Isn’t as Easy as It Seems
Some guys covet tight pussies.
But fucking a tight pussy isn’t always the win people think it is.
In a lot of people’s minds, a tight pussy is a pristine semi-virginal pussy. It’s a pussy that hasn’t had a lot of thick dick action. It’s a pussy that’s so taut it practically constricts around your cock.
In reality, a tight pussy is almost always an unprepped pussy. It’s a pussy that isn’t wet enough.
I’m sure sometimes it’s just physiology. Every girl is built different, and maybe some are just narrower than others.
If you’re fucking a real pussy pro, she might feel tight because she’s squeezing all the right muscles. Doing kegels on a cock is tricky, but a girl who can sustain it is going to give your cock a real squeeze.
Most of the time, though, it’s a lack of natural lubrication that makes it tough to get the penetration going.
The first time I really learned that was during a one-night stand with a shockingly girthy cock.
I’m not exaggerating when I say he was thick like a soda can.
When I jerked him off, my fingertips weren’t even close to touching.
It’s the most intimidating one I’ve ever encountered. But it was attached to a guy who made me so fucking horny that it didn’t matter. By the time I was on my knees, he had made me so wet that his monster of a dong slid into me effortlessly.
I’ve had trouble taking dicks half the size. And the only real difference was how wet I was.
Even if you’re massively hung, you should be able to easily push your cock inside your lady. If you’ve got the right angle but it’s still a struggle, you need to do a bit more work to get her wet before you keep going.
Friction’s a Real Bitch
Having a tough time getting your cock in isn’t the worst part, though.
That would be the friction.
Friction has no real place in fucking.
A little friction doesn’t seem to bother cocks all that much. Some guys even jerk off with a dry palm - no spit, no lube, no strokers, just skin on skin wanking.
That kind of thing doesn’t fly with pussy, though.
The outer labia, sure. That’s one of the nice things about the pussy lips - you can rub them and really get things going.
Once you part those lips, though, you need some lubrication.
Those bits are way too sensitive for any kind of friction. Without spit or lube, it’s overstimulating. It’s uncomfortable. If it’s too vigorous, it’s downright painful.
Internally, too. If she’s just wet enough for you to slide your finger or cock inside her, she’s probably not wet enough to actually get much pleasure from it.
Friction hurts. And if you don’t do the work to get her really wet, you’re going to end up giving her stimulation she has to endure instead of enjoy.
It’s the Secret to Your Secret Move
At some point, you’ll probably hit on a magic move or two. Some fancy finger or dick trick that makes your partner come fast and come hard.
It could be the finger tap that stimulates her G-spot so intensely that she ends up squirting.
Or the coital alignment technique that turns every fuck session into a blended orgasm extravaganza.
Maybe you cracked the perfect fingering speed and rhythm to make your lady moan in some extremely unladylike ways.
Cracking her orgasmic code is the kind of thing that can make you a real stud.
But a lot of times, it actually backfires. After a while, the move stops working as well as it used to. Or worse, she starts to kind of hate it.
There’s nothing wrong with the move. The dicksterity and the finger motions are still on point.
The problem is that it worked so well that you started pulling it out a little too quickly. And that usually means you’re using it when she’s not quite as wet.
Wetness enhances every sensation you give her. It magnifies all the pleasure her pussy is getting. It makes her more sensitive - but in a very, very good way.
That’s one of the reasons the same move can get different results at different times. So if you want your moves to keep working their magic on her, make her super wet before using them.
It’ll Help You Blow Her Mind
The wetter you get her, the easier it will be to make her come.
It’s really that simple.
It eliminates the physical discomfort that she can experience if she’s only partially aroused. It makes your fingertips, tongue, and cock feel even more stimulating. It means you can fuck her harder, faster, and deeper without it being too much.
If you get her really wet before you fuck her, you’re way more likely to give her the kind of sex she can’t wait to have again.
It’s how you get her to crave your dick.
It’s one of the steps to blowing her mind - and one that you really can’t skip.
Prep Her Pussy
If she’s down to fuck you, getting her really wet won’t be all that hard. You just need to take a bit of time and do things that will turn her on.
Don’t rush through the foreplay. Tease her. Talk dirty to her. Build some sexual tension.
Touch her and squeeze her. Make out with her. Play with her nipples. Rub her pussy - slowly and gently at first. Eat her out and linger between her legs so she can fully enjoy it.
Just make sure it’s not routine. She shouldn’t be able to predict everything you’re going to do to get her in the mood. Surprise her a little.
If you’re about to fuck her and she’s not as wet as she should be, that’s the perfect time for a pussyjob. Rubbing her pussy with your cock is going to be incredibly pleasurable, super arousing, and leave her squirming and practically desperate for you to fuck her.
Use vibrators and some of her favorite sex toys on her. They’re designed to make her pussy feel good and they’re a great way to make her want more. It also makes sex more exciting, which can be enough to turn her on.
And there’s no shame at all in using lube. It helps with those times when being really aroused doesn’t result in a whole lot of wetness. Even when she’s wet, a bit of good lube can make sex even more pleasurable.
Just don’t treat getting her really wet as optional. Not if you want to be a great fuck.
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If you liked this article, you should totally check out the Getting Sweet After Getting Dirty (Sexual Aftercare, Sub Drop, and Weird Post-Sex Anxiety) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!
