This Is Why She Won't Let You Eat Her Pussy
Guys, you’re asking the wrong way
I love receiving oral sex.
Yeah, I know that doesn’t put me in any kind of special category. But I need to say that up front because this is a post about the times I turned it down.
I never said no to it because I thought it wouldn’t be enjoyable. I’ve had my fair share of bad sex, but I can’t think of a single time when I got my pussy eaten and it wasn’t worth it.
I also never turned it down because I wanted to do some other stuff.
No, every single time I turned it down, it’s because of the way guys offered it. Because they implied licking my pussy would be a chore, not a treat.
Three Guys Who Asked the Wrong Way
I’m going to skip over the guys who didn’t ask because they just dove in between my legs and ate me out. Those dudes all get an automatic gold star.
I’m also going to eliminate the guys who didn’t go down on me and didn’t offer to go down on me. That includes one guy who wrote me dirty emails detailing the ways he would eat my muff (his words) but didn’t use his mouth at all when we hooked up.
That leaves three guys. They were the ones who asked if I wanted oral sex, but asked it in the worst ways.
Guy #1: My Impromptu Wedding Date
One of them was an old boyfriend I hadn’t seen in a few years. We attended the same wedding and I hooked up with him because few things make me as emotional and excited as people committing.
While we were undressing each other, he asked if I wanted him to “do the thing you never let me do before.”
He meant going down on me.
Clearly, he remembered those events different than I did. Somehow, he had a memory of me refusing oral sex.
In reality, he showed very little interest in giving me pleasure. He never once tried to go down on me. He never even implied he wanted to.
His offer left me more confused than turned on.
Guy #2: My Most Selfish Partner
The second guy was another boyfriend. Things with him started off great, but eventually turned abusive.
He used his tongue mostly to mock and belittle me. He pressured me relentlessly to do things I didn’t want to do.
One night, he was trying to talk me into swallowing. I got frustrated and asked, “Well what do I get out of it?”
He smirked and said, “So, you want me to go down on you?” in a condescending tone, like I was asking something ridiculous of him.
I felt embarrassed by the way he put it, so I backpedaled. I muttered something like “Maybe… I don’t know…”
I never brought it up again. He didn’t either.
Guy #3: Mr. Dull Foreplay
The third guy wasn’t a boyfriend, just a hookup. but he came closest to asking directly.
While he was fingering me, he asked “Do you like it when guys use their fingers or do you want me to use my mouth?”
I was still young and not entirely confident, so I said “I’m not sure.”
I was planning to work my up from that to a “yes, please!”
I didn’t have the chance. He responded with “Oh, that’s okay, we won’t do it then.”
I could hear the relief in his voice.
The Right Way to Ask to Go Down on Her
When I met my husband, a lot of things changed in my life. I found my soul mate. I moved in with him and started a new life. And I got my pussy eaten - a lot.
Mr. Austin is a big fan of pussy — looking at it, fingering it, fucking it, eating it.
Since meeting him, oral sex has been a given. Not just with him, but also with the other guys and girls we hooked up with. I don’t know if it’s because he sets the right kind of tone or if I’ve just become choosier since I settled down, but all of them have eagerly pushed my legs apart and lapped their tongues against my clit.
Mr. Austin doesn’t usually bother asking if I want him to go down on me (he knows the answer already). But he did back when we first became a couple.
In fact, he was the first guy to ask and not get turned down.
And it’s because he was the first one to ask in a way that turned me on.
He phrased the question like he was asking for permission to do it, not like he was asking for permission to skip it.
There was no reluctance on his part. He was just checking in to make sure I was comfortable.
And boy was I ever.
Show Your Excitement
The first three guys to ask if they could go down on me didn’t do it in a way that made me feel desired. They asked like they were indifferent about the answer, or like they’d rather I say no.
Because of the way people talk about women’s bodies, I came into my sexual self with quite a few hang-ups about my own.
And guys always bragged that they loved pussy but they didn’t love it in the way they loved tits. Tits, they wanted to look at. Tits, they wanted to lick and fondle. But pussy? They just talked about sticking their dicks in it.
I needed some reassurance when I was hooking up with someone. I’d go into every hookup assuming there is a good chance they think my pussy — pussy in general, really — was ugly or gross.
Unless they made it very clear they wanted it, I wasn’t about to push their heads down.
Other times, I insisted I didn’t need it because I would feel bad for “making” them do it.
I’m not writing this article for the guys who don’t want to go down on their partners. If that’s not your jam, that’s fine. You can find a partner who doesn’t consider that a deal breaker.
I’m writing it for the guys who are confused because their girlfriends turn them down when they offer oral sex.
It’s possible their partners aren’t into it. It’s possible they just really aren’t interested in trying or they feel weird about having someone so close to that part of their body.
But consider the way you’re asking.
Are you asking like her pussy is an ice cream cone you desperately wanted permission to lick?
Or are you asking like it’s a chore you wouldn’t mind skipping?
Because in my experience, one of the big reasons a woman turns down oral sex is because her partner isn’t asking for it in a way that shows just how bad he wants to taste her.
The next time you ask, show some excitement. You’re guaranteed to get better results. Even if she turns you down, she’ll at least feel better about herself and her body.
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And if you want to hear me and my husband Jake talk about oral sex, check out the Pussy Eating for the Win! (Eat It Like You Mean It) episode of my podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!
