This Year, I'm Celebrating Sexmas

It’s the perfect time to connect and de-stress



Christmas isn’t usually seen as a sexy holiday.

If you have kids, Christmas is all about them.

That means plenty of shopping, wrapping, decorating, baking, and preparation. It’s a lot of work and it’s a lot of stress. And now that the kids are home from school, it’s even harder to manage everything.

Then there’s family and that whole togetherness business.

I don’t host any extended relatives. I don’t usually go out of town for any family events or big Christmas dinners. But I do still get visits from my mom and my in-laws (who have a real knack for increasing my blood pressure).

It’s all sorts of busy and it’s all sorts of wholesome. Usually, unless you’re in a new relationship, romance and sex get pushed to the side.

This year, I wanted to change that.

I don’t want to put my sex life on hold for half a month just because of the holidays.

My husband and I have been making it a point to focus on us. We haven’t always done a good job of staying connected. Christmas was always a low point. We would focus our energies on everyone else and have none left for each other.

I’m not putting us on the back burner this time.

It’s completely new to us. We’ve never done anything special or sexy for ourselves around the holidays. But I didn’t want to just make it a point to have more sex. I wanted to make it festive. I wanted to start a new, very adult Christmas tradition so we’d have something extra to look forward to every year.

We dubbed it Sexmas to make it more official. Here’s how we’ve been celebrating it.

Fucking Under Twinkle Lights

If I was going to make Sexmas feel Sexmasy, I needed to figure out a way to decorate our bedroom. Something that sets the right mood but still feels festive.

I had no room for a tree. An inflatable Santa with a bondage mask would be a little much. Reindeer don’t turn me on, like at all.

It had to be twinkle lights.

I’ve always loved the way they looked, but I was always too shy to have any lights on during sex - let alone multiple lights. But I’ve built a lot more sexual confidence this year, so I was ready. I strung up twinkle lights in our bedroom and they create the perfect sexy, festive atmosphere.

Sexy Christmas Outfits

Two years ago, I was doing photography for a Christmas party at a nursing home. That day, Santa paid the seniors a visit, along with Mrs. Claus.

More specifically, a smoking hot twenty-something Mrs. Claus.

I took more photos of her than I probably should have, but it was hard to look away from her at times.

That changed my whole perspective on Mrs. Claus. Clearly, the girl can bring it.

So, when we decided to celebrate Sexmas, it was a no-brainer. I needed a Mrs. Claus costume.

And what’s Mrs. Claus without her Santa? I got Mr. Austin the skimpiest Santa outfit I could find - just tight shorts and a hat.

The hat looked ridiculous. His cock almost poked out the bottom of the shorts. But it didn’t matter - I still had my way with my sexy Santa.

I also got other lingerie to keep the excitement going. As fun as it was to dress up as Mrs. Claus, it’s even more fun to keep surprising him.

X-Rated Gift Exchange

This is really what kick started the whole thing. I was talking with my husband about how hard it is to find the perfect gift for each other. At one point, he said, “Well, you’re Emma Austin, so the obvious thing to get you would be some sex toys.”

That was my little lightbulb moment. It sounded perfect. Before he could say anything else, I said, “Let’s do it! Let’s get each other some sexy gifts!”

Why should kids be the only ones who have something fun to play with at Christmas?

So, when we’re alone and the kids are in bed, we’ve been exchanging gifts that we wrapped but couldn’t leave under the tree.

So far, I’ve been gifted a popsicle-style dildo and some flavored lube. And I got Mr. Austin a few things he can fuck, starting with a Fleshlight.

Unwrapping and playing with these is the best way to unwind and reconnect after those rushed, stressful countdown-to-Christmas days.

Don’t Forget the Grown-Up Time

The holidays can be sexy and romantic - you just have to make sure the adult time doesn’t get lost in all the family stuff.

And because there are no Sexmas traditions, you can celebrate it your own way.

If you prefer bondage Santa over twinkle lights, then by all means blow up and tie up that sucker.

Instead of sex toys and lingerie, you can give erotica, porn subscriptions, or go DIY and just make one of your partner’s fantasies come true.

Hell, you can bake and decorate dick-shaped sugar cookies - whatever does it for you.

You can even do solo Sexmas by treating yourself to a fancy new sex toy and some quality “me time.”

Your grown-up side deserves some holiday cheer, too. So no matter how you do it, just make sure not to neglect your sexy self this Christmas.

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If you liked this article, you should totally check out the Questionable Cosmo Sex Tips (Forks, Marbles, and the Dick Donut) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!