How to Pleasure Her Using Your Fingers and Tongue at the Same Time
This is what good foreplay looks like
Getting my pussy eaten for the first time was a life-changing experience.
I can barely put into words how amazing it was. It was like the heavens were parting and I experienced real sunlight for the first time. It’s that good.
Oral sex is a nearly perfect blend of sensations. It’s just the right amount of warmth. The lips and tongue are really soft but have enough force to give incredible stimulation. There’s also the undeniable intimacy of having someone’s face right there.
And the orgasms - fucking hell, the orgasms. Some of the strongest, longest, and most satisfying orgasms I’ve ever experienced were because there was a tongue on my clit.
How good it feels to be eaten out is one of the best discoveries every woman will make in her lifetime.
But as incredible as that first time is, there are ways to make it even better.
Sometimes, the licking is just right. Not too hard. Not too fast. But also not so soft and slow that I barely notice it’s happening.
A really good buildup helps, too. When I get plenty of foreplay and feel breathless with anticipation, every lap of the tongue becomes more intense.
And it takes some stamina and a good amount of tongue dexterity to pull this one off, but having a tongue run circles around my clit instead of lapping across it is a fucking beautiful sensation.
The best pussy eating, though, involves more than just the mouth. It’s when I’m getting fingered really well while my partner’s going down on me.
It’s more than just adding the pleasure of getting fingered to the pleasure of having my pussy eaten. That would be amazing on its own, but this is something entirely unique. It’s a really powerful blended stimulation that results in orgasms that are just as strong.
But the technique has to be right, and that’s not always easy. Doing it well involves more than just fingering and licking willy nilly.
If you want to get your lady off with this move (and believe me, you should), there are a few things you should keep in mind while doing it.
Start With External Stimulation
It’s tempting to get right to the penetrative play when fingers are involved. That’s a big part of the fun, but it should still be the last thing on the menu.
Before fingering her pussy, you want to make sure she’s prepped and ready for it. Start too soon and it won’t be as pleasurable for her. Start way too soon and it might not even feel good at all.
Plus, if you’re using this move to make her come, you’ll want to avoid tiring your hand before you make it to the home stretch.
Start by teasing her. Squeeze her hips. Rub her pussy. Spread her lips open. Give her a few slow licks.
Don’t rush to get your fingers inside her - you’ll get to that soon enough and when you do, she’ll be even more excited for it.
Use Two Fingers
When you’re ready to finger-fuck her, start with a well-lubricated index or middle finger only. Fuck her with it slowly at first so she can get used to the sensation. When she’s ready for it, insert a second finger.
Unless she specifically asks for more, that’s the magic number. Using two fingers will be more comfortable for you than just using one and it will help you reach her G-spot more easily. That second finger also means an extra surface to stimulate her.
But using more than two fingers usually won’t improve the sensations for her. In fact, all it’s likely to do is make her a bit sore and make it harder for you to finger her comfortably. So, stick to using two unless she’s asking you for more.
Take It Slowly
Your goal should be to finger-fuck her, not finger-pound her.
Unless she needs or prefers really intense sensations, it will be a lot better if you start off slowly and maybe even end on a slow note.
Keeping your speed slow will also help you maintain a good rhythm with your fingers and tongue. It takes some coordination to get that right, and going too quickly will almost certainly fuck it up.
That coordination is really important because varying your speed too frequently will make it harder for her to build up to a climax and get that earth-shattering orgasm you’re trying to give her.
Keep the Focus on Your Tongue
I’m not going to knock fingering. It feels fucking incredible. It’s all I need to get off, and plenty of women are the same.
But for most of us, the tongue wins out. It’s what gives us the best stimulation, and if we had to choose just one, it’s your face we’d want between our thighs.
So make sure you focus on licking her clit instead of whatever your fingers are doing. If you have to concentrate on one more than the other, it’s better to make sure your pussy eating is stellar.
Think of your fingers as playing a supporting role. They’re there for the extra stimulation, but it’s the oral that really counts.
And if you’re having trouble keeping everything going at once, it’s okay to just hold your fingers inside her while you eat her out. Sometimes it’s nice to just have fingers in there, even if it’s not what’s actually doing the work of getting me off.
Aim for Her Most Sensitive Spots
You can keep things simple and thrust your fingers in and out of her. That can be really good when combined with oral stimulation.
But if you want to take things up a notch, try to hit her most sensitive spots.
The obvious one is the G-spot. Curve your fingers upward (assuming she’s lying on her back) to hit that one.
If you curve them downward instead, you’ll hit her PS-spot, which is less celebrated but still feels fantastic.
And if you want to make her squirt, try making a rocking motion with your wrist so your fingers are tapping at her G-spot.
Find the Right Pace
When you’re working her with your mouth and your fingers, your instinct will probably be to keep them both going at the same pace. But that’s not necessarily what feels best.
Personally, I tend to prefer a soft, slow tongue combined with some slightly more aggressive fingering.
Your lady’s mileage may vary. But the great thing is that you can vary yours, too. Try out different combinations of speeds and intensities and see what gets the biggest reaction.
You might discover that she prefers a fast tongue and slow, gentle fingering. She might want you to suck her clit while your fingers slam into her G-spot. Or she might prefer everything to stay the same speed.
So, do a little exploring while you’re down there and find out what really gets her off.
Improve Your Foreplay
This move takes a little extra skill and talent to do really well, but that doesn’t mean you have to be a pro before trying it out.
Don’t wait until you’ve mastered pussy eating or learned how to finger her like a stud. Go ahead and use your fingers and mouth as soon as you feel like it.
Skill and technique are great, but doing it with enthusiasm and attentiveness is what really matters.
Plus, getting really good at this takes practice, and there’s no better way to get more experienced.
So, the next time you’re going down on her, be a little ambitious. Get your fingers involved at the same time and make her come really fucking hard.
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If you liked this article, you should totally check out the Glory Glory Holelujah (Glory Holes, Reverse Glory Holes, and the Glory Box) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!
