10 Blowjob Techniques Not for the Faint of Heart
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I thought I knew how to give a blowjob. Then I started taking them a lot more seriously.
Blowjobs were never my strong suit. Before I started giving head, the thought of putting a dick in my mouth made me nervous. Once the first one made its way past my lips, I loved knowing I was the dirty girl who gave her boyfriend a little something extra.
But after that initial thrill was gone, it just became a thing I did. It wasn’t out of obligation, exactly - though I did feel bad when I got my pussy eaten and didn’t blow in return.
Mostly, I gave head to be generous. I wanted to give pleasure in whatever ways I could.
I wasn’t into the blowjobs themselves, though. I wasn’t sucking dick for funsies, you know?
So when my long-term relationship turned into a settled one, I gradually gave up on it completely. I used my hands and pussy to pleasure my husband, but my mouth was just for moaning.
Years later, I had a complete change of attitude. I didn’t just open up to the idea of giving head again - I got turned on by it.
It was partly because my relationship was in a good place and our spark was coming back. Mostly, it was because I had been writing erotica and it helped me see how arousing and satisfying giving a good blowjob could be.
Taking his cock in my mouth again made me realize that it could be fun, that it could be extremely hot — and that I didn’t really know what I was doing.
Saying I was rusty would be an understatement.
I wanted to get better at it - I had a lot of years to make up for. But I hadn’t started blowing dildos yet. I didn’t even have one to practice on at the time.
I’d have to learn the old fashioned way: by watching porn and sucking my husband’s dick.
There were some trials and a few errors, but mostly it went well. I could tell I was getting better with every week that went by. I learned new techniques, figured out which ones worked really well, and found out that it can pay to imitate the things you see Verified Amateurs do on Pornhub.
I could tell the difference in the way Mr. Austin reacted, too. The better I got, the deeper and longer he moaned. He praised me more eagerly. He started saying really dirty things to me while stroking my hair.
Every time, I felt like I was earning my good girl badge. All the positive feedback he gave me was so arousing and rewarding. That alone made me want to keep improving.
That was over two years ago. I’ve had lots more practice since then, learned a thing or two, and started using a few moves that I found too intimidating at first.
If you want to give your partner some decent head, you can give his cock a few licks and bob your head on it. That’s basic, but it’s still good. I got by on it for years with zero complaints.
But if you want to suck his cock so well he groans your name, these are the techniques you should start working into your blowjob.
Tease Him
Everything’s better when you’re horny.
Arousal supercharges you with energy. You feel warm all over. Even the sun seems brighter.
But horniness isn’t a black and white thing. It’s not as simple as either being aroused or not. Arousal is a spectrum.
My husband and I like to rank it on a scale from one to five - five being so horny we’ll do things we’re ashamed to admit we want.
The higher you can get him on that horny scale, the better everything will be for him.
So, make sure you build his arousal by teasing him. Slowly undo his pants. Touch his cock through his underwear. Tell him what you want to do once you pull them down and his cock springs out at you. Give his shaft wispy little flicks with your tongue.
If you take your time and get him up there, he’ll be less inhibited. That means he’s more likely to talk dirty and make all the encouraging sounds you’re dying to hear.
But more importantly, it will make your mouth feel even better. The more arousal he feels, the more sensitive his cock will be.
Getting him really worked up will also give him a better orgasm.
Women tend to talk about orgasms like we have a buffet of them available to us. There are clitoral orgasms and G-spot orgasms. Nipple orgasms and blended orgasms. Weak ones and ones that leave our legs shaking. Orgasms that relieve tension and those that blow our minds.
I’ve personally identified twelve that I can experience, but I’m sure there are more.
Men, though, tend to talk about coming - plain and simple. But that’s not all they can experience. They can have weaker orgasms or stronger ones. They can come in a way that feels tense and almost forced, or they can have a release that feels relaxed and blissful. They have orgasms they recover from almost immediately and those that leave them breathing hard and feeling half-delirious.
You can make him come with your mouth whether you tease him or not. But if you take the time to arouse him, you’ll increase his chances of hitting a really good climax.
Alternate Between Your Hands and Mouth
Nothing feels as good as your mouth does, but your hands can do things your lips and tongue can’t.
Keeping your hands in the game is going to give him a more varied experience, which will make for a better blowjob overall.
Give him a few quick strokes between sucks. Rub his cock lovingly before taking it in your mouth again. Jerk him off while you lick his balls.
He’ll appreciate every single moment of it.
It will also give you an opportunity to make eye contact or talk dirty to him.
And it’s a good way to give your mouth a much needed break. My jaw gets sore fairly quickly when I give head. If I was going hands-free, I’d have to tap out early. Working my hands into it means I can go a lot longer.
Stimulate His Frenulum
The first time I gave a blowjob, I had no idea that some parts of the cock were more sensitive than others.
When we talk about women’s bodies, we usually focus on the most stimulating parts. The G-spot gets a lot of attention and even people who can’t find the clit know they should be looking for it.
But we usually talk about men’s cocks like it’s all the same from base to tip.
It’s not. You can give some pleasure to the shaft but it’s usually the least sensitive part of the dick, especially when you’re not applying much pressure.
The head is the most responsive part of the cock. But if you want to get really specific, the corona is where you can give your guy some serious pleasure. That’s the edge of the head, where it curves in and meets with the shaft. It’s also the part you’re pleasuring the most when you’re pumping him in and out of your mouth.
The part you really should know about, though, is the frenulum. It’s a small triangular patch on the underside of the head. It’s sometimes removed during circumcision, but guys who have theirs say it’s the most sensitive and stimulating part of their dick.
It’s easy to miss it when you’re just blowing him willy nilly, so make sure you give it some pleasure. Flick the tip of your tongue against it, lap your soft tongue at the underside of his head, drag your wet lips across it — and watch him lose his mind.
Give It a Good Suck
I don’t actually spend a whole lot of my dick sucking time actually sucking on a dick.
I’ll bring it in and out of my mouth, letting my lips do the work. I’ll kiss and lick it all over. But actual suction is something I use very sparingly.
That’s partly because sucking for so long can really tire a gal out. But it’s also because it can be really intense on the receiving end.
Suction means pressure, and pressure heightens the stimulation.
You should definitely work some of it into your blowjob, because he will most certainly appreciate it. It’s a surefire way to make him groan with pleasure, especially if you’re pumping his cock into your mouth while sucking hard.
But think of it more like an escalating move.
Do it to get him closer to the end. Do it to give him some strong sensations that leave him wanting more. Do it to make him come if that’s how he likes to finish.
But don’t feel the need to suck from start to finish.
Do the Washing Machine
My favorite blowjob technique is the washing machine.
After I’ve licked my husband’s cock like an ice cream cone, pumped it into my mouth a few times, and played around with it for a while, I usually break out this move.
It involves taking his dick into your mouth, resting it between your lips, and swirling your tongue around the head.
Your tongue does the work of stimulating the sensitive parts of his cock, while your mouth gives him all the warmth and wetness that make blowjobs so special.
When I’m feeling really confident, I’ll throw a bit of head bobbing while I’m doing it. It’s trickier, but it makes me feel like a blowjob queen when I pull it off.
Go as Deep as You Can
I’ve never managed to deepthroat anyone, but I wish I could.
I find it totally admirable when I watch porn performers making cocks disappear deep into their throats like it was completely effortless.
Except it’s not effortless. Deepthroating is not as easy as it seems, and I know that because I’ve only ever managed to take a few inches in.
If you have deepthroating skills, use them. Give him that deep, deep suction so many guys fantasize about.
If you’re still practicing but haven’t quite managed it yet, you can use throat numbing sprays to help you get past your gag reflex.
But you don’t have to go all the way. Because I’ve never managed to take it balls-deep, I like to challenge myself instead. I’ll show off for him by trying to take his cock as far as I comfortably can - especially if he’s watching.
Going deep is one of those things where you most definitely get points for effort, so just see how far you can go and feel proud for every inch you manage.
Invite Him to Fuck Your Mouth
I was never into the idea of getting facefucked because I’m really turned off gagging or choking on a dick. I’m a sexual submissive, but not that kind of sexual submissive.
But then one night I got a little lazy. I was in a tricky blowjob position that was putting too much strain on my neck. I didn’t want to tap out just yet, though, so I pulled on my husband’s thighs until he got the idea and took over. He gently fucked my face and I got to enjoy his dick in my mouth without having to make myself sore.
That taught me that there are great ways to get facefucked that don’t involve your throat whatsoever.
The simplest way is to wrap your hand around the base of your partner’s cock to create a kind of bumper that regulates his depth.
If you fully trust your partner, you can do what I do and simply ask him not to go too far. My husband knows to stay shallow, so he only fucks me with the head of his cock and about one more inch of his shaft.
Getting facefucked is a very submissive act, so it’s especially appealing to the more dominant guys. I swear my dommy husband gets even more physical pleasure from fucking my face than he does from having me go to town on him with my mouth.
It also lets your guy go as fast as he wants. He can fuck your mouth softly and slowly or he can give quick, shallow thrusts. Whatever gets him off or turns him on the most.
Just the fact that you’re asking him to do it is going to be really hot. Telling him you want him to fuck your mouth is such a dirty request that it will fire up his desire and make his cock twitch.
And if you want to make it even more stimulating for him, you can whale his cock. Stick your tongue out of your mouth while he’s fucking it. His frenulum will rub against it as he thrusts between your lips, which is going to give him a damn good time.
Switch Up the Sensations
You don’t want the blowjob to last forever, and neither does he. But neither of you want the fun to be over too quickly, either.
If you want to give him some really fuckin good, Grade A head, he should have enough time to really sink in and enjoy it.
So, vary the sensations you’re giving him, especially at the start of the blowjob when you’re not ready to make him come yet.
Give him soft licks, quick sucks, slow tongue swirls, soft slurps, teasing laps, or fast and aggressive bobbing. Whatever you do, just mix it up to prolong his pleasure.
It’s going to make sucking his cock a whole lot more interesting, and all that buildup is going to make his orgasm even stronger at the end.
Decide Where He’s Going to Come
If you’re finishing him off with your mouth, things are going to get messy. That’s part of the fun, but you have to decide exactly what kind of mess you want.
It really doesn’t matter where he gets to come, but you should make that decision ahead of time so you can be prepared when he’s about to blow.
Are you going to be a good girl and swallow the whole thing?
Are you going to be a dirty girl and let him spunk all over your face?
Are you going to be a sloppy girl and drool his jizz out of your mouth?
Are you going to be a sweet girl and get him to splatter it all over your gorgeous tits?
Or are you a practical girl who’s going to finish him off with your hand, letting his come run all over your fingers and down your wrist?
What matters the most is that you react to it eagerly. So, make sure to pick a finish that you’ll genuinely enjoy.
Be Super Enthusiastic
Sex is partly physical and partly mental. That includes blowjobs.
When someone eats me out, I don’t just want to feel their tongue on my clit. I want to know that they love to lick my pussy.
He’s going to feel the same way about getting head.
If you want to give him an amazing time, you have to show him that you’re having one too.
Don’t just suck his dick - suck it with enthusiasm.
Moan while he’s in your mouth.
Grin or giggle when you get an unexpected reaction out of him.
Throw in a little dirty talk and playful encouragement.
It helps to watch his reactions. That way, you can enjoy how powerful you feel with his dick in your mouth. Seriously. I consider myself very sexually submissive, but I feel like I’m in complete control of his pleasure when my lips are wrapped around him.
If you have a bit of trouble getting into it, I recommend flooding yourself with amateur videos. There are plenty of women on porn sites who give beautiful and legitimately inspirational head. Watching them do it with passion, joy, and playfulness is what taught me to love giving blowjobs, and it’s a great way to get yourself in the mood to do it with gusto.
Using flavored lube helps, too. The taste makes sucking dick more fun and the extra wetness makes it easier. Some are better than others, though. I personally have never been let down by the Jo Gelato and Candy Shop lines.
And make sure you’re not doing more than you want to.
Giving a great blowjob doesn’t mean stepping out of your comfort zone. If you can’t handle deepthroating, don’t do it. If he’s too girthy for you to suck him comfortably, don’t go for endless marathon sessions (and maybe use your hands and tongue more than your mouth). If you’re icked out by come, don’t take it in your mouth or on your face.
Yeah, the blowjob is technically for him. But always suck him off in a way you can enjoy, because he’s going to want to feel your enjoyment just as much as you do.
A (Blow)job Well Done
There are ways to make a blowjob easier or have it end more quickly.
You could softly slurp it until you’re bored and ask him to eat your pussy instead.
Or you could figure out his favorite finishing move and use it to make him come in record time.
That’s more or less how I used to approach blowjobs.
That changed after I fell in love with giving head. I discovered that there’s pleasure in a job well done.
I started incorporating new moves, going harder, and blowing longer. Using these techniques made sucking cock less easy, but it also made it a much more playful and a bigger turn on than it’s ever been.
Giving an elaborate, enthusiastic, and highly stimulating blowjob is not for the faint of heart. But it’s absolutely worth it.
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If you liked this article, definitely check out the The One With All the Blowjobs (From Our First to Emma’s Fantasy Blowjobs) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!
