Everything You Need to Know About Sex and Phimosis
How phimosis will affect your sex life and what to do about it
I was so flustered that I didn’t even notice there was something weird about his dick.
My heart started beating faster as I undid his pants. I pulled out his cock and wrapped my hand around its hard shaft. I could barely manage to say a word.
It was our first time meeting in person. We had been flirting and getting to know each other online. I knew there was a good chance I’d end up touching his package that night, but it still felt sudden and made me nervous.
I took in the shape of his hard-on, its length, and its thickness. I stroked it and felt the softness of the skin covering his shaft.
I was lost in a jumble of thoughts. I wanted to kiss him. I wanted to do other things with his cock.
I didn’t even notice how tight his foreskin was.
It should’ve been obvious. When I got to play with his dick again, there was no denying that his foreskin was a lot tighter than I knew foreskins could be. It completely encased his cock, wrapping it tightly and bunching up at the tip of the head.
No matter how I stroked it, it wouldn’t retract.
I didn’t know anything about phimosis back then. Fucking him became my crash course in the condition.
First, I got a lot of first-hand knowledge by playing with his cock more than any other I had touched before.
Then, I started doing some research. I was in a long-term relationship with this guy and his dick, so I figured I should learn more about it.
That’s how I came across the name for his condition. I learned that it’s unusual but not as uncommon as I imagined. I didn’t find any concrete numbers on it, but quite a few people seemed to have trouble retracting their foreskins.
I learned that there were different levels of phimosis. Some foreskins only had a pinprick-sized opening at the end. Others could be pulled back about halfway.
I could only pull my boyfriend’s back a bit — more than a pinprick, but not by much.
His cock stayed hidden away, permanently encased in his foreskin. He had never seen the head of his dick and had no idea what sex would feel like without a layer of skin in the way.
I settled down with him and we got married. His phimosis became a defining feature of my sex life — it’s the dick I’m committed to.
When I started writing about sex, it was only a matter of time before I explored in detail what that foreskin meant to me and what role it played in the way we had sex.
There’s a funny thing that happens when you start writing regularly enough. You let go of all your assumptions about what people want to read. The articles you think will be surefire hits don’t always get as much traffic as you expected them to. And some of the articles you’re convinced only a few people would want to read end up doing numbers.
That’s what happened with my phimosis article. I wrote it from the heart even though I wasn’t sure there was much of an audience for it. Maybe a few people with phimosis would find it and be curious about what I had to say.
I was right about them finding my piece. But I was wrong in thinking that there would only be a few of them.
It’s one of the most popular topics I’ve covered. And it’s by far the one that has generated the most correspondence.
A few times a week, I’ll get emails from guys with phimosis or DMs from girls who are dating someone who has it. They all have questions they can’t find answers to and are hoping I have them.
I can only speak from personal experience, but here are the questions I get the most often and the best answers I have to them.
Can I Have Sex With Phimosis?
Yep. Lots and lots of sex.
A lot of young guys are really worried about this one, but it’s really not an issue.
You don’t actually need to unsheathe the foreskin to have sex. Penetration will happen just fine even with all that skin in the way — just like having sex with a condom is no problem.
Same with handjobs and blowjobs. It’s not difficult to give either to a dick that has phimosis.
The only difference might be your level of sensitivity. Because the head of your cock is more sensitive than your foreskin, having it completely covered during sex might make it feel less stimulating.
It might also make it harder for you to finish. You might last longer because of it, which doesn’t have to be a problem unless it results in severe delayed ejaculation, which can be tricky to manage in itself.
Otherwise, no, there’s no issue. My husband has had different levels of phimosis over the years and it has never once prevented us from having any kind of sex. It shouldn’t cause any problems for you, either.
Will Sex Be Painful?
This is another one that young guys fret over.
I get why — if you pull back on your tight foreskin hard enough, it’s going to get uncomfortable. Do it long enough and it’s going to hurt.
But sex isn’t going to be like that at all.
An uncut cock without phimosis might retract from a soft stroke, from a gentle blowjob, or from penetrative sex. But none of those things will force your foreskin back further than it can go comfortably and easily.
You won’t even feel a tug at all — just your cock sliding into your partner almost effortlessly.
And a handjob would only ever hurt if your partner is extremely and unusually aggressive — in which case, you need to ask them to go a lot softer.
If you can masturbate without pain, sex won’t be a problem. Same with using a stroker — if you can use one without discomfort you’ll be okay even if you bang away hard and fast.
If anything ever feels uncomfortable, you probably just need to use some lube to reduce the friction.
If that doesn’t do the trick and it’s still painful, you might have to speak to your doctor about your condition and see what they recommend. But every single case of phimosis sex I’ve heard of has been pain-free.
Will My Girlfriend Be Weirded Out By It?
Maybe, but probably not as much as you imagine.
A dick with phimosis is probably something she doesn’t expect, even if she’s fairly experienced.
But it’s also not super weird. It’s just a tighter foreskin. Your dick still works basically the same way. She can stroke you lovingly, suck you off enthusiastically, and you can fuck her just as well as if you were unsheathed.
You probably won’t even have to make any accommodations during sex. It’ll just proceed as it normally would.
So, if she does find it odd, it’s probably something she’ll get used to very quickly. I know I did.
If you’re really worried about a future partner’s reaction, the best way to deal with it is to talk to them about it ahead of time. Let them know before you have sex that your foreskin is a little different, that it’s tight and doesn’t unsheathe completely, but that you can still do all the usual stuff with it.
If she’s caught off-guard by your sheathed cock, she might have a confused or knee-jerk response. If she knows what to expect, though, there shouldn’t be any issue at all.
Can We Still Get Pregnant?
You most certainly can. I did — four times. And it happened before my husband took serious steps or made any real progress in dealing with his phimosis.
How you’ll get your partner pregnant, though, depends on how your phimosis has affected your sex life.
If you can come from having sex, you won’t have any problems. Just have sex, finish inside your gal, and do all the other things you should do to increase your odds of getting pregnant and you’ll be good to go.
If your foreskin is tight enough that some of your come gets trapped under it, you might have to squeeze and push it out after you finish and then push your cock back inside her.
The real complication is if the phimosis has made you a severe delayed ejaculator or made you develop death grip.
That’s my husband’s situation. To this day, he has never been able to come from sex. The only reliable way he can get himself off is with his hand or by using strokers.
If that’s your situation, knocking up your partner will be trickier but it won’t be impossible.
What worked for us is having my husband fuck me until I was ready — right when I was nearing my last orgasm.
He would pull out and jerk himself off until he was just on the verge of coming. Right at the final stroke, he would slide his cock back in and come inside me.
Once he was done, I’d get myself off for that final climax, cross my fingers, and hope for the best.
It was kind of awkward and sometimes felt a bit mechanical. But trying for a baby sometimes does.
And it worked, because it doesn’t matter how you get your spunk in her — all that matters is that you do.
What About Hygiene?
Most of the basic dick hygiene advice starts with pulling back the foreskin.
If you can still retract your foreskin when you’re soft, then you won’t have any problems with staying clean.
If you can’t, though, you’ll have to find another way to wash up.
The best way is to do it during a shower. Use your fingers to stretch the opening of your foreskin as much as you can and let it fill with water. Then, rub the head of your cock to swish the water around and clean everything under the hood.
You can use soap if you want to. Just make sure you’re not using too much or doing it too often because doing that can cause irritation.
The best thing you can do, though, is to work on curing your phimosis. If you can at least pull back the foreskin when you’re soft, taking care of your hygiene is going to be a lot easier.
Is There a Cure for Phimosis?
There is most certainly a cure for phimosis. In fact, there are two.
The most obvious one is circumcision. Get rid of your foreskin (or part of it) and you’ll get rid of the phimosis along with it.
The other one is stretching exercises. Stretching your foreskin and tugging it back for at least ten minutes a few times a day will eventually start to loosen the foreskin and make it easier to pull it back.
There are also two things you can use to help you stretch yourself out.
The first are phimosis stretching kits. These are soft silicone rings that you can slip into the opening in your foreskin. They basically do the stretching for you so you can go about your business instead of pulling at your foreskin all day.
(Phimosis stretching rings / Photo by author)
My husband stretched manually for a while but eventually upgraded to the rings. They made it easier for him to be consistent.
You can also use a steroid cream to help speed things along. Rubbing it into your foreskin before stretching should give you better results. You might be able to find an over-the-counter option but they’re weaker than the creams your doctor could prescribe you.
Do I Need to Get Circumcised?
This one’s entirely up to you.
Stretching your foreskin should work perfectly well. There’s no procedure involved or any recovery time to deal with. And you get to keep your foreskin, too, which you might prefer.
But stretching is a very slow and lengthy process. Exactly how long it takes will depend on how tight your foreskin is and how girthy your dick is.
It could be a while before you see any significant progress, especially if you’re thick and tight.
It took my husband a couple of months of stretching before he managed to completely unsheathe while he was soft. He got to see the head of his cock for the first time but still couldn’t stay unsheathed for sex or masturbation.
He’s getting close now. He can’t pull his foreskin all the way back when he’s hard, but he can sometimes manage to pull it back, get hard, and stay unsheathed — at least for a while.
It took him over a year to make it this far and might take a few more months to get all the way there.
So, that’s the major downside to choosing the stretching option. Unless you only have a minor case of phimosis, it will involve a lot of time and patience.
If you want to deal with your phimosis much more quickly, don’t mind the surgical procedure, or have tried and failed to stretch your way to a looser foreskin, there’s nothing wrong with opting for a circumcision.
Keep Enjoying Yourself
Not a lot of people know about phimosis, but it’s not an incredibly rare condition. Lots of guys deal with it, even if very few of them talk about it.
It’s also not something to be too upset or worried over. It can be inconvenient, it can reduce some of the stimulation you get from sex, but it’s still something you can manage.
Unless you’re going to schedule a circumcision, start stretching your foreskin a few times a day. And make sure you have some high-quality lube to make sex easier and more pleasurable.
Sex is still going to feel good. You can still get lots of enjoyment out of handjobs and blowjobs. And you can still get your partner pregnant if you want to.
Work on your phimosis, but don’t let it hold you back. Keep enjoying your dick and all the things it can do.
If you want to see my husband’s phimosis cock in action, it features in some of my porn videos. Check out my JustForFans page to see me pleasuring and getting pleasured by it!
And if you want to hear more discussions of phimosis, listen to the All About My Husband’s Dick (Phimosis, Delayed Ejaculation, and Death Grip) episode of my podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin.
