I Used a Sex Toy on My Husband for the First Time (Tenga Egg Review)

Let me say up front that the Tenga Egg is the first sex toy I ever bought to use on my husband. It was his first time having a sex toy used on him, too.

It’s kind of weird that it took this long for us to try one. I’ve been masturbating for more than twenty years now, and I started using toys from the very beginning. Literal toys at first (thanks for the memories, Care Bears) and vibrators when I got older. 

It’s masturbating with my fingers that’s new to me. I only started doing it this year and only occasionally (it’s a mindfulness exercise, but one that doesn’t bore me to tears).

I was with Mr. Austin the first time I bought a sex toy. Very early in our relationship, we went to a local sex shop to look for something fun to try. I walked out with a vibrator and I’ve bought quite a few ever since.

But over the fifteen years since I bought my first toy, we never bought one for Mr. Austin.

For a long time, it didn’t even occur to me. Any sex shop we stepped foot in had dildos and vibrators prominently displayed on walls and under glass countertops. I saw plenty of toys designed for vulvas, but I can’t remember ever seeing a single sex toy designed to stimulate a cock. And every time I walked in, the owner of our local shop tried to sell me on some expensive vibrator or other, but he never once tried to pitch anything to Mr. Austin.

As far as I knew, the only sex toys for people with penises were cockrings and novelty blowup dolls.

The Wonderful World of Sleeves

I’m not exactly sure when I heard about pocket pussies, but it was a few years into my marriage. 

I had some serious struggles with my libido at the time, so I frequently joked with Mr. Austin that he should buy himself a Fleshlight. That way, he’d have something to fuck while my sex drive was out of commission. 

I was teasing him, but I was also perfectly serious. Fucking a Fleshlight just made perfect sense to me. When I can’t or don’t want to have sex but I still want to get off, I use a sex toy. When Mr. Austin can’t have sex, why shouldn’t he do the same?

He had a negative reaction to the idea of using one. He wasn’t upset that I suggested it, just kind of uncomfortable at the thought of using one. It was like he didn’t even want to consider it.

That baffled me. I thought they looked cool and I assumed they would be fun to use. If I had a cock, I would definitely stick mine in one, and I kind of hoped he would buy one just so I could try fingering it.

I couldn’t get Mr. Austin interested, but I stayed fascinated. I really wanted to see them in action, and since I didn’t have a partner who was keen on getting one, I looked for porn that featured them. 

Watching men use not just Fleshlights but all sorts of different sex sleeves and strokers was really cool - and a real turn-on.

Then I came across a video that just fucking sold me on the whole thing.

It featured a woman using a pocket pussy on her partner. She held her partner’s cock and pressed the opening on the tip of it. Seeing the way the toy’s lubed up lips parted as it slowly eased onto his head made the material seem so soft. 

I gave the video my full attention, watching her stroke his shaft with it, listening to his groans and her gentle encouraging moans.

It was really fucking hot. It also helped me see sleeves in a whole new light. These weren’t just really cool masturbatory aids - they could also be good to use as a couple.

I still wanted Mr. Austin to get a sleeve so I could touch it and watch him use it. But now I wanted to fuck him with it, too.

My Husband’s First Sex Toy

The way I got heart eyes over watching people use sleeves changed my husband’s mind about them.

Like me, he had never thought of them as a toy he could use with a partner. In fact, he kind of figured that I wouldn’t want to use it on him and that the appeal for me was pure novelty. 

He still felt a bit weird about the whole idea, but he was open-minded enough to do a bit of research. After reading about other men’s experiences with them, he was sold.

We did some online shopping and looked at several options. I really liked the Fleshlight because of its soft fleshy look and solid handle. But I didn’t want to invest about a hundred bucks in a toy I wasn’t sure my husband would even enjoy. Mr. Austin’s got a pretty insensitive cock due to phimosis, so for all I knew, he wouldn’t get much stimulation from a sleeve.

Some of the affordable options looked cheap. Some were from sketchy online sellers. But we finally settled on the Tenga Egg. Tenga’s a big name in the sleeve game and the Eggs looked cool. They kind of look like Kinder Surprise eggs (but for your cock). We chose the Misty model, whose interior is lined with several little bumps.

Each of the eggs cost less than $10, so even if it turned out to be a disappointment, that wouldn’t be a big deal.

They’re disposable (they wear down after use), but what makes them even more affordable is that you can usually get more than one use out of them. Most users online say they’ll get about four or five uses out of a single Egg. So far, we’ve used it three times and it’s still in good shape.

Until I physically got my hands on it, I didn’t really understand how the Egg would work. It’s made from thermoplastic elastomer (TPE), which is not a material I had any experience with. In pictures, I could see that the egg was like a soft, shallow cup with a textured interior. I figured it just slid over the head of the cock and allowed you to stimulate the head by stroking through the toy or gyrating it.

The night the Tenga Egg came in the mail, I had Mr Austin undress and lay across the bed. I sat next to him and poured the water-based lube that came with the Egg into its opening. 

I held Mr. Austin’s erection with one hand worked the Egg on the head of his cock with the other. For a few moments, I only managed to spread lube on him, but then I got the toy to slide over his head and cover it.

I started with slow, short strokes. But I soon realized I hadn’t understood the full potential of this toy. It wasn’t just a soft toy for stimulating the head of his dick - it was really elastic, too.

Watching the Egg at work was just fascinating. Stretching it out and seeing it cover most of his shaft was nice, and I could see his head through the sleeve when it was pulled all the way down. 

I could also feel the ribs and bumps from the outside. It gave me a bit of an idea to what was happening to his cock inside that rubbery toy. 

Stroking him with the Egg was really easy and comfortable. The soft texture gave a really nice tactile sensation.

I tried a few different things. I alternated between short and long strokes. I rubbed it around the head to focus on the most sensitive parts of his cock. And I also managed to grip the toy with my thumb and index finger while wrapping my other fingers around his bare shaft to give him a combination sleeve stroke and handjob.

After playing with it for a while, I took it off him and jerked him off bare-handed. Then, we proceeded to some more sex play with another toy (that one was for me, though). 

When we were done, we laid together and talked about the whole experience. I had a lot of fun with the Egg, and Mr. Austin’s moans gave me a verbal thumbs-up throughout, but I wanted still wanted details.

He told me he was pleasantly surprised that the toy provided a bit of suction at times, especially with short, shallow strokes. And when I stretched it down, he said it felt like my hand was covering my entire cock, not just the bottom of his shaft where my fingers actually were. 

I wanted to know if it was similar to a blowjob or penetrative sex. After some thinking, he told me it felt a bit more like my pussy than my mouth (except that it wasn’t warm), but that it didn’t really compare perfectly to either of them. It’s not like a better handjob or a worse blowjob - it’s more like a completely new sensation. 

I got curious about using the Egg alone, so the next day, I turned it inside out, slipped my fingers into the opening, and stroked myself with the exposed bumps. It was gave a nice, soft stimulation to my lips and clit.

Mr. Austin had a go at it alone, too. Well, kind of alone - I was watching. Watching him use it was quite a sight. I couldn’t take my eyes off him when he finished in it. Seeing the Egg stretched down to reveal his load of come trapped in the toy was a very arousing sight.

Adding to Our Repertoire

The Tenga Egg was our first sleeve toy, but it won’t be the only one. I’ve already got my eye on a few others and I can’t wait to try them out. 

It’s cute and compact. It was very easy and comfortable to use. And the low price made it a perfect choice for a first sleeve for a couple who had never tried one before.

Introducing a sleeve gave us a new way to play and introduced a different kind of stimulation to the mix.

It’s really nice from the giving end, too. It’s not necessarily more fun than stroking a bare, lubed up cock, but it’s a good way to switch things up, keep things interesting, and it allows me to use different techniques. 

There’s no shame in experimenting and trying new things, and it’s kind of a bummer that a lot of people either don’t know much about these great toys or don’t really think of them as toys that can be used in couples play (that’s why I prefer calling them sleeves or strokers instead of masturbators). 

I’ve heard from a lot of people who don’t want to try a stroker because they’d rather have “the real thing.” If anyone’s not comfortable using them, that’s fine, but no one should be confusing these toys with some kind of sex substitute. They work really well for switching things up and introducing new sensations and textures, whether you’re alone or with a partner.

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