Your Porn Search Terms Reveal a Lot About You

What’s your favorite thing to type into the search bar?

When I first signed up for Adult Time, I felt as bewildered as I did when I first got Netflix.

The database was so vast and organized in a way that wasn’t familiar to me. I was eager to start watching but I had no idea where to even start.

Typing in my credit card information had given me access to a huge treasure trove of porn. And there were so many different ways to navigate it. Before I got my bearings, the safest bet was the search bar.

I stared at the blinking cursor for a few seconds and then typed the first word that came to my mind.

“Babysitter.”

That narrowed it down considerably.

There was still tons of content with a lot of variety, but now there was at least a theme.

There were videos of naughty babysitters being taught a lesson. There were bored babysitters seducing the dad who hired them. There were babysitters getting seduced by the lady of the house. There were babysitters who are caught masturbating on the job — and I’m sure you can imagine what happens next.

There were series with names like Babysitter Auditions and Don’t Tell My Wife I Assfucked the Babysitter.

With one word, I turned a site with porn for everyone into a site with porn that felt like it was designed to cater just to me.

Porn search terms are extremely useful, but they’re also highly revealing. Your search terms say a lot about what turns you on, what you fantasize about, what you desire, and what you find fulfilling and satisfying. Dig deep enough and they might even point to something in your sexual history and your formative sexual experiences.

It’s a big part of who we are, but most of us guard our search terms very closely.

I completely get that. I used to keep them to myself, too. I learned how to delete my browser history because I was worried my husband would find out what kind of porn I looked for.

That had to change, but not because I became super sexually enlightened or got rid of the shame. It happened because I started blogging about it.

There was no point in deleting my search history and keeping hushed about it when my husband was just going to read my articles anyway.

I probably would’ve never let that pussy out of the bag if it wasn’t for that, but I’m really glad I did.

At the very least, it has made it a lot easier to watch porn together. We can suggest things we actually want to watch, without worrying about being judged. All of our cards are already on the table anyway.

We can also share porn subscriptions without having to go out of our way to cover our tracks.

But the best part is that it led to some incredibly productive and surprisingly deep conversations.

Revealing my search terms gave me the opportunity to really dig down and figure out why certain things turned me on so much. It helped me put the kind of sex I want into words. It even clued me in to some kinks and turn-ons I didn’t know I had.

My Porn Search Terms

The search terms I use are based on my mood. They might be influenced by something I just saw or read. Other times, it’s just an urge or a whim that I can’t trace to anything in particular.

But there are a few recurring ones. These are the ones I use very regularly.

Anal

Of all the search terms I use, anal is the steadiest and most reliable one. I’ll click on anal porn more quickly than I’ll click on anything else.

It’s also the one that I have the least explanation for.

It doesn’t exactly reflect the way I fuck. I love some good anal action as much as the next gal, but it’s not something I do very often. I have to be in the mood for it, and the mood only strikes me once in a blue moon.

I suppose it always turned me on because it was such a taboo act. If I was curious about sex, I was doubly curious about anal.

It was also the kind of thing that only dirty girls did - and only really dirty girls enjoyed. That’s definitely part of the appeal. There’s a part of me that always wanted to be a dirty girl. Now, there’s an even bigger part of me that wants to fool around with dirty girls.

It’s very aesthetically pleasing, too. There’s just something about watching a cock slide into such a tight space that I find visually stimulating. There’s also usually plenty of lube to make things slick and wet, which completes the picture very nicely.

And as much as I love and fantasize about hard anal pounding, anal action usually starts off very slowly and deliberately. Watching the head of the cock find its position against a woman’s asshole, seeing it slowly eased into it, and those brief moments of motionless rest while she gets used to the sensation is completely mesmerizing. There’s a sensuality to it that I find very arousing.

Edging

I’ve logged a lot of hours watching men edge women.

I love it no matter how it’s accomplished. It can be with fingers, vibrators and wands, or even feathers and makeup brushes. All that matters is that she’s brought to the verge of an orgasm and he stops the stimulation right when she’s about to come.

Edging videos focus squarely on a woman’s pleasure, which is one of the reasons I can’t get enough of them.

You get to see a woman’s pleasure building up, her anticipation mounting, and then squirming in frustration when she doesn’t get the payoff her body expects.

And then you watch it happen all over again. And again. Until she finally gets a body-shaking climax that always looks mindblowing.

There’s also a palpable sense of desire. Every time a woman gets edged, you can watch her get more and more aroused. Her skin gets flush, her hips thrust with increasing desperation, and her moans start to sound like pleading.

I can’t help but get turned on when I’m watching someone get so extremely horny.

Even though my focus is on the ladies, it’s not just about them. I really like seeing women in submissive positions, but I also get hot for the men who know how to take charge.

That’s exactly what you get from an edging scenario. The man in the scene is always in control — her pleasure is at his mercy.

Proper edging also requires the kind of qualities I would look for in a dom.

It’s a long process and takes some amount of patience. It’s also a selfless act, since it’s all about her pleasure. And it takes a lot of attentiveness to watch her nonverbal cues and pull away just when she’s so close to her orgasm she can taste it, but not so close that she can actually reach it. Those traits make the male performers in edging scenes extremely attractive.

First Time

It might be the middle in me, but I absolutely get off on first time experiences.

I’m not turned on by actual deflowering videos. There is at least one porn site that caters to people with that kink, but I find it too clinical for my taste.

What I’m looking for are roleplay scenarios where a naive woman gets to experience sex for the first time.

It could be the nerdy college girl who was always too busy with books to do anything with boys. It can be a woman nervously confessing to her boyfriend that she’s an adult virgin. All that matters is that she’s kind of naive and I get to watch her have her mind blown in real time.

There’s usually a focus on her being overwhelmed with pleasure, shocked by how good everything feels, and tapping into a side of herself she might not have known existed.

It doesn’t have to be someone losing their virginity (though I’ll admit those are usually the best videos). I’ll take any kind of first time experience if it shows a lady getting off in a new way.

One of my favorite porn scenes was an anal virgin video. Sadly, I can’t find it anymore, but it depicted a woman deciding to give her ass to her husband for the first time.

She’s not reluctant, exactly, but she’s very clearly doing it for him. As the action gets going, her attitude completely changes. Her initial discomfort washes away and she becomes amazed at just how great it feels to have her ass fucked.

That moment of discovery, that transformative experience — that’s the kind of thing that populates so many of my sexual fantasies.

It’s also the reason I’m drawn to scenarios of women seducing straight girls. It might not be their first time having sex, but it’s their first time doing something they didn’t expect to enjoy. And that hits a few of my buttons.

Massage

I love massage porn for quasi-sensory reasons. I can vicariously enjoy the tactile sensations depicted on the screen.

I don’t feel the warm massage oil against my body. I can’t feel the slick skin rubbing and running across slick skin. There’s no way to feel hands firmly gripping and kneading the tension out of my muscles. But watching it happen on screen helps me imagine it very vividly.

It’s also slow and sensual. It often ends with all the usual fingering, sucking, and fucking you’d expect from porn - except the performers are usually slick and oiled up by then. But it’s the lead-up that sells it. The massages make exquisite foreplay. It’s pure relaxation and steadily building anticipation.

That slowness also reminds me of the shy girl process I go through when I’m horny. Breathing heavier as the massage gets more erotic. The soft moans of relaxation gradually turning into deep moans of arousal. Slowly spreading your legs and just hoping something happens.

You get to watch it all unfold. And best of all, it culminates in an elaborate happy ending.

Sleeping

There are a few different types of sleep porn. But the videos I personally enjoy the most feature a woman pretending to sleep while someone comes in and has their way with her.

They’ll fondle and caress her body, discreetly undress her, and play with her pussy softly and slowly. It’s all about exploring her body without doing anything that would disturb or wake her.

Usually, she’ll wake up about halfway through and at that point it turns into your usual hardcore sex scene. But everything before that has an air of quiet intimacy that I’m really drawn to.

It also plays into my fantasy of letting go and not being in control of the situation. I don’t actually enjoy sleep sex, but when I dream of someone fondling me and touching me in my sleep I can at least let go of any hesitations I normally have. I don’t have to worry about being seen as a bad girl. I don’t have to be self-conscious about my performance. I can literally lie there and enjoy it.

I’m also really into the idea of temptation and forbidden lust. That’s why I’m especially into sleepover scenarios where a friend’s hot older brother, the woman’s own stepbrother, or a dirty uncle sneaks into the room and starts to play with her body. She pretends to sleep because she knows she’s not supposed to want him to touch her (I mean, he’s her pervy step-uncle!) but she can’t resist it. By not waking up, she can allow it to continue without feeling ashamed for enjoying it.

It’s even better when the camera focuses on the subtle signs of pleasure that she can’t contain. The way her hand grips the sheet. How she slowly shifts her legs apart. The heaving breath in her chest. The barely-contained look of ecstasy on her face.

That’s the good stuff.

My Porn Search Phrases

I use search terms when I’m looking for specific sexual activities or scenarios. But often what I’m really looking for is a dynamic between two (or more) performers.

Using search terms to find those can be an uphill battle. I have much better luck when I use search phrases or even full sentences.

Instead of “edging” I might type in “He edges her until she comes.” That way, I avoid all the solo edging porn out there, which is fine and all but I prefer edging as a two-player game. And the pronouns help me cut through the male edging content out there. I can see the appeal of it, but it’s just not my bag, baby.

Searching for “babysitter” is highly reliable. It turns up plenty of different dynamics and I love most of them. But sometimes I’ll give my fingers a real workout and type “Babysitter caught being naughty daddy teaches her a lesson.”

That way, I don’t just get a babysitter scenario. I get a babysitter scenario with playful humiliation. And that’s another way for me to give my fingers a good workout.

If I want to hone in on the kind of virgin scenarios I get off to, I’ll type something like “First time role play it feels so good.” That way, there are no painful deflowerings, no wincing discomfort, none of that stuff. Just pure pleasure and sexual awakenings.

It’s the same with backdoor play. I’m extremely anal about my anal porn. I won’t just watch anything, and I can’t get off to a video that doesn’t depict it as a pleasurable activity. I’ll stop watching a video if it looks like the performer is faking her enjoyment, if her stomach is tensed up the entire time instead of relaxed, and I won’t even hover my cursor over a video labeled “painal.”

Searching for “She loves anal” or “First time anal she loves it” helps me find positive anal experiences. Those are the only kinds I want to have, and they’re the only ones I want to watch.

Search Term Shame

My search terms change a bit over time. Some are steady and have stayed with me for as long as I’ve been horny online. Others are more fleeting - it’s whatever I’m curious about this month. But they all feel special to me.

Sharing them with people I’m close to makes perfect sense to me now. Or at the very least, I wouldn’t deliberately hide them.

But there are lots of reasons why people would want to keep their search terms to themselves.

For one thing, divulging them is incredibly vulnerable. You’re not just admitting to having watched a porn scene. It’s even more personal than confessing that you masturbated to something. It’s revealing the things that turn you on the most, your biggest fantasies, your favorite kinks.

Sharing your search term is opening up in a way that most of us only do rarely and with select few people.

Sometimes, people hold their search terms close to their chests because they don’t really know why they find their favorite porn appealing.

Years ago, I wasn’t exactly sure why I kept watching stepsiblings fuck. All I knew is that it made me very horny. I worried about my husband seeing my search history because I didn’t know how to explain what I felt on a subverbal level — that it’s not actually about violations or sex in the family, it’s about irresistible temptation and intense desire.

Other times, you know exactly why you’re looking for a certain kind of porn, but you know those reasons won’t be reflected in your search terms.

There are so many people who feel revulsion at the idea of daddy porn, like it’s catering to women who wish they could fuck their fathers. But most of us aren’t typing in “daddy” because we’re looking for actual dads. It’s more about seeing hot mature men who are attentive, caring, and dominant with their costars.

And then there’s the fact that each of your search terms is a key to your sexuality — but someone could use it to open the wrong door.

Your boyfriend might not get that your search history is flooded with lesbian porn because you’re really into watching women go through multiple orgasms and having their pussies eaten - not because you secretly wish you could fuck a woman.

My thing for sleep porn isn’t indication that I want to be woken up with sex. I don’t. I’ve tried it, and it was more distressing than arousing.

And there are lots of women who are into consensual non-consent porn. But it’s not because we’d love to be assaulted or want our partners to force themselves on us. For me, anyway, it’s a reliable way to see certain dynamics that turn me on.

So, I get why so many people keep their porn search terms to themselves or curate the ones they choose to share. But it can be a really useful shortcut to getting to know someone better. It’s a great conversation starter for couples. And it’s just nice not to feel weird about what you’re typing in the search bar.

It’s perfectly fine to keep it to yourself, of course. If you want more privacy, that’s great. But feeling undeserved shame sucks. Your porn search terms are part of who you are, and you should use them with pride. Own what turns you on.

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